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#1 The Old Feral

Posted 16 January 2013 - 10:59 AM

Help!

For an upcoming special occasion DH and I are treating ourselves to a weekend at a ridiculously posh 'outback resort'.

It's weeks away and I'm already panicking about what to wear!  This place combines 5 star dining with mountain bike riding (not at the same time lol) and the prospect of being surrounded by the rich and famous. It's in the middle of nowhere.

Now I'm not the type to care much what others think, but at the same time I don't want to make a fool of myself and be hopelessly over or under dressed.

So please, poshters of EB, help me pack! I will need:
- smart casual for arrival, lunch, drinkies
- ? something for 2 x silver service dinners
- comfortable but non trackie options for horse riding, hiking etc

My aim is to look polished without overdoing it and if it's possible, without bringing a huge trunk for 2 nights!
The things bugging me most are whether or not jeans are an option, how tarted up I should be for dinner, and how daggy I should be for the outdoor stuff.

Again I say.... Help! I don't want to ruin our treat by feeling awkward the whole time.

eta I should add, it's for mid March and quite a way inland in the mountains so the weather could be all over the place too.... just to add another layer of difficulty!

Edited by The Old Bag, 16 January 2013 - 11:03 AM.


#2 noi'mnot

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:03 AM

You'll never go wrong with a lovely little black dress for dinner. Can be easily dressed up or down with shoes and accessories. If you want something different for each night (I would, because I love dresses!) then just a couple of simple and lovely dresses would work easily.

What's the weather like? that really impacts the smart casual and outdoorsy type outfits that you might wear...

#3 **Xena**

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:17 AM

I'd just pack some nice dresses for night and then comfortable clothes for the day. I don't think it will matter how daggy ornot you look whilst doing the physical stuff as long as they are appropriate for the activities. Jeans would be fine to take along.



#4 (feral)epg

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:18 AM

(disclaimer- I in no way consider myself a 'sophisticate')

Firstly - outback 'posh' and city 'posh' are 2 very very different things!  Especially if you're doing an activity based weekend you might be suprised at how casual everything is.
I've been lucky enough to stay at some fairly flash accommodation in Southern Africa and in the NorthWest - and have NEVER been uncomfortable with my slob clothing - it's not unusual for for guests to have had a busy day and turn up in their safari gear for dinner!
Secondly you're paying (probably a lot!) for the experience so frankly you can dress as you please!
If it's going to be fairly warm at night my go-to outfit in resorts is a long sleeveless black dress - worn with sparkly sandals and a nice necklace or scarf it's quite elegant but being a jersy fabric it copes with travel very well.
Jeans will probably be ok - again just a simple but fairly elegant top and change out of your hiking footwear.

For hiking and horse riding it might be worth investing in a pair of specialist hiking pants - do the horse riding on the last day so you don't have to wash them. If you're going mountain bike riding for more than a few hours then proper pants are a godsend - Anaconda does a decent range of 'padded' but normal looking bikepants.  

Where are you going?  Totally jealous.

#5 *LucyE*

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:19 AM

Which place is it?  

I have recently holidayed at a ridiculously expensive place where there was a Michelin starred chef serving us a degustation dinner.  I was in a casual dress and barefeet and didn't feel out of place at all.  The super wealthy and celebrities at nearby tables were similarly attired.

I was in swimmers and sarongs most of the time (beach location).  When horse riding, I wore casual long pants (leggings would work) and a flowy long top.  For bike riding, I saw people in normal gym attire - bike pants and sporty tank top.

Wear what you feel comfortable in.

#6 --Me--

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:22 AM

A nice wrap dress with wedges would be suitable for casual drinks, lunch etc. As a previous poster said, LBD for evening.

3/4 chino style pants or 'Lorna Jane style' exercise gear for MB riding. You don't want full length jeans as they can get caught in the chain.

#7 Escapin

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:25 AM

It's all in the attitude original.gif I agree re black dress (but only if you already own one!) Otherwise, wear whatever you feel most fabulous in. Practice walking down the street with your internal monologue of 'I was a strong, powerful woman and this fabulous holiday is exactly what I DESERVE'. You'll be fine! I'm very jealous original.gif

#8 Gen71

Posted 16 January 2013 - 11:49 AM

The clothes have nothing to do with it, it's all in your attitude. So wear what you are comfy in, because how you feel will be more telling than what you wear.

If you are confidant in yourself and your right to be there, which you should be, you will not look out of place.

I have seen appropriately dressed people looking very out if place, and I've seen people relaxing happily in 5 & 6 star resorts in daggy cheap clothes (including myself).

The key is to treat the place like you own it.

Have a great time!

#9 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 16 January 2013 - 12:16 PM

When I've been lucky enough to stay in places like that people are always quite casual.

But for a special holiday it's nice to dress up a bit (without overdressing) and look good in the photos (shallow I know).

Jeans would be fine but I honestly wouldn't bother unless you look particularly great in them (hope you do), as they aren't particularly comfy for hiking and would be horrendous for mountain biking and horseriding and you probably wouldn't want to wear them for dinner/drinks.

Other than what PPs suggested I'd make sure I had a flattering sun hat and sunglasses and a pashmina or something if it's cold in the evening- you dont want to have to go to dinner in a polarfleece.

#10 JustBeige

Posted 16 January 2013 - 02:44 PM

Usually if there is a dress code for dining you will be told on your booking.

We recently had a function at a private club and wow at their dress code for breakfast - basically full corporate wear. tie optional. no sandals.


I would just do semi dressed up for nights and have jeans and wrap dresses or maxi's for the day time swanning around.

Just dress them up with accessories.


Also, have a google for weather around the time you are going for previous years.  It will give you an indication of how hot/cold it will be.

#11 The Old Feral

Posted 16 January 2013 - 03:36 PM

Thanks for the help so far.  I agree LBDs are a wise choice for dinner...... so now I can move on to obsessing about taking 1 for each night, or wear the same one twice, and can I get away with the same shoes......original.gif

For anyone interested, we're going here:
http://www.wolganvalley.com/wolgan-valley/en/resort/

so the dress code may end up being a moot point because I might never leave my suite, with its own private pool...  Can't wait!

#12 lexington

Posted 16 January 2013 - 03:44 PM

Wait.. is this Glamping??

#13 JustBeige

Posted 16 January 2013 - 03:52 PM

Ooooo! that looks awesome.


pfft at dining out or exercising.   My weekend would consist of Food / Bed / Pool /Spa treatments.  the end.   lol, not necessarily in that order either.


Regarding your dress code - When you look on their website and click on Dining, as you scroll through you can see people in various stages of dressing up.  So I would say semi formal / Cocktail for dinning in the Dining Room and a much more casual approach (pants / chinos / dressy jeans) for breaky and lunch



#14 liveworkplay

Posted 16 January 2013 - 04:04 PM

Damn you OP, after clicking the link now I was to go.

#15 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 16 January 2013 - 04:13 PM

No one in the photos on the website is over dressed so go with that.

I agree with LBD and if there is a dress code for dinner it will be stated (although you have several dining options so there may be a dress code for one restaurant but not the others.

I am in no way a sophisticate (quite the opposite) and I would be perfectly happy going there with clothes I already own, including jeans if you don't own jodhpurs for horse riding. It's YOUR holiday not theirs, you pay, you stay, they serve, the other guests largely ignore you as they are on holidays too or may briefly wonder if you are someone famous original.gif

Have fun, don't stress!

#16 BJBubbles

Posted 16 January 2013 - 04:14 PM

.... looks like a great weekend away! So jealous!

I think all the PP's have given great advice re what to wear.


On a side note - isn't that the resort that Michael Clarke (Australian Cricket captain) booked out for his wedding last year?



#17 tres-chic

Posted 16 January 2013 - 04:26 PM

If it were me I'd be dressing up tailored shorts with wedges and silk tops and accessories for more casual occasions and taking a basic dress like others have suggested (in a neutral colour) that I could layer and sparkly sandals for evening wear.

Other than that some crisp linen might come in handy. I really like wearing white capri pants with some kind of sparkly sheer top over Witchery camis too.

Looks utterly fabulous!  smile1.gif

#18 StopTheGoats

Posted 16 January 2013 - 04:30 PM

I thought it was Wolgan Valley from your OP. I've not been but know a good number of people who have and none have made much of an effort. From their photos it was active wear during the day and something comfortable but smart at night. It's gorgeous and very special but part of the appeal is that its relaxed.

#19 magicalmum

Posted 16 January 2013 - 05:21 PM

I think jeans are fine, with a nice shirt and heels can dress up, and you can also wear them during the day when doing activities.For dinner etc, convertible dresses are good. I have a Sacha Drake 'ultimate' black dress which can be changed to go quite a few ways - I've worn it during the day and also to very formal events. You could change your accessories and wear it a few times. Also good for travel as it doesn't crush. As for riding and activities, Lorna Jane 'dance pants' are some of the most comfortable pants I've ever owned for active wear. Would recommend trying them to everyone.

ETA - my DH and I once went to a really expensive resort, where people wore suits to breakfast. He had on boardies and I wore an old sundress. It was fine, nobody cared what other people wore. I wouldn't stress too much about your outfits, as long as you are comfortable,

Edited by magicalmum, 16 January 2013 - 05:31 PM.


#20 Charri36

Posted 16 January 2013 - 05:45 PM

Having to play the 'game' of sophisticate whilst accompanying my DP on his work trips overseas, what I found worked for me was,

dress's for evening wear - simple/classic/neutral dark colours ( easier to clean if dirty) - One's that I could  dress up or down, depending on the situation and locality. ( We never knew where exactly we were going, so this was hard)

Tailored fitted shirts are your best friend, they always look smart and can look casual at the same time.

Not sure if I would wear jeans. ( I'll wear them at home and to a friends bbq, but never out for dinner per say).

I'd probably go and buy a pair of zip off the bottom pant's from anaconda or alike, that way you have pants ( cargo style) and shorts.

A mistake many make is not ironing their clothes. ( or for those sophisticates, having then ironed for you. hehe)

Unless you know what you are doing on a horse, do not turn up in jodpers type pants, this is a dead giveaway and you may be made to feel unsophisticate, as you'll be a tryhard.

Yes, confidence is the key, I'll sit with the other ladies on my DP's work trips having a chuckle in my 'vintage' (aka op shop bargin!) dress, and I feel just as good as them in their designer wear.

Pack a few options, so you have choice, take clothes you feel great in, this will help.

good luck and enjoy!


#21 The Old Feral

Posted 16 January 2013 - 05:55 PM

FWIW Charri I know my way around a horse, and have jodphurs which I will totally be wearing, try hard or no try hard.   I once completely ruined a dirty weekend away by wearing jeans on a trail ride and ending up with blisters in unspeakable places  roll2.gif

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It's YOUR holiday not theirs, you pay, you stay, they serve, the other guests largely ignore you as they are on holidays too or may briefly wonder if you are someone famous


Lovely advice Dinosaurus, thanks.

#22 Charri36

Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:05 PM

QUOTE (The Old Bag @ 16/01/2013, 03:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
FWIW Charri I know my way around a horse, and have jodphurs which I will totally be wearing, try hard or no try hard.   I once completely ruined a dirty weekend away by wearing jeans on a trail ride and ending up with blisters in unspeakable places  roll2.gif


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Excellent ! I maybe didn't read the post properly, I think I thought someone else suggested the jodphurs. haha.

I'm into the 'fake it" thing, but sometimes this faking can be a real dead giveaway.  laugh.gif

It is about feeling comfortable also though, just because someone else felt comfortable wearing boardies and thongs at breakfast, doesn't mean you have to too. Skirts are a blessing at breakfast, they look casual but smart at the same time, just like thong type sandals look a bit better than rubber type thongs. Ohh, and a biggie is - which I'm sure you all ready know, sexy revealing clothes are not classy.  laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif

#23 SplashingRainbows

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:51 PM

I'm sure whatever you feel comfortable in will be fine.

Most of the truly wealthy people I know dress as though they are an average salary and wage earner. Clothing from regular stores that the majority of the population would buy from. There is certainly never an indication of their wealth from their dress - in fact they usually lean a little the other way. I also know none of them would think twice about what to wear at a 5 star resort.

Of course it's a great chance to dress well, but I don't think you'll be out of place at all with whatever you choose. Sounds like a lovely treat - enjoy your time away.

#24 EBeditor

Posted 16 January 2013 - 07:59 PM

Ooh, you lucky thing! Take a pashmina or jacket as it can be cold in that area at night.

I am a fan of the black jersey dress when travelling which can be dressed up with heels or dressed down with flats and different jewellery.

I don't think it really matters what you wear for riding and hiking as long as it is comfortable and you feel good in it.

For breakfast etc I would wear smart casual, for me that would be a dress but any neat skirt/top pants/top combo is fine.

As a paying guest you can wear whatever the hell you want so wear what makes you feel good.

#25 Glr-r

Posted 16 January 2013 - 08:06 PM

Obviously you need to wear perfectly starched linen pants and not allow a single crease whilst riding...

Actually they've probably all gone and brought themselves $300 to be worn once jophers




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