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#1 EssentialBludger

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:34 PM

Yes, another housework thread!

We spent the day at adventure world today. It was 36 degrees. I'm so burnt (despite sunscreen), got a bee sting, have blistered, burnt feet from hot gravel and no shoes, and killer thigh muscles from damn peddle boats.

My kitchen is an absolute disgrace, but I cannot physically move. I'm trying to tell myself "it will still be there tomorrow" but it's not working!

Can you relax around mess? Or are my OCD senses just tingling?

#2 bakesgirls

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:37 PM

If I were in the same state as you right now, I'd just turn off the light so I couldn't see it wink.gif Out of sight, out of mind and all that...

#3 Super Cat

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:37 PM

To be honest, I had to learn to. It used to be impossible, but the past three years have been so hectic I just had to get used to mess. I still hate it though.

#4 unicorn

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:38 PM

When the rest of the house is too much to deal with we hang out in our bedroom, I keep it tidy for that reason. The kids can be found curled up in the bed with me with their various iPods, ebooks or whatever just relaxing and ignoring the rest of it.

#5 KatakaGeoGirl

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:39 PM

Depends on the 'mess'. If it is grotty mess (ie dirty kitchen stuff) we have to do it immediately - except for perhaps a mug in the sink from late night drink. Otherwise I couldn't relax no...

There are certain jobs I MUST do every morning without fail before I go anywhere - kitty litter, feed cats, sweep/and/or vac floor downstairs, dishes away, tidy over kitchen, empty kitchen bin. If all those are done then I can relax. I tend not to attend to the bedrooms as I should though... something has to give. But I do deal with grotty mess before I can relax!



#6 busymum01

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:40 PM

QUOTE
No, I can't relax around mess. I'm often not relaxed:P


lol love it! As long as my kitchen is clean, all is good with the world.

#7 Bart.

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:42 PM

QUOTE (Rawr @ 22/01/2013, 11:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No, I can't relax around mess. I'm often not relaxed:P

As above.

#8 SCARFACE CLAW

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:45 PM

Nope, cannot relax in the evening until the house has been vacuumed, toys put away, general tidying done, and kitchen clean. I also find it difficult to get up in the morning if I know I'm getting up to a mess.

#9 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:46 PM

I try to stick to making sure the bed is made when I get out of it and that dishes are done or in the d/w before I go to bed. If I do these two then anything else that isn't done doesn't really bother me.

#10 bailee

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:47 PM

QUOTE (Rawr @ 22/01/2013, 11:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No, I can't relax around mess. I'm often not relaxed:P

That was going to be my response word for word.

#11 FearsomeFeralFreak

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:47 PM

No I can't. Mess makes me feel anxious.

Yes, I know that that makes me a freak....

#12 Justaduck

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:47 PM

If it is clutter mess yes, if it is unhygenic mess (dirty dishes) no

#13 skylark

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:50 PM

I can't really relax if the place is a mess or dirty, I will do a whip around the house before sitting down, always put shopping away straight away, laundry has to be sorted and put away straight away etc etc. I have a recurring chronic fatique-y type condition and during those times the house can get less under control and I find it makes the whole experience even more unpleasant. I do all I can to keep the place clean and tidy as it really reflects on my state of mind, and my husband works from home a lot of the time and we both find it is so much easier to work in a clean and orderly space.

#14 mini mac

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:52 PM

QUOTE (Super Cat @ 22/01/2013, 08:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
To be honest, I had to learn to. It used to be impossible, but the past three years have been so hectic I just had to get used to mess. I still hate it though.


This. I am working on not worrying about it so much and focus more on 'life' is general than an immaculate house. I do still like a clean kitchen for the morning.

#15 EssentialBludger

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:54 PM

It is unfortunately dirty dishes mess. sad.gif mainly Just dinner dishes and leftovers from our picnic lunch. We even have a dishwasher, so it probably wouldnt even take long to clean, but I'm in so much pain.

I forgot to add the bee sting is on my ass. blush.gif

Edited by EssentialBludger, 22 January 2013 - 11:02 PM.


#16 B.feral3

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:57 PM

Another who can't go to bed with the place a mess. I can't study if the place is a mess either. I have to have floors, kitchen, bedrooms etc all done before I can comfortably hit the books.

#17 ~THE~MAGICIAN~

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:57 PM

I can't relax. Especially where the kitchen is concerned and ants at the moment everywhere!

OP - How is your kitchen such a mess if you've been out all day? Did you go out an leave it like that?

I can't leave in the morning for a day out if I haven't done at least the kitchen, made the beds and hung out any washing. There is nothing worse than coming home to a mess after a day out and having to clean up.

I also can't go to bed without cleaning the kitchen and turning the dishwasher on. Only if I am really sick, But OP it sounds like you've had a big day, so have a cool shower and go to bed and do it all in the morning!



#18 SylviaPlath

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:58 PM

I quickly ran into DS room (he is 16 months) while DH read books to him in the lounge so I could sort out all his food toys into their proper basket/container.IE: Fruit and veggies in one basket, pastries in another. Made sure all the cups, bowls were placed correctly in the toy kitchen cupboard and the magnetic bird and cooking spatulas were hung up on his little kitchen wall. So effectively, it needed to look like how my kitchen would be before I go to bed.    

Now, I already know tomorrow he will just dump it all over the floor, mix the foods all up, but the thought of not being able to get into his room later to clean up his room/kitchen just really bothered me. So no OP , you are not alone!
But if you can just close your eyes and forget about it, then do. It will certainly be there tomorrow!

#19 EssentialBludger

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:01 PM

QUOTE
OP - How is your kitchen such a mess if you've been out all day? Did you go out an leave it like that?


Yep. ph34r.gif It bugged me all day!

We slept in until 8.45, and had to be out the door at 9.30 as we were meeting friends.

#20 rocketsurgeon

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:04 PM

No, I really don't like mess. We renovated recently and the whole 3 months felt like torture and may have ended in divorce if it took any longer, I just couldn't relax and felt anxious constantly.  I like everything  in its place and the house clean. Like a pp said, there's nothing worse than coming home to a messy house.

#21 ~THE~MAGICIAN~

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:04 PM

Oh well these things happen. Maybe just rinse them all, throw any food scraps in the bin so to avoid ants and cochroaches and that will do.



#22 Frenchgirl

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:05 PM

I am one of these people who cannot even get into a unmade bed.... So no I cannot relax when the place is a tip. Kitchen has to be perfectly clean before bed. However in your situation I may just let it go one night!

#23 Expelliarmus

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:08 PM

I am a slovenly tart and will sit amongst mess far longer than is needful.

#24 ~THE~MAGICIAN~

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:08 PM

I can't get into an unmade bed either!



#25 Lim Lam

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:12 PM

yep i can, easy peasy




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