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What to expect? Update #13 (MC Section)
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#1 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 12 January 2013 - 09:04 AM

On Thursday at 9w3d I found out that the heart has stopped beating. I'm booked in to have a D&C on Monday - which I have dicussed everything with the Dr.

But there is a chance I may m/c before then and I don't know what to expect?

I had a m/c in 2003, but at the time I didn't know it was a m/c until about 2 weeks later. One thing I do remember is that AF arrived and about 2 days later I was at work and heard a 'pop' and then had a heavy flow - but of course I didn't know I had been pg. I don't know how far along I was. I was on a break from TTC as I had only lost my mother about 5 months before so I wasn't paying attention to my cycle.

With the Chemical Pg I had in Oct/Nov (Fresh Transfer from IVF) I never got AF, my levels went back to 0 and we went straight into a FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer) which is this one. I was on progesterone support for about 7 weeks, but they stopped on Thursday!

The hospital where I am having the surgery have given me a speciman jar incase I m/c (which made me feel a bit sick), but I'm worried about leaving the house and the m/c happening away from home.

Will it start off a small bleed or will it start off as a heavy bleed?
How much cramping will there be? Will it be worse than AF Cramps?

*Warning this bit may distress some people*
and my worst fear, will I see anything or will it be like clots?


ATM I am getting cramps, but I've been getting them all the way through, but I've been having a 'pinching' feeling which comes and goes. Also last weekend I had, what i can only describe as, my uterus being filled with air and then releasing - that didn't go on for very long and hasn't happened since.

Thank you original.gif

Edited by Bwok~Bwok, 15 January 2013 - 10:15 AM.


#2 Always amazed!

Posted 12 January 2013 - 09:17 AM

Sorry for your loss

With my first m/c I spotted for a week then woke up the morning of my d&c with cramps that would come and go regularly.
They increased in pain on the way to hospital.
Of course while I waited for D&c I went to the toilet as I had felt something come out.  Once I sat down on the toilet there was a lot of blood huge clots ect. I think it was then I lost the bub but wasn't game to look in the toilet:-( still feel bad about it to this day.

The cramping eased up a bit after this but still had some huge clots.
I still ended up having d&c as they wanted to make sure it was all gorn.



#3 gab72

Posted 12 January 2013 - 09:54 AM

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For my m/c, I actually kept taking the pessaries until the d&c because I wanted to try to make sure nothing happened beforehand (mainly because I wanted to foetus tested). My dr did say that he was fairly confident if it hadn't expelled itself at that point (9w4d) that it wasn't likely to.

I hope that nothing happens over the weekend and that the d&c goes smoothly for you on Monday.

I'm sorry. Take care of yourself. xo

#4 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 12 January 2013 - 10:54 AM

Gab72 - I've asked for the same thing re: testing.

#5 Madalem

Posted 12 January 2013 - 12:52 PM

Hi Bwok....sorry to hear your news.

TMI warning
For my M/C at 5w4d, I bled like a normal AF for about 2 days before the very heavy bleeding for about 4 hours......clots, large blobs of jelly like stuff and what I think was embryo tissue and sack membrane. I basically spent 6 hours on the toilet, and would not have wanted to be out. Cramping wasn't too bad....however I'm sure each time would be different. Was filling a pad each hour, and was thinking of heading to hospital when it seemed to return to a normal AF.  I then bled like AF for another 6 days or so.  

I then had to have an US to ensure that everything had been removed, which it had.

At 9w, yes, I would think that you'd be able to see embryo tissue.   Hopefully nothing happens over the weekend, and best wishes for Monday.  I would suggest that if you do start bleeding, go straight to hospital so that they can get any tissues required for testing.

Look after yourself.....hugs......

#6 namesnamesnames

Posted 12 January 2013 - 10:21 PM

I'm so sorry. It all just sucks.

I've had 5 M/C, all around 8-10wks (including one this past week at 9wks), but have chosen to avoid D&C each time and let things happen by themselves. Mine all started with a day of feeling like crap, then a day of nothing followed by a bit of spotting and a few hours later for heavy bleeding (a pad an hour type thing) and large clots. At 9wks the foetus is still very small and encased, so you aren't likely to see anything, but you will see large clots/tissue type material. Once the majority of clots pass, the bleeding settles down for a few more days before it fades off to nothing, just like a long period. As for cramps, I have found them MUCH worse than AF and have needed painkillers to try and get through them. Your uterus has to shrink back in size just like if you have given birth, but there are none of the 'new mum' hormones to mask the pain.

I have been monitored each time through the hospital midwives to make sure HCGs go back to 0 and that nothing is left. This time around the clots have been coming over a few days, so I'm really hoping it settles down soon so I can avoid a D&C. I don't handle surgery well, so a D&C would be my final solution, and probably also my final attempt at TTC. I can't take much more of this...

#7 Wishing2011

Posted 12 January 2013 - 10:38 PM

I'm sorry you lost your bub :-( last year I lost my bub at 8.5 weeks but it was measuring approx 6 weeks. I began to spot while it was still alive but gradually i began to bleed. And get cramping. When I passed what I think was the baby I remember I had even getting period type cramps but I tried to push through them (I knew at this point I had lost my bub from another US) and I remember getting this heavy low pain that I couldn't work through and I had to crouch down. It got more intense and I ran to the shower to get some hot water on my stomach and just laid there until we ran out of hot water. I think then the bleeding picked up and not long after I laid down I felt a big clot (the length of my thumb!) come out!! I thought that was it but overnight I remember waking up to another clot the same kind of size when I went to the bathroom (no pain that time). The bleeding became really light after that and that was it. Everyone has a different experience though and I am just so sad for you that you have lost your much wanted bubba. Life sucks sometimes and is just not fair. Look after yourself .

#8 Fillyjonk

Posted 13 January 2013 - 04:19 AM

I am so very sorry sad.gif

With my first miscarriage, the baby measured 8.5 weeks - so slightly smaller than yours. Mine was a missed mc and they gave me misoprostal to make it happen. Misoprostal has its own effects, and I wont go into those, but when it actually came to miscarrying, it felt like I was pushing out somethingh roughly egg sized. I can only imagine it was the baby and sac but I couldn't look. I had very little bleeding after that but two days later I had another onset of cramping and expelled huge amounts of blood and big chunks of something (placenta?)

I hope you make it to your D&C before it happens but wish you all the love and strength you need to deal with whatever comes your way.

Again, I am so sorry.

#9 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 13 January 2013 - 10:41 AM

misoprostal is what they have given me to insert the morning of the surgery.

No bleeding so far, but I've had cramping, alot of 'pinching' feeling and a constant headache!

#10 Fillyjonk

Posted 13 January 2013 - 05:35 PM

Much love to you. I am sorry you have to go through this - it just isn't fair. But I am sure you know that already.

Be warned that the Misoprostal is not pleasant, at least in my experience. But you can do it.

My love and prayers for you tomorrow.

jen

#11 CoFFeELoVe

Posted 13 January 2013 - 09:00 PM

I'm sorry for the loss of your precious baby.
PP's have described what it can physically feel like, this may be TMI but if you think you may birth your baby and want to keep his/her remains for testing, a colander ( or something similar) placed in the toilet will help safely catch baby.
The reason I suggest this (again sorry if this is distressing) but quite a few women find their baby comes when they are sitting on the toilet ( gravity and all that) and it can be quiet distressing for some women.
Much love to you xx


#12 Fillyjonk

Posted 14 January 2013 - 09:09 PM

I hope everything went okay for you OP. How are you holding up?

Edited by with the goo goose, 14 January 2013 - 09:10 PM.


#13 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 15 January 2013 - 09:53 AM

Yeah I'm doing ok!

I see what everyone was saying about the Misoprostal. I inserted them at 5am and by the time I got to hospital I had cramping and the longer it went the worse they were getting - which wasn't helping me emotionally - so they gave me some Tamazepam. The worst of the cramps really hit me when I walked into the operating theatre - they were truly awful - but thankfully it wasn't long before I was alseep!

I was feeling a bit guilty the day before about having the D&C, but with those cramps, I'm so glad I didn't do it at home - mentally I don't think I would have coped. I also can't believe how emotional I was beforehand. My Little One's heart had stopped beating but still it was soooo hard.

I also had an awful nights sleep last night, kept on jolting awake. The longest stint of sleep I had was an hour and of course the cramps are hitting me today. I want the hospital drugs back  ph34r.gif

About to curl up on the lounge and hopefully get more than an hours sleep! Wish me luck.

#14 Fillyjonk

Posted 15 January 2013 - 12:57 PM

*Big hug*

If it is any consolation, I can relate to everything you describe feeling. After I took misoprostal the first time, I broke down into loud wailing sobs. I am not usually a loud wailing sob kind of person but the finality of it all was just too much. Even though I knew that my baby had stopped living weeks beforehand I still felt that crushing guilt that I was expelling him/her.

Be kind to yourself - hopefully you will start on the road to some healing now that it is all over. Once again, I am so sorry this is happening to you.

#15 hillplain

Posted 16 January 2013 - 10:21 AM

Oh Bwok,

I am so sorry to be ready all of this. Unfortunatly I can relate to all of this. My first loss was at 12 weeks although only measuring 8. The first I knew about it was after spotting over the weekend and then US to confirm no HB. I was sent home with and told to wait and try and get to see DR. I couldn't get in to see a DR and passed a fair portion of it at home on my own which was very distressing. When I finally got to see a DR 3 days later he did a D&C to try and get something for testing due to us being IVF. Nothing showed up though.

With my next cycle we were successful again, however once handed over to GP I pushed for another US at 9 weeks which everyone thought that I was nuts over. I wanted this as I was going to New Zealand with a group of men on a tour for work and wanted to be confident that all was well. On the Friday before I left I went for an US at my home town which is an hour from where I work and my GP and was told that there was no HB. I was told to drive back to my GP. He decided to do a D&C the next day and suggested that I still went to NZ anyway as physically I would be fine. I could not get hold of DH for 6 hours to tell him the news and waited whilst 2 women had their babys in the maternity ward for there to be a bed for me.
When I woke up from the D&C the first thing I asked was how many eggs did they get - this made the nurse cry. Not one of my better moments. I still went to NZ the next day which I found to be good. My DH flew over to spend a few days R&R after the tour which was also nice to grieve with him away from home, farm, drought and animals.

I felt that the first MC that I experienced was one that I needed however was one of the most emotional experiences of my life. The second was not so bad however I knew what to expect and I think that I had remained a little distanced from that cycle anyway.

There is nothing that I can say to make any of this any better for you. I cried a lot for several weeks after often at random times. Just remember that your body is also adjusting and doing some random things to your hormones too before you question your sanity - which is what I did for a while!

Love and hugs to you.

#16 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 16 January 2013 - 05:06 PM

Thanks everyone.

Yesterday wasn't too bad - I only had spotting.

But today, I'm emotionally fragile and *WARNING TMI* I'm passing alot of clots - not big - but I have alot of cramps which makes it a bit distressing as it makes it all a bit more real IYKWIM

Feeling a bit sick and feel like I can't think straight, but I guess that's to do with everything that's happened and the hormones would be all over the place.


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