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Posted 18 January 2013 - 01:45 PM
Finally a bit of time for personals.
Muggins_00 - Congratulations on your second set of twins! At least you'll be prepared for double everything again. I doubt we'll go again, purely cos I'd be too scared that we'd get twins again.
Tucky - So glad to hear that Grace and Archie are doing well and that they are closer together for you. You've been so brave throughout this all especially with kids at home too. They look so big and grown up from the first photos! Have they given you an indication of when you might be able to takes them home?
NicNic85 - All that hospital time must be hard, but keep them in there as long as you can, it's worth it in the end.
dede79 - How are you going? Home yet? Can't wait to see a pic!
Just-one-more - Good to hear that you're just ticking along. Boring is good I reckon. Have you had your growth scan yet?
MJCplus1 - How are you going? Hope that you're just resting and still cooking those babies? I thankfully didn't have anything like that to worry about so I'm no help sorry.
Alxeen - I went to a wedding like that when I was about 22 weeks. Limited food and seat was hard for me as well. I also vowed not to go anywhere after that, but life never goes to plan, and we ended up doing heaps of stuff far from home. I was lucky nothing happened. Make the most of the nesting while you can!
AFM - Since I last posted things went a bit pear-shaped with Isis and her feeding. Long story short, she's still very little and breastfeeding was using up more energy than she had. She stopped feeding on Monday and after losing weight had to head back to the hospital. Thankfully we didn't have to stay but we had to come up with a new plan for her. So as it stands at the moment Isis is bottle feeding EBM and being topped up with formula. She's just gained her birth weight back at two weeks old but her weigh gain is very slow so we're keeping an eye on her.
Rhett on the other hand is gaining weight like crazy and going great guns. It's amazing how much difference only 400g can make between the two babies and how they go in feeding.
Other than than Isis feeding issues, things are slowly settling into place at home. Thankfully they both sleep well overnight and we even get 4-5 hour stretches sometimes. Joined: 17-January 04 From: Melbourne New Member Hi
Posted 19 January 2013 - 07:45 AM
My scan last week got cancelled due to gastro going through the radiology place so non essential scans got cancelled.
I'll have my scan next Friday now.
I went into hospital Monday with pre labor and got put on the ctg and I'm pretty sure that caused twin 1 to go breech I'm hoping he turns back asap. All was fine with the pains though no change to cervix and fetal fibronectin test was negative.
Sorry to hear your little girl is struggling with feeding. They do tire so easily! Hope she keeps gaining well now
Posted 22 January 2013 - 02:21 PM
HI everyone! Just wondering how you are all going? It has been a bit quiet in here lately.
I am coming up to 25 weeks and starting to get a bit uncomfortable. For those of you who are further along than me with other children, I am wondering how you are coping? I am really nervous about the weeks from 30 onwards and how I will look after DS. Do you have any tips or advice?
He is a big boy for his age (as in 15 kgs) and I really can't lift him anymore. I have moved him into a big bed and starting to teach him how to climb in the car by himself. Is there any thing else I should be doing now before I get too big?
I guess i have been a bit in denial until recently and have only just started to face the reality of what's ahead. We picked up some basinets and a mountain buggy duet with a buggy board today which is still sitting in my lounge room in boxes.
I guess I am really just after some of your experiences of the later parts of the twin pregnancy and what I should be preparing myself for.
I hope that the quiet is just from lots of busy mums and mums to be!
Posted 25 January 2013 - 08:14 AM
I don't have other children, but it will be 33 weeks for me at the weekend and I have definitely reached the stage of wanting to cry at least once a day and often more.
The doctors said plan not to be able to do much after 28 weeks but I would say over the last couple that has really kicked in for me, and the afternoons, evenings and nights are usually the worst!
It's all sounding a bit grim but I booked my csection last Friday, it's at 37 weeks 3 days and that just seems impossibly far away. Once I hit 34 weeks
(safe enough for bubs who are both above average size) I am going to start thinking premature labour thoughts.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:25 PM
Jo-Anna I have a child at home but she's 10, so well past the physical demands of a toddler. I think the answer, asides from having a lie down in your DS's nap time, is occasional care/helpful parents/ILs so that he's out of your hair, ideally for one to two hours a day. I know that can be tough, but if you consider life with newborn twins you will be needing that kind of assistance anyway, so better to get him used to it now. Sounds like what you've done with him so far is great, but third trimester it's really just rest, rest and more rest that you need everyday.
Speaking of rest (or lackthereof) school holidays are exhausting! It's been really great, and so much fun having DD at home with me, and even though she plays great by herself, I do find myself just wanting to do things with her, have her friends over etc. I try to structure the day so I get at least one lie down a day. I'm also finding it a bit hard to sleep in this heat! And yes, the BIG feeling has set in finally I am now bigger than I was at 42 weeks with DD.
We've had an eventful week - first a trip to emergency for me with a very small bleed. All is perfectly fine though and I've had no bleeding since. Then DH had someone rear end him while driving home, so that was another trip to emergency to treat suspected whiplash. Thankfully he's fine but the car is a 50/50 write off and we need to decide whether to repair it or not. It's mainly just a hassle because our capsules will not fit in the back of my little hatch, and without the station wagon we only have that one car. The timing, to say the least, is pretty terrible! I am getting rather anxious we will actually have no car in which to install capsules and take our babies home from hospital in! Oh, and to top things off the other guy is completely at fault and is not insured at all, so who knows how much hassle it will be getting the money out of him?
Thankfully all going well pregnancy wise, although I am getting VERY regular, but painless B-H contractions. There is a noticeable slow down when I reduce my activity though, so it's pretty clear I need to basically not do much at all from now until birth! Friends/family (and everyone except DH) seem to be having trouble understanding that though
Hmmmm....well this was quite the complain post! Hope to update with some good news next week. I have a growth scan next week so fingers crossed that's all good.
Posted 30 January 2013 - 01:53 PM
I thought I'd pop in and introduce myself. Still getting my head around the fact that I belong in this group even though we found out about the twins just before Christmas!
I'm having monochorionic diamniotic twins. As you can see from my sig, I already have a 6 year old and a 4 year old. Fortunately the oldest one is already at school and the youngest does kindy 3 days a week, so I won't have 4 at home all the time. I'm going to keep working 2 days a week until I'm 26 weeks if all goes well, but I'm already counting down until maternity leave.
Saw the Ob today for the first of many scans. Not only am I having twins, but my cervix was a bit dodgy during my first pregnancy (needed a stitch at 22 weeks and spent awhile on bedrest). So it will be fortnightly scans for the next little while. Our Ob is fantastic and is organising a shared care arrangement with a large public hospital, so we'll have the scans there and he'll do everything else. But because we live outside of their catchment it is proving to be a bit complicated to organise (although they have acknowledged that our local public hospital isn't able to care for me so I'd have to go to there anyway ). I thought we were making things easier by going private!
Look forward to getting to know you and sharing this exciting (and scary!) journey with you all.
Edited by HairyMaclary, 30 January 2013 - 01:54 PM.
Posted 31 January 2013 - 11:50 AM
HairyMaclary Yay, another one! I was starting to think there were no more multiples being conceived! Welcome and congrats on the twins It's a very daunting thing at first, but there's great support here and through AMBA as well.
Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:17 PM
Welcome Hairy Maclary!
We all know how you feel, it's a big thing to get your head around, in fact I am still trying now! I had to do the public hospital shuffle too when we found out about the twins, but am glad to report that I am settled in my hospital system now with what seems to be a lovely OB.
AFM everything is moving along nicely. I am measuring 31 weeks, so 5 weeks ahead which I think is pretty normal. OB is happy to plan for a natural vaginal delivery. He did say that they usually induce at 37 weeks. I thought 38 weeks was more standard so I will see how we go. Has anyone else got an end date in sight?
I am also feeling so much better now DS is back into a good napping routine and I am getting some rest. I feel much more able to deal with the aches and pains when I have had some decent sleep!
Just-one-more I hope that twin 1 turns back for you soon
Alxeen, what a pain about the car accident! Lucky you weren't in the car too! All the best for your growth scan, fingers crossed for some nice big bubbas in there.
It's so quite around here, I think we need to go recruiting, I am sure I have seen some more signatures with twins in them lately!
Posted 01 February 2013 - 11:49 AM
I hope you don't mind me joining the group. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with Identical twins. I already have a son who turns 3 next month. I decided to elect a c section this time and it is booked for 20th March. Not too far off. I am finding everything really hard now days and struggle at the best of times. My savior is my son still has an afternoon nap so I try to rest then too. Is it common to feel exhausted, huge, uncomfortable and just over it in the 3rd trimester?
Cheers, Linda xx
Posted 01 February 2013 - 12:59 PM
I just had my 34 week scan, Kate est weight 2kg and Holly 2.4 though the obstetrician thinks they are actually closer together in size and both probably around 2.3kg mark.
So good healthy weights, doing well and no reason to bring the c section date forward. I do not see how it is humanly possible to keep struggling along for more than 3.5 weeks from here on out so just feeling really hopeful that labor will start anytime from here on out.
The ob confirmed though they won't do anything to help them come sooner they are happy for them to come any time from now and won't try to stop a labor that starts.
We had the eectrician in yesterday finally and the blockout blinds installed and I took mum to a community mental health clinic to get her connected to some one on one in home support on Weddesday, so things I think are in an adequate place now for the babies to come.
People keep saying be careful what you wish for, and enjoy this time now, but it is way too hard and uncomfortable to enjoy anything now, and the hard work once they get here is inevitable so it may as well as be sooner rather than later!
Alex, how are you going on the car decision front? Such bad timing for it to happen, so I really hope you end up with something you are happy with, and quickly. I actually made it to the NIMBA expecting mutiples night this week after missing the one last November and it was so useful and informative - I really struggled to be up and conscious that late at night but so glad I got to make it!
I've decided not to use the twin breast feeding pillow I bought and instead get a custom one made from clark rubber which seems to be what most of the AMBA people do, I just wish I'd done it early so I could get measured when I was small! Anyone else doing this?
Posted 04 February 2013 - 04:43 PM
OMG I've been wanting to come on here and write and put pics forever. Been busy and lazy I guess.
Sorry for the lack of personal messages, I wouldn't know where to start after so long... Hope all those of you still pregnant are doing ok and not too uncomfortable. And those with babies, hope it's going as smooth as can be for you. Welcome to newbies too!!
As for us, things are going well. Amélie and Oscar are now 3.5 weeks old and are sleeping and eating quite well. Breastfeeding is going well so far (haven't needed to comp feed with formula) and I'm getting pretty good at twin feeding. I was really scared of how I would put then both on the boob on my own but it's quite easy really.
They're putting weight well (both over 3kg now but the gap is getting bigger as Amélie is putting more on and faster).
My DH never really took time off but tries to have 2 days off each week (usually this time of the year is 7 days a week) and to do shorter days when possible. His family have also been great at coming over to help, bring food, etc. The hardest thing I find is keeping my 3.5 years old happy and occupied.
The twins are still on their 4 hourly feed schedule (from SCN) but starting to want feeds a bit closer too. They sleep ok but are REALLY noisy (grunting, moaning, snorting all night), not sure how long they'll last in our room.
Ok, here are links to a few photos. Nothing really recent, some of the birth or at the hospital.
Posted 13 February 2013 - 02:10 PM
Well well we are a quiet bunch!
Dede Thanks for the photos! Gorgeous Can't believe you got a photo of one kissing the other, that is so cute! I think twin photos are very special in that way how are you finding everything? Tiredness ok? Recovery ok? I can only imagine having an energetic pre-schooler at home would make things much more challenging for you, but brilliant to hear that family have been supportive. Sounds like you've had great success with the feeding! I can only hope that when the time comes I'll be able to manage as well as you.
Reesan Well sounds like you are pretty ready to meet those babies! Can't say I feel the same myself, there are still loads of things I want to do, however something tells me I'll be making it close to, if not right on 38 weeks. Call it an instinct! I tink it's pretty easy to hit a wall in the later stages of a multiple pregnancy, but just try to tell yourself as each week passes that's less time in nursery, more time rooming in with you, less chance of needing breathing assistance, better chance of coming home with you, and a better developed suck reflex. Is you c/s scheduled for 37 weeks?
think~positive Congratulations on your twins and welcome! You're third trimester just like the rest of us struggling Mummies! I think we're all very uncomfortable, exhausted etc.
AFM My good news is that we got a car, exactly the same as our old one but an upgrade as its five years newer and much less k's. DH and I are both so relieved to have that sorted as it was really getting to us. The babies room is finally coming together, and I am really enjoying my days at home by myself...I think a little too much! I've become a bit anti-social and not really keen on catching up with friends (unusual for me) but I think my mind is just trying to focus on growing babies and preparing myself for what's to come. I'm also getting a little over everyone saying "LOOK AT YOU, YOU'RE huge!" I'm like, yes I know, there are two babies in there almost ready to be born....get lost. It's making me feel like a bit of a walking freak show. Is it so hard to say "It can't be easy being so heavily pregnant but you look great and are doing so well"??? Thankfully my DH says this to me all the time, so I tune the others out as much as I can.
Posted 16 February 2013 - 06:01 PM
Alxeen - I get those comments too and I'm only 17 weeks! But then someone else will tell me how tiny my bump looks and that they were bigger than this with just one baby. Can't win!
AFM - Things seem to be going well. I was very, very uncomfortable on Wednesday, everything felt tight and sore. I ended up going in to see my Ob on Thursday morning since I have a history of having a dodgy cervix and just wanted to make sure everything was ok. He took ages doing the scan so I started getting worried, but then he said he was just having trouble seeing my cervix because the bigger I get the harder it is to see. I'd only seen him on Monday and he had no trouble, so I must have grown a lot in 3 days! I guess that would account for the discomfort.
Anyway, he thought it all looked fine but sent us to the ultrasound place just to be sure. $200 later they confirmed that everything was ok It was worth it though for peace of mind. Plus while we were there the sonographer (who was absolutely lovely) offered to have a look to see if she could tell the genders. One had their legs crossed but she said the other one looks like a girl Since they are most likely identical, it looks like we might be having 2 girls. Until it's confirmed by at least 1 or 2 more scans we won't be buying pink just yet or telling our families. Everyone is desperate for some girls in the family and I don't think they'd handle the disappointment if it was wrong. Of course we'll love them just as much either way!
Posted 18 February 2013 - 12:28 PM
Hi everyone :-) 34 weeks here and so ready for my babies to come. At my last hospital appointment the doc booked me in for a c section at 38 weeks. I was upset at this as I've been told all along 37 is when it will happen - I know it's only one more week but times already going so slow and I'm so uncomfortable, never get any more than 3 hours sleep a night, feel like I'm neglecting my 19 month old as I can't do much with or for him. I can't leave the house as 5 mins walking puts me in too much pain etc etc the list goes on. I'm sick of hearing the oh it's best for babies to stay in as long as they can from everyone. Yes I do understand that and I would never put their health in jepordy but still aaarrrggghhh. It's just dragging out so much and I'm not sure how much more I can take. Sorry to whinge so much :-(
My hopes for a natural birth are also fading as my two are always traverse at my fortnightly scans and show no signs of moving. My DP wasn't around for the birth of our son and I really wanted him to go through the experience with me. I'm also terrified of epidural as I already have back problems and never had any surgery whatsoever in my life! I'm sick of getting foreign barely speaking English OBs at my local hospital a I feel you can't discuss with them things as the language barrier is too frustrating to deal with.
I also get the oh not long now or you must be about ready to pop comments - can be very annoying. Then after my response of no 4 weeks left you see their faces go oh ur huge until I say it's twins then you get the oh poor you face and the oh you'll have your hands full or good luck with that one comments. Not sure where the negativity of having multiples comes from - I feel blessed to be having 2 more babies.
Welcome think positive :-) dede your babies are beautiful I hope all is well Hairymclary yeah we were paying in excess of $200 per scan in the beggining and as much as that sucks nothing beats the reassurance that comes with the scans. Reesan how are you doing? I have my 34 week scan next week so I'm interested in the babies estimated weights - last time they were at 4pd little man and 4.8pd little girl - love to see the weights going up each fortnight.
I'm sure I've missed people sorry - I hope you are all coping well and growing healthy Bubs. Look forward to more posts on how everyone is doing and the new arrivals as they come. :-)
All the best - Mandy xx
Posted 18 February 2013 - 06:59 PM
MJCplus1 I am only 29 weeks but completely understand what you are saying. People ask me when I am due and I say May and they look at me like I'm mad. Then I have to explain that it's twins and I get the whole 'poor you' looks and the 'oh my you will have you hands full', followed my the tirade of questions. I think I might just start lying so I don't have to go into it.
Hairy Mclairy 2 little identical girls! How lovely, that would be my dream. I don't know the sexes but I am getting boy/boy feelings.
Alxeen that is a much nicer way that your DH puts it. A pat on the back and encouragement goes a lot further than strangers gorking at you like a freak show. I like to give myself a little pat on the back for just getting this far without having a nervous breakdown.
Dede your babies are absolutely gorgeous and made me all mushy inside. I hope you are enjoying your time settling in at home.
AFM Not much new here, just counting down the days and praying this hot weather streak we are having will end soon. I had the horrible GTT test last week together with a big bunch of other blood test. I will get the results next Tuesday, so fingers crossed for an ok result. I have a sizing scan at the hospital tomorrow which I am looking forward to. Will be interesting to see their size/position as well as just getting to say hello again. I have heard the wait time there can be crazy long, so mum is watching DS and is having him overnight. To say I am excited is an understatement! I think I will just lay on the couch and sleep for about 14 hours.
Anyway, hope everyone is travelling well.
Posted 19 February 2013 - 12:19 PM
I am still here, following the if nothing nice to say then say nothing adage I think! Lovely to hear my internal sentiments echoed though MCJPlus1, I am using all my energy not to say horrible things back to well wishers offering sentiments of better in than out and not long now etc.
Although I'm more positive today. Now that there is one more week and we have a cool change (thank god) in Melbourne it's all feeling a little more survivable.
Had a scan on Friday where all was well (much to my dismay - just looking for a small enough problem to justify getting them out) and weights were 2.4kg and 2.7kg (that was 35 weeks 5 days)
Best wishes to all!
Posted 22 February 2013 - 03:50 PM
So quiet in here lol my 34+2 week scan showed as predicted babies still traverse and showing no signs of budging lol approx weights girl 5pd 10oz and boy 4pd 12oz so should be decent sizes if they stay in until my 38 week c-section. Fundal height is at 45cms so I really don't want to know how much bigger it can get!! Stretch marks are starting to appear :-(
How's everyone doing??
I'm so tired my 19 month old has not been sleeping well or having long naps during the day so no rest for me lol atleast he is happy 99% of the time. He is a good boy xx
Posted 24 February 2013 - 11:58 AM
Just thought I would give you all an update on how life is with my twins! My boys are now 2 weeks shy of 6 months and I made it! The last 3 months have been awesome! the boys are in a great routine of 4 feeds per day approx 4hrly they go down around 630-730 everynight and sleep through until I wake them around 7am. My two daughters are at school at different campuses so the school run is hectic, my twin pram gets a workout and one of the clips on each side has already broken but I contacted steelcraft and they are sending me replacement parts free of charge thank god! I do manage to get to the gym on weekdays I go straight there after school drop offs and Im also playing basketball. We dont get alot of couple time or me time at the moment having 4 kids its hard to get a babysitter I think people are really daunted by the fact we have twins but in all honesty at the moment they are easier to look after than the girls who are 5 & 3! but Im sure that time will come eventually! The best advice I can give you girls is get into a routine with your babies from the get go, get them on the same routine when you feed one feed the other or straight after each other. Also join your local multiples group they are in valuable when I had my breakdown at 6 weeks they were awesome in supporting me and getting me through it. Also go to bed early! I started going to bed at 730ish straight after the boys feed and it saved my life I started to feel normal again. Anyways good luck everyone twins are great I wouldnt change it for the world
Posted 24 February 2013 - 02:42 PM
Hey ladies! Long time no post. Im currently 34+4 with my id twins. Due to slowed growth we have a c-section booked for tuesday. i thought i was doing okay, keeping positive. My ob told me to expect the boys to be in hospital for 7-10 days, but after having my second steroid shot today we went and saw the scn and spoke to the nurse, she then basically burst all my positive thoughts and said to expect theyd be in until 40 weeks. I was prepared for 2 weeks but now she said that i have felt very emotional and overwhelmed by the whole prospect now. ive had differeing information from everybody, i dont know who to believe and i feel like my boys will have a huge struggle and ill have to go to the hospital for weeks just to be able to see them.
Sorry for the vent. Figured you ladies would understand.
Posted 25 February 2013 - 07:48 PM
Emso - good luck for tomorrow. I had my ID twin boys at 36 weeks and both babies were fine, didn't need special care and left hospital when I did (they were 2.6kgs each when born). Each set of twins is very different and you never really know how they will go until they come out. Hopefully things will go really well for you and your babies will be home with you really soon. I know it is hard but I think hope for the best, prepare for the worst and then hopefully you are pleasantly surprised with how things turn out. Getting to 35 weeks with ID twins is an awesome effort!!!
Posted 26 February 2013 - 07:39 PM
Quick update 34+6 gestation.
Oscar Charles arrived 3:42pm, 2.5kg, 46cm long.
Cooper Wentworth arrived 3:43pm, 2.4kg, 47cm long.
Both babies in scn for warmth. Good breathing, oscar is on some oxygen. both babies weighed more than expected, will know more tomorrow.
Posted 27 February 2013 - 03:40 PM
Congratulations Emso!! Great weights and I hope they are both still doing well! I can't wait to meet my two!! 3 weeks max! Being it on.
Hello to everyone else hope your all hanging in there :-)
Posted 27 February 2013 - 04:09 PM
Hello! I've had my babies. I haven't had a chance to read anyone's anything, but Holly and Kate are here, born thursday night by c section 45 mins after I found out I was in labour. was 3cm dilated, probably had been in labor since i was up in pain at 4am, but I was so used to pain... went to hospital at 6pm when I was disappointed labor hadn't started and just wanted to check everything was ok - knew they would be sending me home so we didn't take hospital bag, camera or anything..
2 hours later i was vaginally examined and at 851 and 8:52 Kate was born, 2.5kg and Holly 2.6
Hospital was mostly awful with so many things going badly I won't list a single one - was so surprised after the excellent prenatal care i had at royal women's.
We fought hard to leave sunday - they wanted us out and yet it was still a fight to get out. so bizarre.
we've been home since then and by last night at 10pm i was only up to 14 hours sleep since the birth. I had been in a very bad way for days and finally that morning organized a night nanny specialising in twins to come.
She was amazing and i got nearly 7 hours sleep which has turned my world around. She is coming again tonight and saturday night but this time both for twelve whole hours. It is costing us a lot of money but we are desperate people right now.
The upside to all this is that my baby girls are unbelievably beautiful and amazing and so wonderful.
No other updates for now and it will probably take me another week or so to get back to the forum, which sucks because i want to post photos and I want to know what is happening with everyone, but I must just do what I can for now.
So see you all soon and i hope you are all going great!
PS my babies are so amazing. The pregnancy was the worst thing ever, and these girls are the best thing ever* *though it is temporarily as difficult as it is joyous
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