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#1 Missy Shelby

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:33 PM

So today we went for our 12 week ultrasound...

This whole pregnancy I have had the thought running through my head, "What will be will be", it is kind of like I knew.

We received bad news at the scan that our bub had stopped growing at around 8 weeks, I wasn't aware of this happening as the usual symptoms of mc hadn't appeared yet I have had no cramping or bleeding - except it started very lightly this morning, my heart dropped, I knew.

I am annoyed that my body didn't do what it should have done and thought that it was pregnant all this time when in fact our much wanted bubby was gone.

I am keeping strong in front of my other kids but inside my head is racing and my heart of breaking.

I suppose I don't really need any advice or anything but just need to come to grips that this has happened and maybe typing it out will do that for me.

Edited by Missy Shelby, 18 January 2013 - 07:18 AM.


#2 TinyTeddys

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:39 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss xoxo

#3 EsmeLennox

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:42 PM

I'm sorry.

#4 Poussey

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:42 PM

so sorry to hear it sad.gif

#5 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:46 PM

I'm sorry!


#6 librablonde

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:48 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss sad.gif

#7 Just_Keep_Swimming

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:33 PM

I'm really sorry for your loss. I understand that your heart is breaking and I hope you feel better soon. Try and get some time to yourself.

#8 Chasing*Rainbows

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:37 PM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  bbighug.gif

#9 Missy Shelby

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:37 PM

Thanks guys for responding to my op, kids in bed, time to decompress...

Edited by Missy Shelby, 16 January 2013 - 07:38 PM.


#10 HeartMyBoys

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:40 PM

So sorry Miss Shelby x

#11 prettypenny

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:43 PM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I've been the recipient of the same bad news at the 12 week scan too (actually twice). Personally I felt it better to think that my body was trying it's best to nurture the baby than to get angry at it for not starting the "process" sooner. Be kind to yourself.

Take care.

#12 bree18

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:48 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss,I know the heartbreak.

#13 Ianthe

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:49 PM

I'm sorry.

#14 Missy Shelby

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:49 PM

QUOTE (prettypenny @ 16/01/2013, 08:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I've been the recipient of the same bad news at the 12 week scan too (actually twice). Personally I felt it better to think that my body was trying it's best to nurture the baby than to get angry at it for not starting the "process" sooner. Be kind to yourself.

Take care.

I like the way you think prettypenny original.gif

#15 glasnost

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:01 PM

How heartbreaking OP. I am so sorry.

#16 Berndt Tőst

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:07 PM

That's so sad. I'm wishing some strength your way.

#17 TheFirstNoel

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:09 PM

So sorry for your loss Missy Shelby. It just sucks. Dh & I both had the 'not quite right' feeling before my last miscarriage. Take care of yourself.

#18 Chelli

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:15 PM

That would be devastating, and I'm so very sorry for your loss sad.gif

#19 Soontobegran

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:18 PM

I am so very sad for you Missy Shelby. sad.gif

#20 Missy Shelby

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:26 PM

Thanks for all of your very kind words, off to bed, been a big day xo

Edited by Missy Shelby, 16 January 2013 - 08:27 PM.


#21 PinkSurvivor

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:46 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had a mmc 13 months ago, it's really tough. Thinking of you!

#22 Purelle

Posted 17 January 2013 - 12:38 AM

I'm so sorry to hear. I like the way penny put it too. I know nothing I can say will make you feel better so massive hugs xxxx to you. I'm so sorry

#23 beabea

Posted 17 January 2013 - 12:58 AM

sad.gif



#24 Missy Shelby

Posted 17 January 2013 - 05:19 AM

QUOTE (Bwok~Bwok @ 16/01/2013, 07:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm sorry!

Seems as though we have been down a similar road lately Bwok~Bwok hope you are doing ok.

#25 Handsfull

Posted 17 January 2013 - 07:49 AM

So sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.
xx


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