Private Midwife, Student or Doula?
Which would you pick as an additional support person and why?
, Jan 19 2013 09:06 AM
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Posted 19 January 2013 - 09:06 AM
Not sure if this is the best spot to ask this question, but here goes - I'm planning to birth in a private hospital doing shared care with my GP. The trouble with this of course, is not knowing the midwives who will be on duty when I'm in labour. I'll have DH with me of course, but am thinking about additional support. If I engage a private midwife, she'll be there as a support person only rather than being able to act as a midwife as she won't be registered for the hospital. I am planning to discharge quite early so will be engaging a postnatal midwife to visit for a few days post-birth.
I'm mainly wanting someone to help both me and DH, explain things and advocate for what I want etc. I'm wanting to birth as naturally as possible, but am open to changes if medically necessary.
So which would you choose?
Posted 19 January 2013 - 09:32 AM
A private midwife.
Posted 19 January 2013 - 10:55 AM
I agree with above, private midwife
Posted 19 January 2013 - 11:12 AM
Midwife and student?
Posted 19 January 2013 - 11:19 AM
Private midwife, I recently had one for the birth of DS2 and it absolutely made it so much better having someone that knew me and could advocate for me and she also held my hand for a lot of my labour literally which was exactly what I needed !
Posted 19 January 2013 - 11:39 AM
If you can afford it then the private midwife.
A student won't cost you anything but she may not be able to get there or stay for the whole of your labour (depends on her circumstances at the time ie kids, school, placement at the time of your labour). You can have the student as an extra support as well as the midwife.
Edited by Phascogale, 19 January 2013 - 11:40 AM.
Posted 19 January 2013 - 11:43 AM
A private midwife.
Posted 19 January 2013 - 11:44 AM
Just for another view, can you possibly get into a publicly funded midwifery group practice in your area and do GP shared care with them?
Posted 19 January 2013 - 12:05 PM
Just to add a thought, a midwife I was talking to said student midwives are great (assuming you get a keen one) because they have so much to learn and constantly ask questions about why this or that is being done and offering suggestions about alternative ways of doing things. I think a SM would be good if you wanted to know exactly what was happening and why, for that reason. However if I wanted someone to advocate for me and perhaps require the confidence to challenge the decisions made by your healthcarers then I would probably go for a doula or PM.
Posted 19 January 2013 - 12:15 PM
I definitely wouldn't want a student midwife or doula questioning my obstetrician but I trusted my very experienced private midwife to do just that. I wanted someone who thought like me about my birth but had a clear head to make decisions. She was great
Posted 19 January 2013 - 12:28 PM
Doulas and SMs can't advocate for you - with you yes. I'd go a PM myself if you can find one who'll do it.
Posted 19 January 2013 - 12:35 PM
I had my best friend who is a midwife act in a non professional capacity at my birth. When I had to make decisions, I was able to ask her about what is recommended in X, Y, Z situation and what were the possible implications of what I wanted to do. This time, I felt like I was fully informed to make all decisions knowing all their possible outcomes and ramifications so I was happier with my choices. Although qualified, she was a new graduate, but I found that good that she was very up to date. She didn't interact with the obstetrician, I did that. We have known each other since childhood, and have discussed birth and children for years. I was very confident that no matter what happened, she knew what my preferences were.
Posted 20 January 2013 - 10:29 AM
I have had a student midwife involved with two of my pregnancies. THe first one was lovely and kept in touch with me throughout the pregnancy via email, came to some appointments and chatted with me a few times. She then told me that she had enough "numbers" and didn't need to attend the birth. Ok. Glad I hadn't really thought of her as some sort of support though.
Second one met me once and introduced me to her supervisor. She then came to one appointment, and disappeared off the face of the earth. Guess she had her "numbers" too.
So just going by that experience I would choose either a doula or PM, depending on what sort of support you would like. I think it is probably more important to meet a few people individually and see which of them click with you.
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