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Natural mc or d&c?
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Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:56 PM
I had my 9 week scan this morning and found out that our little baby's heart has stopped beating. I am inconsolable - at 42 pregnancy is a real (and rare) gift. This happened to me at about the same time in my pregnancy 12 months ago and I really thought this time everything would be fine.
Last time I had a d&c as it was a 'missed' miscarriage. This time I have started spotting and have the option to let nature run its course or have a d&c later this week. My inclination is to have another d&c and just get it over and done with so I can start healing (mentally and physically) but am concerned about the risk of permanent damage from multiple d&c's. I would appreciate anyone's advice or experience from similar experiences.
My best wishes to everyone - hope everything goes well for you.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:33 PM
I am so sorry you lost bub Sassi x
I have had two miscarriages and have let both happen naturally but the bleeding went on for a few weeks with the second one so that was extra unpleasant.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:41 PM
Sorry for your loss. It is such a heartbreaking experience.
My miscarriage was at 7 weeks, but had stopped growing at 5.5. I let it happen naturally and it was mostly fine. There was only one day where the cramping was very painful and I was really incapacitated. I think it was the third day of bleeding. I bled for about a week all up and the other days were just like a normal period. In hindsight I should have taken some painkillers on that hard day. You'd want to be able to take a few days off work anyway, which is probably the best for your mental health in any case.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 03:28 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I recommend a d&c. I had a natural miscarriage afew months ago and it was excruciating. I bled for nearly 12wks. The bleeding started 2wks before I actually lost the first bub then it was another 2wks till i lost the second and the feeling of them passing out is something I'll never forget nor wish upon anyone. I wish I had been offered a d&c. In the days leading up to passing each bub I was in utter agony, I was writhing in pain and couldn't walk or even sit up most of the time. And because I bled for so long I ended up with a rash from having to wear pads so that long. There are pros and cons for both options but for me I'll never let it happen naturally again.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 03:38 PM
Firstly I am very sorry for your loss, it truly is heartbreaking too many angels in heaven.
D&C is surgery and there are risks associated to that, for me i would always opt for natural miscarriage. The biggest risk is getting Ashermans Syndrome this is where you have uterine scarring and it can affect your fertility and ability to have more children there is a link on my blog which takes you to a website explaining Ashermans Syndrome and the risks of mulitple D&Cs there is also a sticky at the top of the Miscarriage thread which was a thread a fellow EB member posted unfortunately due to multiple D&Cs she did suffer Ashermans it's not something you want to get
Edited by caroldiem, 21 January 2013 - 03:39 PM.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:20 PM
Dear Bell07, RCTP, hanz33, libbylou,choesmum2008 and caroldiem,
Thank you so much for your support at this really difficult time. It is not an easy decision and I really appreciate your advice and support.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:42 PM
I have had two mis-miscarrriages (one at 13 weeks, one at 9 weeks). I know what you are going through and I'm sorry for your loss. I had to have a d&c for both mine as I was not going to pass them naturally and I have had no problems or scaring, I'm now 11 weeks pg with everything looking fine (at 9 weeks, can't wait for the next scan to check everything is still ok). It is a very personal and hard choice, I hope it all works out for you.
Posted 22 January 2013 - 12:41 AM
Sassi: I am so sorry for you loss xxxx and the fact that you have to even have this decision xxx
I have had several M/C's and in the beginging mine were like yours where there was no heatbeat on ultrasound and on all occassions I have gone naturally..even on our latetest which was in dec 2011 and that was IVF and the nurse said that they now recomend that you just go natural...I was quiet suprised because 15 years ago when we first started having our M/C's they put you straight in and had a Dand C and I had to fight to wait and go natural Natural seemed complete then to me as horriable as it was .....
Thinking of you and be kind to you and DH xxxxx
Posted 22 January 2013 - 12:49 AM
OP, I'm very sorry for your loss.
When I had my M/C 15 years ago (I was 38yo back then) and no heart beat was detected at 7.5 weeks and slight bleeding, my dr advised me that it was better for the uterus to m/c naturally than to have a d&c. He said that it was less traumatic for the uterus and it would 'heal' faster than having a procedure to hasten the loss.
Again, I'm so very sorry. Take care
Posted 22 January 2013 - 01:13 AM
So sorry you have to go through this.
Fwiw, I let my bub go naturally at about 11 weeks. I had read in some magazine somewhere that a girl had almost been forced to do a d&c but the hospital relented. She had a natural miscarriage but it turned out that the u/s didn't pick up the second foetus, and had she had a d&c, her second bub would have been aborted needlessly along with the twin that had passed.
Hence, in vain hope, I went natural, but also to avoid the possibility of perforation of the uterus....i figured, if there were unexpelled products after going natural they could do the d&c then. It was absolutely excruciating, my dh stayed home with me and even though it was our first, he was compelled to say we didn't have to have any children if it meant that much pain for me ever again. Bless him : )
I wish you all the best whatever your decision.
Posted 22 January 2013 - 03:11 AM
Thank you to everyone who has posted
I know how hard it is to reflect on angel babies and truly appreciate you sharing what is such a heartbreaking and painful experience. Just knowing that I am not alone means so much.
As painful and uncomfortable as it is (here I am at 3am), I think nature's way is probably the best way for me on this occasion.
I wish you all the very best for beautiful healthy bubs.
Posted 23 January 2013 - 09:35 AM
So sorry for your loss.
I had 2 MC last year, the first one I had a d&c as I was in hospital and in far too much pain to go home. The 2nd one I wasn't as far along so decided to let nature do its job. I bled for about 2 weeks and passed many clots, so I thought it was over and done with. About 2 weeks later I started what I thought was AF returning. Within about 2 hours I had bled so much I was changing pads before I could even step out of the bathroom, turns out my body didn't naturally expel everything it should have and a lot of it was retained so I ended up having to have another d&c.
I wish you all the best.
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