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5 month old still waking for feed
is he really hungry ?


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#1 minidiamond

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:08 AM

DS is 5.5 months and waking every 3 hours for a bf through the night. He is not ravenous just has a little suckle then usually settles quite easily.  Obviously I would like to break the three hourly thing - shoukd I just try to have DH resettle with no feed ?

He feeds well and frequently during the day; we just started solids but he's only on a tiny amount of rice cereal so far.

Thanks

#2 BlondieUK

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:19 AM

Sounds like pretty normal waking for a not-yet-six-month-old who is BF and is only just starting solids.

#3 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:44 AM

sounds pretty normal to me too. I found that offering extra boob in the day helped with night sleep, since they were getting all their  calories during waking hours

#4 José

Posted 21 January 2013 - 05:34 AM

A nurse said to me my 3 month old should only be wakung twice fir feeds between 7 pm and 7 am. However she also said he needs a certain amount of milk each day and if he isn't getting it during the day ge msy nerf extra feeds at night.  So assuming shes right I would go with the previous recommendation of offering the breast more during yhe day. I wonder thouhh with the recent warm nights if bub may be thirstier then.

#5 newphase

Posted 21 January 2013 - 05:44 AM

My now 11yo fed 3 hrly thru the night until about 8mths, but he always resettled easily and went straight back to sleep so it never really bothered me. He was in general, a light on feeder and nothing I tried made him take more at anyone time.
Each child is different, my now 13 slept thru from about 12 weeks, 10hrs but she was a big feeder thru the day and that last night feed also.

#6 AntiBourgeoisie

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:34 AM

Normal. By 7-8 months (assuming enough calorie intake during the day - and by calories I don't mean solids, I mean enough calories from any source) most babies can eat enough during the day to last all night.
The best start is offer extra breastfeeds during the day.
The other thing to bear in mind is that feeding is for thirst as well as hunger (especially in summer). Make sure you offer water in a cup or bottle instead of breastmilk when you decide to start weaning off breastfeeds.

#7 raone

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:41 AM

Do you go straight to bub or wait a minute. I know with my DS sometimes it like he's having a dream. Like last night he yelled for a minute (not cry.) then went back to sleep. But if I go to get him straight away his sleep is so light I will wake him right up and he won't settle until I feed him.

#8 LittleRB

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:44 AM

This sounds normal. DS went through phases at this age e.g. "growth spurts" where he would wake really often at night to feed. Other times he'd sleep through or only need 1 feed.

#9 Kay1

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:55 AM

My 5.5 monther is doing the same. I am grateful as the alternative is hours of screaming at bedtime or after his night feeds.

#10 Bluenomi

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:49 AM

Completely normal. It's not unusual or wrong for a baby to be waking up for feeds up to 12 months or even after for some babies.

#11 Team Awesome

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:55 AM

Another thought I sometimes found that if mine were hot they fed less during the day then trying to make up for the lost mummy snuggle time at night during summer as it was cooler and nicer to snuggle up then.

#12 Steggles

Posted 21 January 2013 - 09:57 AM

Totally normal. My 15 month old wakes more often than that.

#13 minidiamond

Posted 21 January 2013 - 12:09 PM

Thanks for your answers but  sad.gif

I am utterly exhausted.  I know this goes with the territory of a young bub but I have 3 friends who's 5 month old bubs started sleeping through at that age or waking for just one feed.  And yes, I also know every bub is different.   biggrin.gif   And I don't think I know anyone who's bubs weren't sleeping through (outside of obvious issues like teething etc) by the age of one.  Boo hoo hoo to me.

I also read on various websites that they should be getting all their calories at 6 months so figured he might be close to not actually being hungry at night.

He is a distractable little thing so his day feeds he spends time clenching the nipple between his teeth and chatting and smiling at me.  Very cute, but not as much milk going into him as I'd like. I've tried quiet, darkened day feeds but nothing much is different, he's still distracted.

In answer to PP's question, I don't go straight to him, and I have also tried having DH calm him a bit first but he just wants the booby.

Edited by minidiamond, 21 January 2013 - 12:10 PM.


#14 BellO'Nromze

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:32 PM

Minidiamond, I am exhausted too!  My 4.5 month old wakes every 3 hours overnight too.  But she has bad reflux and I just assume that it is so she can get enough in over the 24 hours.  It is hell though isn't it!
My elder daughter did exactly the same thing but now, she is 20 months old and sleeps through nearly every night...there is light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there!

#15 Jenflea

Posted 21 January 2013 - 01:51 PM

Trust me, there are hundreds of mothers on here whose babies were NOT sleeping through by 1 yr. I'm one of them.
And the experts consider sleeping through to be FIVE hours in one block.
i know lots of people think they should be getting all their calories during the day, but many don't, and many don't take to solids for months either(again, mine!).
Don't forget how small their stomachs are, and breast milk is so easily digested they don't stay full for long.
This will pass!


#16 busymumof1&1/2

Posted 21 January 2013 - 02:01 PM

My DD2 (14 months) wakes an average of 2 times a night, most nights. We have seen a couple of complete sleep throughs, which has me seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I co-sleep when she is feeding, and when she has finished I attempt to put her back into her cot. Most nights she will transfer OK, sometimes she just stays with me. You do what you can. If this is your first, just nap with your little one during the day to get more sleep.
You could also get your DH to try to settle during the nights. It may work for you, but remember, it is a form of CC.

#17 mandala

Posted 21 January 2013 - 03:00 PM

I agree it's on the spectrum of normal, but it's also okay to want longer sleep and to see what happens if you try to settle without a feed.

DS still fed three times a night at that age, and continued to do so to 8 months before stopping all of a sudden. However, they were good, solid feeds, rather than a few sucks and then drifting off. Based on the fact that your DS is not having a big feed, I would think it would be worth a try to settle without one. However, you also say that he's a distracted feeder during the day, so he might just be making up for lost time. If I were you, I'd want it to be one big feed overnight then done, rather than three small feeds. But what mummy wants doesn't always work out with these babies original.gif

#18 mandala

Posted 21 January 2013 - 03:06 PM

QUOTE (busymumof1&1/2 @ 21/01/2013, 03:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You could also get your DH to try to settle during the nights. It may work for you, but remember, it is a form of CC.


I'm not sure what you mean here. Do you mean if you try to settle your baby by rocking or cuddling you're using controlled crying? What happens if your baby doesn't cry? Do you only mean if you try it when your baby is actually hungry instead of giving your baby a feed? It seems a very broad definition of controlled crying, which I've never come across before.

#19 minidiamond

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:26 PM

Thanks again all.  I'm going to try dream feeds again, which I did a little while back.  He was doing 4-5 hours up until about 3.5 months then went back to 3 hourly.  The 4-5 hours meant I was only waking up once a night.

DH has tried briefly to settle him when he wakes & cries but it didn't really work & I didn't want to push things too far so just fed him.

I should add he's also a bit of a reflux boy, he has a vom every feed, but he's a happy chucker, so perhaps he's not ultimately quite as full as he would be otherwise.  He never chucks during his night feeds though as they're so calm.  I just can't replicate that during the day.

#20 WinterIsComing

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:19 PM

QUOTE (minidiamond @ 21/01/2013, 01:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for your answers but  sad.gif

I am utterly exhausted.  I know this goes with the territory of a young bub but I have 3 friends who's 5 month old bubs started sleeping through at that age or waking for just one feed.  And yes, I also know every bub is different.   biggrin.gif   And I don't think I know anyone who's bubs weren't sleeping through (outside of obvious issues like teething etc) by the age of one.  Boo hoo hoo to me.

I also read on various websites that they should be getting all their calories at 6 months so figured he might be close to not actually being hungry at night.

He is a distractable little thing so his day feeds he spends time clenching the nipple between his teeth and chatting and smiling at me.  Very cute, but not as much milk going into him as I'd like. I've tried quiet, darkened day feeds but nothing much is different, he's still distracted.

In answer to PP's question, I don't go straight to him, and I have also tried having DH calm him a bit first but he just wants the booby.


Trust me, it is quite common for babies to wake up at night at or after 12 months of age, let alone before 6 months! I read that babies can actually get hungry overnight up until the age of one.
In my mothers' group, at 5 months, the majority of babies were waking up regularly.

He won't be distructed forever, it's just he is suddenly "waking up" to the world around him.

You know, it is so easy to spend the first year in a perpetual state of angst and search for solutions, "why won't he sleep" etc. It is such a short period in a child's life, over before you know it, just go with the flow and enjoy the special bonding moments. Don't waste energy on comparing your child to others'.

#21 blenheim

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:24 PM

Also remember that a lot of babies who are sleeping through at 5 months may start waking again at 7 or 8 months.  It's tiring but unfortunately, very, very normal.



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