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#1 butterflies

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:47 PM

DD#1 is nearly 12 and starting high school in over a week and was wondering when I would let her shave her legs and underarms (though only a few under there but long enough)

what age did you allow your DD to shave??

#2 Expelliarmus

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:49 PM

DD12 doesn't need my permission. I gave her a razor in the second half of last year and suggested she shave under her arms  for the dance concerts. She doesn't need my permission to start shaving her legs. She has the razor, she can if she wants.

So at what age did she start shaving - 12yo.

#3 Juki

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:54 PM

I don't have a daughter but I remember shaving in secret with Mum's razor when I was 11. I would have preferred permission and my own razor.

#4 erindiv

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:54 PM

I started shaving when I wanted to, not when I was 'allowed' to. Shaving isn't a bad thing so I don't see why it has to be forbidden until a certain age. I'll let DD shave her legs at 7 years old if she wants. She has really hairy legs already!

Just help her do it to get the hang of it.

#5 butterflies

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:55 PM

soooo you just gave her a razor and let her go for it??  you didn't go and show her what to do? or help her for the first time?? WOW!!




#6 erindiv

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:55 PM

I started shaving when I wanted to, not when I was 'allowed' to. Shaving isn't a bad thing so I don't see why it has to be forbidden until a certain age. I'll let DD shave her legs at 7 years old if she wants. She has really hairy legs already!

Just help her do it to get the hang of it.

#7 butterflies

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:55 PM

soooo you just gave her a razor and let her go for it??  you didn't go and show her what to do? or help her for the first time?? WOW!!




#8 mandarins

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:55 PM

i started shaving at 12 after asking my mum. I was given strict instructions to only shave up to my knee.

#9 butterflies

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:59 PM

so it sounds like I am the big bad mother that won't 'allow' my dd to shave her legs when I don't think she needs to???



oh well I should have known, only on EB!


thanks you to those who answered nicely




#10 zzgirl

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:05 PM

I am thinking 1st year high school.

Shaving legs is the least of my future hair removal issues to be discussed with my daughter - I don't want to think about the other stuff!!!

#11 teejay

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:09 PM

My dd shaved under her arms at about 11 as she dances and they were quite noticeable. At about 12 she became very self conscious of her legs and asked to shave them so I was happy for her to do them. She had been using her razor for under her arms but asked me to show her how to do her legs.

#12 erindiv

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:09 PM

QUOTE (butterflies @ 21/01/2013, 09:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
so it sounds like I am the big bad mother that won't 'allow' my dd to shave her legs when I don't think she needs to???



oh well I should have known, only on EB!


thanks you to those who answered nicely


I didn't see anyone answering nastily, but righto.

#13 Expelliarmus

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:10 PM

QUOTE (butterflies @ 21/01/2013, 09:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
soooo you just gave her a razor and let her go for it??  you didn't go and show her what to do? or help her for the first time?? WOW!!



QUOTE (butterflies @ 21/01/2013, 09:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
so it sounds like I am the big bad mother that won't 'allow' my dd to shave her legs when I don't think she needs to???



oh well I should have known, only on EB!


thanks you to those who answered nicely

OP, I think you are over reacting. I haven't been rude.

I never said you were a big bad mother. I said my DD doesn't need my permission.

If you really must know I offered to show her how to shave her armpits but she didn't want me to and then when she had ingrown hairs and shaving rash I helped her out with suggestions on how to manage it. No I didn't just 'give her the razor and let her go for it' I gave her shave gel as well.

I approached it much the same as feminine hygiene products. I supply the various types and she decides when and how she will use them. I don't think it's my place to decide what type or amount of personal care DD engages in. FWIW DD really likes the Venus razors with the built in spa things, she finds them the most comfortable and easiest to use.

#14 evek

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:15 PM

My daughter is almost 13 and shaves her armpits but not legs yet. Sh is blessed with fine blond hairs but I know she will soon ask as all her friends are starting to shave.  I am thinking of suggesting that she wax instead in the hope she can avoid the thick black stubble I have ended up with!

#15 butterflies

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:17 PM

Howdo you started you sentence with

QUOTE
DD12 doesn't need my permission


and then there was nothing about showing her how to do it, I should have just guessed that bit??

and then to end it

QUOTE
So at what age did she start shaving - 12yo.


so obvisouly you had a problem with my wording of the post and wanted to point that out first!!





#16 A.K.A

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:21 PM

I needed to shave around 11, for my own sanity. I think if a child has dark enough hair to want to shave early, get her started on waxing, better in the long run IMO.

#17 Angelot

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:24 PM

QUOTE (evek @ 21/01/2013, 10:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am thinking of suggesting that she wax instead in the hope she can avoid the thick black stubble I have ended up with!


I never used to shave my legs, and found that my fine blonde hair has also turned into thick black hair.  I suspect it's not the shaving that does it, but just part of hormonal change over time.

#18 epl0822

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:25 PM

OP what is your problem? Nobody here has been snarky to you. I personally believe a 12 year old is old enough to make certain decisions over her body, including whether she wants to shave or not. Why is shaving something a parent needs to forbid or permit?

QUOTE (butterflies @ 21/01/2013, 09:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
soooo  you just gave her a razor and let her go for it??  you didn't go and  show her what to do? or help her for the first time?? WOW!!

When I started shaving my legs I didn't want my mum to get involved (teenagers are sensitive over random stuff like that). In fact I was quite comfortable figuring it out myself. It's not rocket science, if your DD wants you to show her what to do, great, but geez, seriously, what is your problem? We're talking about shaving legs here, not learning how to drive while solving complex algorithms!

#19 mnmnm

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:26 PM

Not sure how old I was when I first tried it, but I sneakily took my mums razor and tried shaving my legs, as I had seen her do. Unfortunately my legs were dry and her razor was just a blade. A very painfull lesson! I will be sure to give my daughter a bit of  safety info when she is older and interested...

#20 IsolaBella

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:26 PM

I dry shaved once or twice at twelve, then saved up to get myself waxed.

I have very sparse hair as a result. Seriously these days I could tweezers my underarms (and do in a pinch).

When my DD wants hair removal I will be sending her in that direction.



#21 BadCat

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:27 PM

My nearly 14yo doesn't shave anything.  When she was about 13 I asked her if she wanted to.  She said no.  If she had asked earlier I would have let her do it sooner but would have discouraged it if I thought she was too young.  I'm pleased that she doesn't feel the need right now.  The longer she can ignore societal beauty dictates the better as far as I'm concerned.

Personally I didn't shave anything until I was about 18.  I was somewhat sporadic for a while then gave it up almost entirely in my 30s.

#22 ani1

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:31 PM

My DD12 is starting high school next week. I asked if she want to shave her legs , as she had not mentioned it yet, she said no. I said that's fine. She has fair blonde hair on her legs which you can't even see. So it's her choice. original.gif

Edited by ani1, 21 January 2013 - 09:33 PM.


#23 asdf89

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:37 PM

I started shaving my legs before year 8 - as I wanted to seem like a grown up high schooler Tounge1.gif I gave up frequent shaving soon after when I noticed most of the girls only had smooth legs the day of a school social (it was an all girls school)

Started shaving my underarms in... maybe year 6 as I was doing swimming lessons and was self conscious of the few stray hairs I had.

My mother didn't show me how to do it, it's pretty self explanatory, and I don't think it's possible to learn how to shave your legs without taking a few strips off every now and then. If you are going to show her, make sure you dispel the myth (already mentioned) that the more you shave, the thicker and darker your hair comes back. I monitored my leg hairs like a hawk, terrified of the day my blonde legs hairs would come up thick and black. Then I noticed my mum's were still blonde, and calmed down a bit (and mine are still blonde).

Edited by asdf89, 21 January 2013 - 09:40 PM.


#24 butterflies

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:40 PM

QUOTE
OP what is your problem?


my problem is that the first sentence was about how I worded my post, not answering the question, all howdo could have said was 'I didn't feel the need to give my child permission'  that is all

QUOTE
I personally believe a 12 year old is old enough to make certain decisions over her body, including whether she wants to shave or not. Why is shaving something a parent needs to forbid or permit?


Our DD's ask us for advice and are extremly open with what is going on with their bodies which is how we have taught them to be, not to lock them selves in a room and start shaving their legs!!  we discuss at length what would be the best option for htem, not the first time they suggest it, they can do it.

QUOTE
When I started shaving my legs I didn't want my mum to get involved (teenagers are sensitive over random stuff like that).


I am sorry that you didn't have an open relationship with your mother that you could discuss these things with her.

and also she is not a teenager, she is still 11 for a few more days and then will be 12.  and again we have taught not to be sensetive to things like that, be open and honest and discuss.



To the others

I was thinking of getting her legs waxed, she has very fine blonde leg hairs.  biggrin.gif

#25 Expelliarmus

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:41 PM

Holy Crap. Not much I can do if you're going to take offence at

'DD12 doesn't need my permission.'

vs.

'I didn't feel the need to give my child permission'

I wasn't thinking at all about how you worded your bloody post. I answered the freaking question 'at what age did you allow your DD to shave?'

She already has a frakking razor she doesn't need my permission because she already has a razor. What the hell is wrong with what I said?

Edited by howdo, 21 January 2013 - 09:46 PM.





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