Jump to content

Is eating a chore for you?


  • Please log in to reply
27 replies to this topic

#1 erindiv

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:09 AM

I don't know why this is happening but I suppose my anxiety is to blame.

I just can't make myself eat. Sometimes I wonder how I'm still alive on the amount I have been eating in the last couple of months. I end up eating barely one full meal every few days, and it's mostly starchy bland stuff like bread, pasta, potato... This is all I can manage.

I know I have gotten into a habit. I don't even want chocolate anymore. I get hungry, sure, I get starving, but I look in my pantry and my stomach turns at the thought of eating anything in there. I have dropped 3.5kg in the last 3 weeks, a lot when you take into account the fact I don't exercise at all (except for housework).

I'm getting indigestion constantly, stomach pains, dizziness, tiredness but can't sleep. This is all from not eating. I know it's bad. I don't want to lose weight, I'm not deliberately starving myself, I just can't eat.

I'm not underweight for my height yet, but is still can't be good for me. So far today all I have managed to eat is a salads and a slice of cheese. It made me hungrier, but there's nothing else I want. I just can't clear the fog in my brain to think of something to eat.

I don't know how to approach is. I know it's all in my head but I don't know how to get it out.

#2 raven74

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:16 AM

You need to see your GP for a start and get checked out and a referral for a cousellor or go and see a phych/counsellor etc off your back.  Have you had an eating disorder before?  You may be well on the way to developing one now if you are not careful.
Good luck.

#3 Illiterati

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:18 AM

I forget to eat or am just too busy or would rather work through lunch so I can leave a bit earlier or just can't be bother because of the effort and mess. Often all I will have is coffee until dinner and then just eat the kids left overs.

Or just eat toast butter and vegimite with tea. Or chocolate.

But it sounds like this is new for you and so something else going on?

#4 Excentrique Feral

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:20 AM

OP, I really think you need to go and visit your GP about this, the sooner the better.

#5 erindiv

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:24 AM

I have never had an eating disorder before but I do tend to accidentally 'starve' myself in this way when my anxiety is at its worst, which is usually all through summer.

The potential for this to develop into a full blown eating disorder has started to freak me out. I looked in the mirror last night while starving and thought "Well, I do look good, maybe this isn't such a bad thing," then was immediately horrified that I could think like that. I have had fleeting thoughts of "If I start eating properly I'll put it all back on."

The other night I was hungry and felt like eating frozen peas. Got a bowl, went to the freezer, discovered we were out of peas. So I ate nothing. Even though I was starving. I find myself thinking WTF am I doing to myself?!

#6 Molondy

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:25 AM

GO TO THE DOCTOR TODAY.

(caps for emphasis not shouting)

Edited by Molondy, 22 January 2013 - 09:26 AM.


#7 erindiv

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:28 AM

But what can a doctor do? I have had counselling/medication for my anxiety before.

#8 zzgirl

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:29 AM

I suffer the same sort of feelings when I am anxious about something. eg. something kid health related.  I can't seem to 'eat' anything and I just stuff a couple of mouthfuls in my mouth and that's about all I can tolerate.  I can't even stand the thought of cooking when I get like this.  I really have to talk myself into and keep repeating positive thoughts in my head so I can get over the anxiety.    So I can relate to you totally.

However, once the worst of my anxiety passes, usually within a couple of days, I go back to normal.  

Definately get some help- don't let it get out of hand.  You need to be there for your kids - see your GP asap.   Talk to someone close to you about it too, if you can.

I suffer the same sort of feelings when I am anxious about something. eg. something kid health related.  I can't seem to 'eat' anything and I just stuff a couple of mouthfuls in my mouth and that's about all I can tolerate.  I can't even stand the thought of cooking when I get like this.  I really have to talk myself into and keep repeating positive thoughts in my head so I can get over the anxiety.    So I can relate to you totally.

However, once the worst of my anxiety passes, usually within a couple of days, I go back to normal.  

Definately get some help- don't let it get out of hand.  You need to be there for your kids - see your GP asap.   Talk to someone close to you about it too, if you can.

#9 zzgirl

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:31 AM

Sounds like you need a psychologist to help you with the 'self talk' in your head.  Maybe investigate that option.

#10 suline

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:35 AM

QUOTE
But what can a doctor do? I have had counselling/medication for my anxiety before.


A doctor can do plenty of things, not only do you need reassess your counselling/medication for your anxiety, but the GP may be able to assess you for a physical reason for loss of appetite, indigestion, stomach cramps etc.

You definitely need to get checked out.

#11 Illiterati

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:38 AM

That is a serious problem if you are hungry and not eating. And you have recognised those thought patterns to be concerning.  You have young children and you need to be healthy for them. Any obsession with food is not good for you or them and it will inevitably impact on them too.

#12 erindiv

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:45 AM

Is it true that your stomach 'shrinks' if you starve yourself? My mum used to say this when I was younger and the same thing would happen, she said "Your stomach has shrunk, you need to eat and stretch it again." I think it,s more habit than that but still.

#13 WhatWouldBuffyDo

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:45 AM

I get like this sometimes, mostly when it's really really hot. I could be really hungry but if nothing appeals to me, I'll just drink a bottle of water. A couple of times i have done this all day until dinner.

Most days all i eat is morning tea and then lunch just before i go and get the kids from school. DH (and our mates) do get a little concerned sometimes, especially as most days i weigh less than 50kg but i'm not worried because what i do eat, fills me up and it's mostly not junk food.

You should still go and see a GP, just in case it is something physical rather than (or in addition to) your anxiety.

ETA: I'm not sure if the shrinking stomach thing is real but it feels like it to me lol. I get full off a meal that my 3y/o would demolish and ask for dessert after.

Edited by WhatWouldBuffyDo, 22 January 2013 - 09:48 AM.


#14 Therese

Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:51 AM

I also think you need to go to the dr. They may not be able to do anything but they can refer you to people who can help you.

#15 steppy

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:01 AM

Yes your stomach can shrink. I would be getting some liquid food for starters and getting something into me quick smart. Starving your body is bad bad news. If eating is a chore then treat it like one - just something you have to do, and do it.

Edited by steppy, 22 January 2013 - 10:02 AM.


#16 credence

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:02 AM

I'm thinking your symptoms are a sign of something else, maybe depression or an eating disorder. Please go and see a GP today and get the help that you need.

Please take care xx

#17 erindiv

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:03 AM

I have continued to drink milk, usually in the form of Milo, but still. Skim milk (full fat upsets my stomach), about a cup per day. I'm planning to shop later and get some apples and carrots, they are strangely the only two things that are really appealing to me right now. Odd because I usually don't like fruit or raw veges.

#18 intrigued

Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:12 AM

Once you have established (with help of a GP etc) that there are no physical reasons, then I'd recommend seeing someone who looks at the psychological side of things..
I've had problems in the past with anxiety and that made me overeat / obsess to the point that I was constantly thinking about food and could not enjoy eating at all any more (even though I did still eat).

What helped me at the time was seeing a lady that did a mix of counselling, hypnotherapy and NLP. It helped me get to the bottom of my anxiety (which for me had nothing to do with food initially but family and other reasons, that might be totally different for you).
It is hard to explain 'how' exactly it worked, but after a few sessions I was so much more calm, relaxed and I thought about food less and less.
Worth a try.
Where do you live? I can PM you contact details...

#19 CallMeFeral

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:05 AM

Please do see your GP. If this is a new thing, it's a worry.

Eating used to be a chore for me for a long time - as a child I used to wish I could get the meal replacement tablets they give astronauts. Then I started eating a lot of junk food because that was less of a chore. One year I lived 90% on chocolate milk (was in college and food was crap). Now I'm trying to be healthy I end up skipping meals because I can't eat my junk food but can't be bothered fixing up something healthy. Most eating I do is actually boredom eating.

But... this is a lifelong thing, and has been sustainable if unhealthy.
Yours sounds like a new thing and you'd starve if it kept on. It needs to be addressed.

QUOTE (erindiv @ 22/01/2013, 10:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
But what can a doctor do? I have had counselling/medication for my anxiety before.


And did it work? Are you still on the meds? There's no 'quick fix' - clearly you are still suffering the anxiety, so still need treatment. Different treatment from what you had, if that didn't work - or more of what you had if it did.

And yes, go get your apples and carrots, do whatever it takes to find yourself stuff you can eat. Milk is fine but a cup isn't going to cut it for long.
And maybe grab some multivites so that even if you are short on food, your body is getting some of the stuff it needs from another source. Worst comes to worst, there are meal replacement drinks you can get, not sure if they taste nice but better than nothing because at least you can gulp them down and the chore is quicker!

Hope it improves OP.

#20 erindiv

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:10 AM

I used to drink a lot of meal replacement drinks in high school as being bullied there ramped up my anxiety and I couldn't eat for quite a while. I don't remember ever having a 'normal' eating pattern, I either under eat or over eat.

I was on paroxetine which made me suicidal. Counselling, bringing everything to the surface, made me even worse as it was like 'feeding' the anxiety.

Trying to nibble constantly today. Will shop later.

Thanks for all the advice.

#21 9ferals

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:22 AM

Definitely go shopping for anything that you feel like eating - what about some of those breakfast drinks like Up'n'go, at least you are getting a few nutrients in there.
Watermelon is my favourite thing at the moment, it's just so nice to have when it's hot and I'm not really hungry (though I'm usually hungry so I always have something else as well!)

I second all the suggestions to talk to your GP - firstly to make sure that there isn't anything physical going on (I knew I was sick when I couldn't eat chocolate years ago and it turned out that I had glandular fever) and next to ask for a referral to someone who can help with some strategies for dealing with your anxiety and the eating.

Good luck with the getting to the bottom of this, and well done for recognising that this isn't healthy and that you need to do something about it.

#22 raven74

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:30 AM

QUOTE
But what can a doctor do? I have had counselling/medication for my anxiety before.


This response alone ahould be a warning for you.  Your rationalisations for not eating etc are very alarming, and you are stepping on a very slippery slope. Go to a doctor and get it sorted.  You are not thinking clearly and need help to do so.


#23 NunSoFeral

Posted 22 January 2013 - 11:46 AM

Doctor Visit needed.
As other PP's have alluded - your thinking is not staight.
There may be something physiological that is triggering a psychological response which in turn drives your behaviour.
Or vice versa.
First step is GP for a full check up - bloods, etc - check for deficiencies in things such as B/iron, and abnormalities in things like thyroid
Referral to a psych to discuss your thinking regarding food - not eating when starving, your perception about looking good so maybe your behaviour is not a bad thing and your pre-existing anxiety and how that may be interferring with your cognition and behaviour.

That you posted this is a strong indication that you realise that your current thinking and behaviour patterns are out of character.

Act now, OP.

#24 scooter20

Posted 22 January 2013 - 01:29 PM

Go to the doc to get help. You may not think you need help but you do. So for nothing else go for the sake of your children.

#25 Alacritous~Andy

Posted 22 January 2013 - 02:47 PM

QUOTE (erindiv @ 22/01/2013, 11:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I used to drink a lot of meal replacement drinks in high school as being bullied there ramped up my anxiety and I couldn't eat for quite a while. I don't remember ever having a 'normal' eating pattern, I either under eat or over eat.

I was on paroxetine which made me suicidal. Counselling, bringing everything to the surface, made me even worse as it was like 'feeding' the anxiety.

Trying to nibble constantly today. Will shop later.

Thanks for all the advice.


Hi OP,

(usual EB disclaimer: this is not professional advice, just my opinion).

Anxiety and disordered eating (over or under eating) have a strong tendency to go hand in hand.  The hormones involved inour "flight or fight" reaction are also involved in digestion.  When we are in a flight or scenario, it makes sense that our body diverts resources away from "secondary" functions, like digestion, so that our body can focus on the important tasks (like staying alert, or getting the hell out of there). After all, it is much easier to concentrate on looking for danger, if you aren't looking for food.

In fact, they are so linked that changes in appetite, or significant weight change (up or down) are actually in the diagnostic criteria for anxiety disorder!  

Unfortunately, with anxiety, that flight or fight response is being triggered when it doesn't need to be. It becomes over-sensitive. It goes off when there is no real threat.  It is a bit like having a sprinkler fire-alarm that goes off every time you make toast.  Once the alarm is triggered, everything gets wet, even if there is no fire!  

At the moment, it sounds like that is what might be happening for you - your alarm is being triggered (your anxiety) and your body is trying to do the right thing by preparing for you to run (which results in suppressing your appetite).

It sounds like you may have had a bad reaction to a specific medication in the past.  The beauty is, that there are actually a whole range of anti-anxiety medications available.  Some in particular are especially good at helping with some of those digestion/appetite issues.  Sometimes, those drugs are even prescribed for things like irritable bowel syndrome (which is also strongly linked to stress/anxiety).

I know it can be hard to talk to a GP about anxiety, especially when you are in the thick of it.  When you are feeling overwhelmed, the thought of having to "explain yourself" to another person (or several) can just seem too hard.

But please do.  It will be worth it. I promise. original.gif




1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

Heartwarming prank gives single mum the house she was hired to clean

Cara Simmons arrived at work to clean a large and beautiful house in time for a party planned for that evening. It was soon hers.

Why we should stop telling new parents to 'enjoy every moment'

A few weeks ago, some dear friends of mine had their first baby. As the proud dad texted me a picture I had to fight the natural instinct to say “Enjoy every moment!”

Transgender dad breastfeeds his babies

A transgender man who breastfed his first baby - despite having his breasts removed as part of his transformation from female to male - has now had a second child.

Couple face $1 million medical bill and bankruptcy after babymoon birth

A Canadian couple were slammed with a million dollar medical bill after their daughter was prematurely during their babymoon.

Win one of 5 Little Tikes Cozy Coupe Sport

Australia?s No 1 selling car is now available in a Sports model and we have 5 to give away to some lucky Essential Baby families.

Cigarettes, junk food dominate supermarket sales growth

One in every five dollars spent at supermarkets goes on cigarettes or junk food, according to industry data.

Teacher under fire for breastfeeding in class

There is no doubt mums have a right to continue breastfeeding after they have returned to work, but one teacher in the US has taken it to the extreme.

Video: Baby sniffs beardless dad to make sure it's him

She looks him up and down and then touches his chin, but baby Lindsey still isn't sure this clean-shaven man is her dad.

The tragedy of losing a favourite teddy bear

We were green and uninitiated, perhaps a little naïve when it came to the favourite toy responsibility.

It's possible to workout while pregnant

Medical experts say intense fitness routines can be done safely during pregnancy - if the mums-to-be follow some guidelines.

Baby for Asher Keddie and Vincent Fantauzzo

Fans followed every step of her on-screen pregnancy in Offspring, now Asher Keddie is going to be a mum in real life too.

What parents really want for their kids

Are our hopes, dreams and expectations for our children what they really need?

'I had a feeling something was seriously wrong': the fight for Kaden's diagnosis

Before even giving birth, Katie Myers' maternal instincts warned her something was wrong with her baby.

When your pregnancy causes a relationship rift

Some dads-to-be don't miss a beat when their partner is pregnant; others struggle with a range of issues and can become withdrawn, right when their support is needed most.

Couple uses group photo trick to announce pregnancy to loved ones

Katharine and Kris Camilli devised a clever trick to immortalise their family and friends' reaction to their exciting pregnancy news.

Why Tracey Spicer has given up make-up

"After 30 years on television, I had become what I despised: a painted doll who spent an hour a day and close to $200 a week putting on a mask."

Empowering bikini photo of 46-year-old mum goes viral

When a group of teenagers made rude remarks about her body as she walked past them in a bikini at the local beach, Julie Cross refused to cover up.

Devastated widow discovers she's pregnant the day before husband's funeral

They had been trying to conceive a baby for seven years. Tragically Kristy Kirchner found out she was pregnant the day before her husband Royce's funeral.

Win a family pass to Disney Live!

We have 4 family passes to give away to see Disney Live! presents Three Classic Fairy Tales, touring Australia this December/January.

Gabriella Goat sues Peppa Pig

Every toddler's favourite television pig is being sued by an Italian woman who shares a name with a Peppa Pig character.

Meet the Mpregs, the male pregnancy enthusiasts

"Men can't have babies - that's something only women can do! But our community is full of like-minded people who wish otherwise."

Your new motherhood survival kit

Forget about the bright, pretty baby things - while you're in survival mode, all you'll need are the essentials.

More than 100,000 cars recalled globally after death of pregnant woman

The announcement of a mass recall comes as Malaysian police investigate the death of pregnant woman in July.

I had a 'good baby' but still suffered from postnatal depression

I had a much wanted precious baby girl, a 'good baby' who slept well, self settled and was mostly content. It just seemed implausible to think I could succumb to depression.

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

What's hot on EB

Win one of 5 Little Tikes Cozy Coupe Sport

Australia?s No 1 selling car is now available in a Sports model and we have 5 to give away to some lucky Essential Baby families.

Join PADDINGTON on the red carpet!

To celebrate the release of PADDINGTON, we are giving five lucky winners the chance to win a family pass to the exclusive Australian Premiere in Sydney on December 7!

Knowing you are one of the lucky ones

I am secure, confident and strong, but the responsibility of protecting my children can almost bring me undone.

Why I am so emotional now I have kids?

There are so many ways in which parenthood changes us as women, but one of the most noticeable, for me, has been the changing state of my emotions.

Baby survives despite sharing womb with 'foreign body'

Baby Maia was conceived against the odds, only to find she was sharing a womb with an ominous "foreign body".

Video: Baby shows dog how to jump - or vice versa

They say dog is man's best friend, but this playful pooch seems to have chosen a jumping baby as her number one buddy.

10 ways to soothe a crying baby

New paernts can get frustrated when their newborn gets fussy and can't settle down. When you're feeling overwhelmed, try some of these simple tips to help soothe your baby.

20 baby names that are becoming more popular every year

The data-lovers at nameberry.com have been at it again – this time, they’ve discovered the names that are continually rising up the ranks, ready to take out some top spots in the next few years.

10 great meals to make for new parents

Ideally, you want to give food that isn’t expensive to make, isn't too difficult to create, and freezes well; stews, bakes, soups and pasta sauces are perfect.

'It's not you, it's me': Boston bombing survivor mum to have leg amputated

Rebekah DiMartino is going through a break-up. She even wrote a farewell love letter. But it's not to her husband.

What it's like to go through early menopause

In a cruel twist, Carla had been breastfeeding and perimenopausal at the same time. But she's far from the only one to go through menopause early.

Restaurant served alcohol to two-year-old

Busy restaurants can be forgiven for getting food and drink orders mixed up from time to time, but not when the confusion leads to a two-year-old being served an alcoholic cocktail instead of the child-friendly beverage they ordered.

Julia Morris tells of miscarriage on a flight

Julia Morris has spoken about the devastation of suffering a miscarriage while on an international flight.

Woman's survival after birth 'a story of two miracles'

A US mother is home and tending to her new baby less than a month after surviving without a pulse for 45 minutes.

Eating ice may give mental boost to the iron deficient: study

A new study proposes that, like a strong cup of coffee, ice may give those with insufficient iron a much-needed mental boost.

Tiny lives in caring hands: Thank U NICU Day

Each year in Australia, over 40,000 newborns need the help of a special care nursery or neonatal intensive care unit. One day a year, the staff are honoured by the parents they help through those dark days.

I paid $50,000 to have a girl

This time my husband and I hadn't taken any chances. We had paid $50,000 and travelled 13,000 kilometres to make sure the baby growing inside me was female.

Weird pregnancy products

Some pregnancy products come to market and are just awesome. Others just leave you scratching your head.

Dear firstborn, I'm sorry

Being a first-time mum is tough for so many reasons – particularly because you really have no idea what you're doing.

A trace of sesame could kill my son

Helen Richardson son's had two anaphylactic reactions in a month. It's traumatic for everyone.

When you know before the test says yes

It wasn't a pregnancy test or missed period that told me I was pregnant with my second baby; it was too early for those things. A doner kebab told me I was going to be a mum again.

What not to do when your partner is in labour

Robbie Williams stole the show during his wife Ayda's labour, pretty much demonstrating everything on the "what not to do when your partner is in labour" list.

Best maternity swimwear and beach cover-ups

Thinking about a tropical babymoon but have nothing to wear? Here are some great swimwear and beach cover-up options for mums-to-be.

Dad breastfeeds his babies

Trevor Macdonald has now been pregnant twice, and is successfully breastfeeding his newest family member.

 

How many weeks til Christmas?

On your To-Do list

Get the "Santa" shopping done without the kids in tow.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.