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#1 MsFeralPerthFembo

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:27 AM


DD started LDC last August at 16months, and even though she was only going 1-2 days a week, she pretty much got sick every week until recently. I was warned it would happen so I was prepared for it, but I’ve heard from a few people that its not usually bad the subsequent years as they are now used to those particular germs.

I’m wondering how true that is, has that been your experience? Was the second/third year fine compared to first year getting sick all the time?

I will be going on maternity leave with # 2 in June and not sure whether to remove DD from care (she goes 2 days per week) or not….On one hand she really loves her centre, the other kids and her carers and it would mean I could spend more one on one time with new baby. But on the other hand I really don’t want her passing on illnesse/germs to our newborn!

There are plenty of vacancies in our area so I’m not worried about taking a place away from a working mum or not being able to get her in at a later date if needed.

Has anyone else kept their toddler in daycare while they were on parental leave?

#2 vanessa71

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:29 AM

I don't know, I think it might depend on the child. DS never got sick when he was in care.

#3 EsmeLennox

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:30 AM

It was for mine, and for several years after that. 2012 was a shocker for illness though, my boys all missed a lot of school with various bugs.

My toddlers did stay in care when I was on mat leave, but I had to keep them in to hold their place. I did reduce the number of days though, plus it was nice to have a bit of breathing space.

#4 ell80

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:40 AM

I kept my DS in daycare for 2 days whilst I was on Mat leave with DD.  I originally dropped him down to 1 day, but he wasn't coping very well (could have been the introduction of his sister too...) The daycare suggested I try 2 days per week for more consistancy and he did start really enjoying it again.

It gives you time to spend with the baby and do all those things like MHN appointments and shopping which can be hard with both a newborn and toddler. (DS was 20 months when DD was born)
Also, just time to meet a girlfriend for coffee or clean the house which you can't do with a toddler in tow.  Having 2 babies takes a lot more of your time than 1 so it's nice to have a break from both.

But you asked about sickness specifically.... My DD had a cold from the time she was 2 weeks old until 12 months old.  DS would bring them home from daycare and she would get them.  A CONTINUOUSLY snotty baby is a bit annoying... Harder for them to feed, boogers everywhere.. Never seemed to bother her, she's a tough little nugget - but I did feel sorry for her.  DS never had that problem as he wasn't around daycare germs for the first year of his life.

Now they are both in daycare and neither one gets sick very often (15 months & 3years) so I suppose the theory works...

#5 EBeditor

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:40 AM

I definitely found that to be the case. They only had a couple of sick days the following year and quite mild cases.

DS ha such a strong immune system when he started school that he only had 1 sick day the whole year (of course not all of that is down to daycare)

#6 msro82

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:48 AM

DD was sick from 6 months until around 2 years - essentially until they stop putting everything in their mouth and have reasonable hygiene (eg regularly washing hands).

DD is 5.5 and she didn't have any days off last year for contagious illnesses. Previous years after 2 it was the odd day here or there, maybe 3 in total!

#7 Grant Me Wings

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:49 AM

DS started daycare at 5ish months and had a lot of sickness (mostly in winter) between 1 and 2.

This winter has been heaps better (no hospital admissions) so I am hoping that he has built up the resistance now.

ETA: I am pregnant at the moment, and became a stay at home mum last year. I cut DS's hours but left him attending because he enjoys it. My plan is to have #2 attend from 6-9 months as well so I can have some one on one time with DS and a child free day for study.

Edited by WinterDancesHere, 21 January 2013 - 12:06 PM.

#8 Summer love

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:57 AM

Was true for us. 1st year in care (from 18 months), he was sick nearly all winter/spring. 2nd year in care (2.5yo) he was barely sick at all.

In saying that my friends LG who is the same age, and been
going to the same centre for the same amount of time, still seems to be sick all the time. She has lots of cousins, and kids in her family though and we have none, so not sure if that's why?

#9 lozoodle

Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:59 AM

Not sure, I think it will depend on the kid. I have had two kids at the same centre last year and one got much sicker than the other (3 trips to hospital).

The eldest is staying in this year as it is her final year before school and she is in the pre school room when I go on mat leave, but the 2 year old has been pulled out for the year and will return when I return to work. I'm not willing to risk another year like the one we have had when she could be at home with me.

Edited by lozoodle, 21 January 2013 - 12:00 PM.

#10 Chillax

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:08 PM

There's no doubt that if you keep your older child in daycare, your baby will get sick. A friend of mine kept her 2.5 yo son in 1 day after she had her DD and the DD was basically had a cold and cough from the day she came home. It was pretty awful
For the baby but my friend needed the break from her son wink.gif
The baby who is now 9 months old is still sick. Actually, her DS has been in child care for 18 months now and still gets sick. My theory is that some kids tend to get more stuff than others.
I think the theory that kids get less illnesses by the time their older is definitely true but not necessarily because they're in child care....my DD never went to childcare and once she started Kindy (pre-prep year) she never got sick. I think it's more related to age than anything...the older the child, the better the immune system.
Do what's best for you and your family and congrats on the new baby!!

#11 Ferelsmegz

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:09 PM

I dropped my DS's days to one.. but he was also in kindy 2 days a week at that stage.

#12 Bluenomi

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:18 PM

DD was a lot less sick her second year at daycare than her first.

#13 lynneyours

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:36 PM

Yes, DD's got sick (especially colds) all the time their first year, worse over winter.  

Last year was the second year and DD1 (4.5) had 0 days off ill, DD2 (2.10) had 2 days off ill.  They rarely get colds now.  They don't even get hand, foot and mouth anymore which is quite common at most daycare's.

That said - mine have never ever had gastro (touch wood) and both have only vomited once or twice each in their life, so maybe they just have strong immune systems.

Our house isn't super-clean.  They ate lots of dirt etc when babies.  I stopped sterilising stuff well before 5 months old, they were eating solids, and anything else by then, so I figured what was the point.

#14 Julie3Girls

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:48 PM

I think it really depends on a lot of things ... not a lot of help I know original.gif

My oldest didn't start care until she was 3.5yrs, and we never actually got the whole "getting sick all the time" with her.
DD2 on the other did get a sick a lot the first year - nothing serious, just colds, and it did seem to ease off in the second year.
DD3 was fine in her first year. It was actually her last year of preschool (older 2 at school) that she really got knocked around with illness - all 3 of them actually, one after the other continuously.

Depends on what your child is like (her own immunity, putting stuff in her mouth etc), the other kids in care with her (if they are sick a lot and passing stuff on), and what happens to be going around at the same time.

In regards to keeping them in care ...
I personally didn't. DD1 wasn't in care when DD2 was born.
When DD3 was born, I pulled DD2 out of care. And dropped DD1 from 3 days to 2 days a week of preschool (year before starting school)
I actually loved having them all at home, without having to do the whole daycare pickup/dropoff. I still got plenty of time in the evenings for one-on-one time with the baby, and I actually loved being home with them. Preschool days were actually a nuisance original.gif

#15 Holidayromp

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:50 PM

Nope that is not the case at all.  It can be several years before their immune system can fight the bugs.  DD1 was a daycare kid and she got sick year after year (nothing major a runny nose here and there) now at the age of 10 she rarely get sick.
DD2 has never been to daycare but during her first year of school she was more sick than not and had some days off even when she has already been exposed to her older sister and we expect that for a few years to come whilst her immune system is sorting itself out.

#16 Fright bat

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:58 PM

It was the case for us.

The two days a week meant the toddler brought home bugs and gave it to me and the baby, but the baby never got too sick (I'm sure breastfeeding helped) and now the baby isn't getting sick in childcare like his elder sibling did.

#17 soapy

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:04 PM

DD did get sick every week for the first 7 or so weeks of day care and then would only get sick every few weeks. Whenever I take her in winter there are so many snotty noses and coughs. She hasn't been sick at all this summer and I am hoping for less sickness next winter.

#18 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:16 PM

QUOTE (JBaby @ 21/01/2013, 11:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I’m wondering how true that is, has that been your experience? Was the second/third year fine compared to first year getting sick all the time?

DD1 was in LDC from 2008 (when she was 12 months) until the end of last year.  Yep, she got sick a fair bit the first year, but we also think some of that was from all the activities we did with her - heaps of play dates, lots of swimming lessons in an indoor pool, etc.  When we dropped the swimming lesson, we noticed the colds and sniffles dropped off as well.

DD2 has been going to LDC since 2010 (when she was 12 months) and is still going, so about 3 years now.  Never noticed her being overly sick in her first year of daycare.

Both girls got sick a lot last year, but that was the case for many of the kids in our area, no matter what daycare they went to, from what I gathered speaking to a few mums.  There was a shocking flu going around and it hit the kids in our area hard.  Touch wood, they've both been fit and healthy since September, not even a sniffle.

QUOTE (JBaby @ 21/01/2013, 11:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Has anyone else kept their toddler in daycare while they were on parental leave?

I did, just to make sure I could get places in daycare when DD2 was 12 months old.  Plus, it gave me some time with DD2 alone.  I dropped DD1's attendance back from 3 days/week to 1-2 days/week.  It worked well for us - DD1 loved going to daycare for the 1-2 days a week (short days) and we were prioritised for care when I needed to go back to work after DD2 was born, since DD1 was already going.

Edited by YodaTheWrinkledOne, 21 January 2013 - 01:16 PM.

#19 IVF Baby

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:22 PM

Ours was sick every second week for about 8 months and now seems to be over it.  He is full time at Child Care

#20 nicknick

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:30 PM

Not sure about the 2nd year (will find out this year with DS's 2nd year) but did want to say we started him last year at daycare when DD was 8 weeks (I needed the break), I found DD actually didn't pick up that much of his sickness and it was the middle of winter when he started - I think they generally have good antibodies from birth that give them a bit of a barrier. Just another thought on it, for me I needed the break as did DS who was so house bound in those early days. Goodluck.

#21 SlinkyMalinki

Posted 21 January 2013 - 02:06 PM

DD1 was sick nearly every other week in her first year (one day a week).  Over winter, she stayed at home more than she went.

Last year (twice a week), she didn't get sick at all, and barely missed any days.

#22 CallMeFeral

Posted 21 January 2013 - 02:12 PM

Definitely true for us. Constant sickness first 9 months, and now not that often.

#23 Zahhy

Posted 21 January 2013 - 02:15 PM

DS barely got sick his first year of day care. His second year, we had an absolutely shocking run from September till Christmas, he got nearly everything that went around the centre except thankfully scabies sick.gif
He didn't really recover till the centre closed down over Christmas and did a massive disinfect of everything. Last year he was barely sick.

DD did her fist year last year, and she had a fair bit of time off considering she was only going one day - but then she seems to get really knocked around by any small illness she picks up - colds leave her sniffling and miserable for over a week, DS a day or two and he is right again.
Plus I recall keeping her home once or twice just from teething as she teethes so badly (temperatures and screaming misery).

#24 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 21 January 2013 - 02:26 PM

My kids have never gone to daycare but always, always the first year at kindy they all get really sick. Like constantly, each week it's some sort of cold/cough and gastro several times. Once they start school (so technically the 2nd year they are away from home they are fine again, maybe one or 2 colds).

I dread the kindy year because of it but know that it seems to prepare them for school, their immune systems just get assaulted that first year.

#25 FreeRangeMum

Posted 21 January 2013 - 03:02 PM

Our second year was better but she still was sick a bit, whereas DS never got sick even when he started daycare (he caught everything off his big sis already!)

I kept DD in daycare when I was on mat leave because it gave me a chance to spend some 1 on 1 time with the Bub.

I personally think with a toddler in the house, the second kid is inevitably going to pick up some bugs from them. Daycare or not. And being born in winter makes it an even higher chance. Maybe just wait and see what happens for the first half of the year before making a decision.

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