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#1 podg

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:12 PM

I've got a bee in my bonnet at the moment.

Our 2 year old has the wrong name. She is called Miriam, Milly for short. Over time and as her personality has begun to show up, both DH and I have become less and less keen on it. She is loud, enthusiastic, physical, determined, with a fantastic zest for life, great sense of humour and heaps of character. She is not sweet and mild, which is how I picture a Miriam.

For a day in hospital she was called Matilda. It would suit her down to the ground. I would love to call her Matilda (still Milly for short). It seems a much stronger name, which she could carry well.

(ETA: Mighty battler! What a perfect meaning!)

I'm daydreaming about changing her name.


We probably won't do it because of the bureaucratic hassle. I'd love someone to tell me it isn't too much of an issue...

Edited by podg, 22 January 2013 - 09:18 PM.

#2 B.feral3

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:18 PM

Miriam is a stunning name. You've done well. It's a combination of fresh, elegant and timeless all rolled into one. Matilda, was once these things but I now find it quite boring as it's been done to absolute death.

I think she will thank you for keeping her name as is. Her personality will change as she grows and you may regret the change.


Edited by Bek+3, 22 January 2013 - 09:20 PM.

#3 lizzzard

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:20 PM

It's not much more hassle than changing your name due to marriage. A friend of mine just changed her first name at the age of 35 because after all those years she was just tired of having  people mispronounce it. It wasn't that much of a problem. I say go ahead and do it - a bit of administrative hassle now is definitely worth it if its playing on your mind so much!!!

#4 Dionysus

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:21 PM

Quite honestly, I have known one Miriam and several Matildas.  My friend Miriam is exactly like you describe your DD.  At least one of the Matildas I know is quiet and sweet and mild. (the others are gregarious students)

I have no idea why you would choose to name your child something that (for you) resonates so strongly with a specific personality?

So, I don't think it matters in the end, particularly as you use the same nn anyway

#5 imamumto3

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:22 PM

I love Miriam.  how do you think your dd would handle having her name changed?

#6 CallMeFeral

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:23 PM

QUOTE (**Mel** @ 22/01/2013, 10:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have no idea why you would choose to name your child something that (for you) resonates so strongly with a specific personality?

All names, for me, have a bit of a personality about them. It's taken us AGES after the kids were born to figure out what would suit them!

#7 PatG

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:23 PM

I'd keep Miriam - anyone who knows her will come to associate the name with the attributes your daughter has.  My thoughts on Miriam are spunky and independent!  And she's Milly anyway.....

#8 AnnBB

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:24 PM

To be honest, I think changing the name of a 2 year old is a terrible idea.

#9 BetteBoop

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:25 PM

By the sounds of it, she goes by Milly anyway so the name change is for you.

But if it bothers you, change it. At age 2, it involves filling out one form with Births, Deaths and Marriages.

#10 belinda1976

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:27 PM

If you call her Milly all the time, I would just keep it as Miriam.  If you never actually call her by that name (or anyone else for that matter) then I wouldn't bother.

#11 Peppery

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:32 PM

At the age of 2, I just couldn't change my child's name especially based on personality traits.
I think Miriam is a lovely name.

#12 epl0822

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:34 PM

It wouldn't matter so much if she was two months old and felt no association to the name. But two? I wouldn't change her name unless she decided herself she wants to change it. There are lots of people who always go by nicknames, or only use their middle names and so on. If you already have a nickname you use then why not continue?

#13 MuddlePuddle

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:35 PM

If you are going to change it, just change it to Milly. If you call her that, just change it legally to Milly!

#14 axiomae

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:39 PM

Agree with Jaysby2! Why not just Milly?

#15 la di dah

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:44 PM

I have never known a sweet and mild quiet little Miriam. Only brassy/wild young ones or tough/fiesty old ones. One of it's meanings is "rebellion" actually!

#16 schnookaberg

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:53 PM

I associate Matilda with a quiet, smart bookworm from an unfortunate family thanks to Roald Dahl

#17 RockyV

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:59 PM

If I changed any of my children's names at 2, they would have ended up being called a profanity. Their personalities at 2 and then by 10 can change distinctly. I had one or two hellbent, crying meltdown terrors who are now quietly spoken shy children and vice versa.

Leave it and let her decide when she's older - her nickname is her main used name anyway.

Good luck!

#18 Imaginary friend

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:18 PM

I think you should leave it as is.

#19 janeway

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:28 PM

My ex went ahead & started calling dd1 his favourite name from our short list while I was recovering from the emergency cesarean...it's not the name I would have liked for her based on what she looked like, but I think it's a big deal to change a name (and was in no condition to argue at the time) so I left it & just used a nickname, though always was a little sad she didn't have the name I really wanted her to have.

She is 11 now and LOVES her name (more than her baby/toddler nickname which we don't really use anymore) so I'm glad I never pursued changing it, she might not have liked the other choice. Since your daughter is 2 I would be hesitant to change her name & just keep using her nickname.

#20 Gudrun

Posted 23 January 2013 - 01:18 AM

1.  If you would be calling her Milly the same as you do now, what would be the point of changing the legal name if it's about personality?   That's one of the main roles of a NN, to reflect personality.

2.  I'd consider a change if it was the other way round because I adore Miriam and I really don't love Matilda. But I would never have chosen Matilda in the first place.

3. Probably irrelevant for you but I love the NN Mim for Miriam; full of spunk!

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#21 mau.sharmin

Posted 24 January 2013 - 12:00 AM

if u change her name, for the rest of her life when she fills out forms that ask she will have to state that her name was miriam too.

her name is lovely by the way. it might just feel funny cos u always call her by her nickname. ive got the same thing. it feels weird when someone calls me by my real name.

#22 Alina0210

Posted 24 January 2013 - 12:13 AM

Yep go for it... if you u call her Milly, its not much of a change other than formalities...

#23 Betty_D

Posted 24 January 2013 - 10:42 AM

I wouldn't change my child's name at age 2 simply because I had pre-conceived notions of the personality traits of their name.
I would expect that, over time, you will start to associate your DD's personality with the name Miriam.

And FWIW, I would choose Miriam over Matilda any day. Gorgeous name.

#24 Bluenomi

Posted 24 January 2013 - 11:13 AM

What does she think? I know my 2 year old would have issues with me changing her name, she knows what it is and changing it would confuse and upset her.

Plus personality traits are a silly reason to change a name, especially if you are basing them of other people, not the child in question

#25 alwayshappy

Posted 24 January 2013 - 01:04 PM

I'd change it, but only because I don't like Miriam at all.  I much prefer Matilda, which is perfect for the nickname Milly. I"m sure it wouldn't be too much hassle to change and she'd never know any different.

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