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#1 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 12 January 2013 - 10:58 PM

Did you or are you having a mid life crisis? What did you/are you doing to cope with it?

I'm turning 40 later this year and feeling as though I'm starting to have a bit of a mid life crisis- I'm thinking about going on a trip by myself to fulfill a long held dream. But maybe it's just a mid life crisis and I'm being silly.

Anyone in the same boat or been in the same boat?

#2 Guest_LeChatNinjah_*

Posted 12 January 2013 - 11:01 PM

You're not on your own.

I wouldn't even say it qualifies for a mid-life crisis, unless you're also planning on buying a little red 2 seater sportscar, lol, it's just wanting a freaking break.

Sometimes we all need a break.  Most of us do need that, very few get it.  Some can indulge that need in a loved hobby or spending a brief time out with friends, others need solitude, it's different for everyone.

If you feel you need it for your own wellbeing, then I'd highly encourage you to find some way of making it happen.  If there's something in your life you feel you missed out on doing that is very important to you, and if you have the means to give it a go, then I truly think you should go for it.

I wish you luck in whatever that may be!



#3 Expelliarmus

Posted 12 January 2013 - 11:03 PM

I worry that I will have one. I haven't yet but I reckon DH is having one. Mostly I just freak out and wonder who will take care of our children if I lose the plot like he has ... sad.gif

#4 CallMeFeral

Posted 12 January 2013 - 11:13 PM

I've been in one all my life Tounge1.gif

#5 Tall Poppy

Posted 13 January 2013 - 04:59 AM

I turn 34 soon, I think as I get later into my 30s I may have a mid life crisis, I do think it has to do with wanting a break though.

If you can afford the trip, then do it. If its a long held dream then you should go for it.

#6 icekool

Posted 13 January 2013 - 05:31 AM

I am a few years away but I think I already am having one. The fact that my body has completely gone the other direction sad.gif

#7 snuffles

Posted 13 January 2013 - 09:16 AM

I would like to have one but I have too many responsibilities that I have committed to!!

DH has had several already and it looks like we're on the verge of another one...

(Also, if I had the chance to go away on my own, I would definitely seize it!)



#8 KT1978

Posted 13 January 2013 - 09:24 AM

Mine is building...

Every time I hear about someone running/walking/biking around the country I feel jealous.

I'd love to put on a backpack and just go anywhere for a few months, I feel like I'd love it.

Don't know if I will though, maybe when dd is older. Dp reckons it sounds stupid so I guess he won't be coming!

#9 KatakaGeoGirl

Posted 13 January 2013 - 09:30 AM

I have a feeling I put hot purple stripes in my hair and joined roller derby to avoid a mid life crisis. But I sometimes wonder if that is me going through my mid life crisis.
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Edited by Katakacpk, 13 January 2013 - 09:31 AM.


#10 RunDMC

Posted 13 January 2013 - 09:32 AM

I think a midlife crisis is designed to remind you that you only live once, it's not a dress rehearsal, yes we have responsibilities to others because we live in a society, but we also have a responsibility to ourselves.
If you can do it, if other responsibilities are in your path, modify or take a long term view of your crisis possibilities.
In a way society accepts a midlife crisis so you may as well make it as fun and outrageous as possible. biggrin.gif

#11 emma_jean

Posted 13 January 2013 - 09:47 AM

I'm kind of planning / hoping to have one in about 8 years. I had my kids when I was 20 and 22, I have been single since I was pregnant with my youngest. The kids are now 12 and 10 and I think a midlife crisis in 8-10 sounds about right.

#12 Gudrun

Posted 13 January 2013 - 10:00 AM

I'm probably the age of your mother. I don't remember having a mid-life crisis, always figuring that the lucky ones get to live longer.

However, whatever age you are, I highly believe in getting out there and especially doing things that are a bit exhilirating.  There'd be lots of things along this continuum.

Joining a bushwalking club, for example, gets you out there, is marvellous for your physical wellbeing, costs little and can be done with or without kids, on your own or not.   Just an example.




#13 OneProudMum

Posted 13 January 2013 - 10:07 AM

I had a crisis a few years ago. I'm the ideal candidate for another.

Someone in my family will probably become ill and it will push me over the edge.

#14 Feral_Is_Me

Posted 13 January 2013 - 11:32 AM

I am turning 40 in just over a year, and it has made evaluate where I am at, what I have achieved and also reinforced that I am not young any more. Mid life crisis here I come! A close girlfriend and I are off to Hawaii for our fortieth, hopefully that will help!

#15 Lady Garden

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:27 PM

I had mine at 30. Don't know if I could manage another, they're pretty taxing.

Besides, planning a trip is hardly MLC material. Leaving your marriage and shacking up with your yoga instructor - definitely, yes!

#16 Natttmumm

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:34 PM

I still have very young kids so not yet but I can see when the kids are older I could want to go on a trip or something that is just for me.
DH could have a risks at any time

#17 RealityBites

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:34 PM

QUOTE (DMC_baby @ 13/01/2013, 10:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think a midlife crisis is designed to remind you that you only live once, it's not a dress rehearsal, yes we have responsibilities to others because we live in a society, but we also have a responsibility to ourselves.


I love this.

#18 SeaPrincess

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:35 PM

I haven't got time for one - DH is having his and currently training and doing triathlons and one of my cousins is doing marathons, but I can't see that being my MLC activity.  One of my friends has left her family, although I don't think she's shacked up with a yoga instructor!

I could definitely go a red 2-seater sports car though, MLC or not!

#19 Wise Old Owl

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:38 PM

I can feel one building so I am keeping an eye on this thread  ph34r.gif

#20 Meagan

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:41 PM

I want to move to the country. I have been planning this since I was about 12 though, so not sure if that counts. I have a real hankering to build a house. My parents are on a farm and are planning on doing up an old building, they have been anning for about 2 years & I just want to shake them and say get a move on. I want to use tools!

Ultimately, I want to convince the husband to move up here ( I'm on holidays @ the farm with the kids) and build our house in a back paddock.

#21 Angelot

Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:50 PM

I don't think having a mid life crisis necessarily means you're being silly.  Most people go through phases of re-evaluating their life, their commitments, relationships and goals.  That's normal and healthy.  

I'm curious about your dream, and also about what it is that you feel it might replace in your life; is it realistic or are you falling for the illusion that the grass is greener?  Only you can answer that, but it might be something worth thinking about?

#22 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 13 January 2013 - 01:01 PM

QUOTE (Ange Vert @ 13/01/2013, 01:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think having a mid life crisis necessarily means you're being silly.  Most people go through phases of re-evaluating their life, their commitments, relationships and goals.  That's normal and healthy.  

I'm curious about your dream, and also about what it is that you feel it might replace in your life; is it realistic or are you falling for the illusion that the grass is greener?  Only you can answer that, but it might be something worth thinking about?


It's not a particularly huge or life changing dream, nor is it something which will replace anything else. It's just something I've wanted to do for many years now, in fact there are two main things I keep coming back to as wanting to do-one is to trek in Nepal for a couple of weeks, by myself and the other is to do yoga teaching training, which would involve 2 weeks, twice a year, for two years.

I feel that the yoga training is too much at this stage, with two young kids, and well, it just seems kind of selfish to take off on a trip by myself for two weeks, even though if a friend suggested doing it themselves, I'd not think it selfish or silly. Weird huh?

#23 strawberrycakes

Posted 13 January 2013 - 01:13 PM

DH & I are 32 & 33 this year, I think we are both building up to one.  We both feel suffocated in our life (not with each other though). We feel like just packing up & moving away to start afresh only finances are keeping us trapped where we are going now where.

#24 cinnabubble

Posted 13 January 2013 - 05:27 PM

I'm brewing a midlife breakdown.

#25 bunny2

Posted 13 January 2013 - 05:36 PM

What characterises a mid life crisis?

What does it entail?  What does it normally 'look like'.  I get the stereotype buying a small red convertible for a male, but what would a woman do in her mid life crisis?

Honestly not trying to have a dig at anyone, just wanting to see what everyone else thinks.

Is it burnt out, a bit sick of the daily grind and looking after home and kids etc?




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