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#1 rowbi123

Posted 17 January 2013 - 06:16 PM

Has any newly pregnant women had the same fear as me?

I have just been told that i'm around 4 weeks pregnant.

And i'm so scared that one day I will just wake up and my baby won't be there inside me!!!!

i suppose its better once bub is bigger and you can actually feel them moving around in you and know they are safe and healthy.

I think it's just because the news hasn't actually sunk in that there is something inside me that will become a baby one day haha

#2 CFMummy

Posted 17 January 2013 - 06:19 PM

No not stupid I had a fear that I would have a stillbirth or something else would go wrong. DD1 was born perfet and I have never told anyone that I had that fear

#3 Jax12

Posted 17 January 2013 - 06:29 PM

I think this is an extremely common fear OP - you are definitely not alone!

In those first days, particularly when it's your first pregnancy, it seems so surreal.  Especially if you're lucky enough to not have any majoy symptoms - just two little lines telling you this brand new human being is growing inside you.  Then of course if you do have morning sickness/tender breasts etc and one morning you don't, then it's, 'Oh god, I'm not pregnant any more!'

It gets easier to believe when you can feel them bouncing around in there.

Congratulations and good luck!

#4 bec_1108

Posted 17 January 2013 - 06:41 PM

Yes! I'm at the same stage as you and keep freaking out about every little thing! I'm still getting AF type cramps and I keep expecting AF will just turn up.

#5 Koobie83

Posted 17 January 2013 - 06:55 PM

Yes! I get that everyday. I wish I could relax into the pregnancy and enjoy it, but I'm worried almost everyday. I'm jealous of women who can 'enjoy' being pregnant. When everyone wants to be enthusiastic and excited I can't share that for too long... Something gets me worried. Lately it's kicks... Before it was watching everything I was eating. Before that it was watching for another bleed...
I totally know how you feel!

#6 beachook

Posted 17 January 2013 - 06:58 PM

I stressed about this kinda stuff all the way through my pregnancy. It got better once he started moving

#7 caroldiem

Posted 17 January 2013 - 07:02 PM

I think your fear is completely normal because the truth is bad things do happen and sometimes people don't realise just how common it can be (although i think those people are lucky ignorance really is bliss) i think it's important to stay positive and have the attitude that "You will cross that bridge when you come to it". Due to my past i have a psychologist and she has told me there is no point worrying about something that may never happen easier said then done i know but she told me it's important to live in the moment and be in the present and say today i am pregnant original.gif



#8 Koobie83

Posted 17 January 2013 - 07:06 PM

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I stressed about this kinda stuff all the way through my pregnancy. It got better once he started moving


Mine has got worse since I've had movements...

#9 kez71

Posted 17 January 2013 - 07:42 PM

yep, perfectly normal. I had that thought  yesterday when I woke up and couldn't feel the usual hard spot in my belly..instant thought was shes gone..im 28 weeks, so its unlikley she could get out without me noticing..lol.

#10 starfire

Posted 17 January 2013 - 07:51 PM

Totally normal!

For the first few weeks of my pregnancy I would freak out and worry that I would start bleeding or something (TMI sorry) I was actually happy when I started getting morning sickness (before it got really bad that is lol biggrin.gif ) because it meant to me that I was pregnant and baby was fine. (I know I am silly!)

It does get better when you get a bit further along in your pregnancy but I have to warn you, you can still continue to worry but try not to let it take over the joy of your pregnancy. Like another PP said, take it one day at a time and enjoy the little things!

#11 hanz33

Posted 17 January 2013 - 08:51 PM

normal. I worry non stop ;0

#12 pjemc

Posted 17 January 2013 - 09:50 PM

It is so normal, in the lead up to actually falling pregnant I was having these reoccuring dreams where tests would be positive and the Doctor would tell me I am pregnant but I never got any bigger or showed any signs of pregnancy and it was like it never happened.

Then when I actually did get pregnant (found out late October) I have been worrying non stop, first that it wouldn't stick, then that I wouldnt make it to 12 weeks, then that the scan would show something, now I have started to feel movements if I go a period of time without feeling anything I convince myself there is something wrong. I got myself all worked up to the point I was in tears to DH a few days ago because I hadnt felt  anything for a while... dont worry it is completely normal!!

#13 Mine Site Wife

Posted 17 January 2013 - 10:23 PM

OP at 15 weeks 4 days I still worry every day that something will go wrong I notice every pain and feeling and anything different. I had a MC early last year and it was the most horrific thing I personally have ever been through. But I have learnt now not to let everything stress me and just enjoythe times im not worried

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#14 libbylu

Posted 17 January 2013 - 10:28 PM

I was very anxious until the 12 week scan.  In the first 8-10 weeks I was worried I would have another miscarriage - which is a valid fear - about 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage.  In the lead up to the 12 week scan I was worried my baby would have abnormalities.  Then after a good scan result I stopped worrying.  Now with only 5 weeks to go I am getting kicked so much I know he's doing fine in there  original.gif

#15 monkeys mum

Posted 18 January 2013 - 12:40 AM

Im having my 20wk morph scan on Wednesday and i will admit i have worried about bad news at the scan. I think its normal tbh.

#16 Natttmumm

Posted 18 January 2013 - 05:48 AM

Yes ive worried all the way through with each pregnancy. This is baby 3 for us.

Im 36 weeks and im fighting off the anxiety now more than at the beginning

#17 Lcasey

Posted 18 January 2013 - 06:06 AM

Worry is a normal part of motherhood. I worry about my sons all the time. Now, I'm 13 weeks pregnant  with #3, and am still scared. It is terrifying thinking I might loose this one too. I have relaxed a little since my 12w scan, but I still cry with worry sometimes. I hope I can fell more confident when I start feeling baby kick, but I'm probably not going to relax until baby is in my arms.

#18 rowbi123

Posted 18 January 2013 - 10:20 AM

I am so glad to know that i'm not a freak and the only one that has this terrible worry!!!!

(I especially like the one about the baby crawling out and back inside you lol)

Yes it is a natural thing to worry I suppose - I  like to always think worst case scenario, that way i'm never dissapointed!

I spent a lot of my life thinking that I couldn't get pregnant, so I suppose seeing those two lines on the pregnancy test is something that hasn't quite sunk in yet.

It is going to be a long 9 months, but hopefully I can make it the most enjoyable as possible!






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