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#1 Charlie.S

Posted 11 January 2013 - 11:01 AM

Hi everyone!
This is my first day as a member of EB original.gif
My title says TTC #1, but that's not entirely accurate - I went off BCP about 3 mths ago after a friend suggested to me that I just 'relax and let it happen'. DP doesn't know I went off which I feel guilty about ... but that's another story. Want to first determine whether I'm pg, then I'll deal with the moral dilemma!
AF: 5 days late (never been more than a day late in my ENTIRE life - whether on BCP or not)
HPT: -ve 13DPO; +ve 17DPO, then tried this morning (18DPO) and got a -ve!! Arrgghh...
Symptoms: tender nipples, constant pressure/ache/cramp in abdomen, heightened sense of smell
WDYT?
I realise many may be critical of my decision not to tell DP, but please, I am looking for helpful advice about what I can do in this current situation, rather than judgement & criticism (let's save that for later wink.gif)
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#2 PatG

Posted 11 January 2013 - 11:17 AM

Just a tip - if you don't want judgment and criticism leave out any info not pertaining to your query!  You could have just put the details about your HPT tests.....

Some people don't have their pregnancies show up on HPTs until 6 weeks...  How do you know when you ovulated?

#3 seaside_feral

Posted 11 January 2013 - 11:20 AM

Do you have pics of the HPTs?
Were they the same brand? Have you used a first response test? - they are often the most accurate....



#4 Charlie.S

Posted 11 January 2013 - 11:31 AM

Thanks both...
No pics, but the -ve at 13DPO and last night's +ve (17DPO) were both First Response tests. The 2nd line was faint, but it was DEFINITELY there.
-ve test this morning was with CB Digital.
I ovulated on Xmas day, according to OvuPlan OPK.

#5 seaside_feral

Posted 11 January 2013 - 02:01 PM

I would try another first response. I actually got clearer lines in the afternoon than the morning.

#6 MrsLexiK

Posted 11 January 2013 - 02:12 PM

QUOTE (PatG @ 11/01/2013, 12:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just a tip - if you don't want judgment and criticism leave out any info not pertaining to your query! You could have just put the details about your HPT tests.....

Some people don't have their pregnancies show up on HPTs until 6 weeks... How do you know when you ovulated?


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#7 Charlie.S

Posted 11 January 2013 - 02:27 PM

thanks guys, appreciate it biggrin.gif

#8 muggins_00

Posted 11 January 2013 - 03:01 PM

So you forgot to mention to your partner you went off the pill but you were using OPKs?? Alrighty then.....

Also, First Response tests are more sensitive than the CB digitals. If there was a line on the FR within 10 minutes then I would say most likely you're pregnant. Try again with another FR tonight or in the morning.

Edited by muggins_00, 11 January 2013 - 03:03 PM.


#9 ubermum

Posted 11 January 2013 - 03:48 PM

QUOTE (Charlie.S @ 11/01/2013, 12:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi everyone!
This is my first day as a member of EB original.gif
My title says TTC #1, but that's not entirely accurate - I went off BCP about 3 mths ago after a friend suggested to me that I just 'relax and let it happen'. DP doesn't know I went off which I feel guilty about ... but that's another story. Want to first determine whether I'm pg, then I'll deal with the moral dilemma!
AF: 5 days late (never been more than a day late in my ENTIRE life - whether on BCP or not)
HPT: -ve 13DPO; +ve 17DPO, then tried this morning (18DPO) and got a -ve!! Arrgghh...
Symptoms: tender nipples, constant pressure/ache/cramp in abdomen, heightened sense of smell
WDYT?
I realise many may be critical of my decision not to tell DP, but please, I am looking for helpful advice about what I can do in this current situation, rather than judgement & criticism (let's save that for later wink.gif)
TIA lovelies original.gif

Helpful advice? There is nothing to do just yet. What you can do is wait until your period is actually due and then test to see if you are pregnant. Then you can put your big girl panties on and tell your dp that you took it upon yourself to make a life altering decision for him with no consultation. In future op, that feeling of guilt is your conscience telling you that you are doing something wrong. If you play fair, you don't have to deal with moral dilemmas.

#10 BeYOUtiful

Posted 11 January 2013 - 03:59 PM

I hope you aren't pregnant.  Tell him about the pill and make the decision together to have another child.


#11 Charlie.S

Posted 11 January 2013 - 04:32 PM

Really appreciate the guilt trip from the last 2 posters who deliberately ignored my request for helpful advice as opposed to judgemental criticism.
I joined EB knowing I'd made a mistake (I'm a human being, after all), hoping to find support from objective parties in a similar situation - but you guys seem to be riding your moral high horses pretty hard.
Didn't realise that being a saint was a prerequisite to participating in these forums.
Thanks to those who did provide helpful advice and apologies to the others - mortified that my lack of perfection has caused offence.

#12 BeYOUtiful

Posted 11 January 2013 - 04:37 PM

You 'planned' the mistake.  You didn't forget the pill or run out.  No sympathy here, stop snivelling.

#13 caninestorm

Posted 11 January 2013 - 04:45 PM

If you are truly 18/19DPO, and your period has not arrived yet, you are most likely pregnant.

However, if you are truly 18/19DPO most tests should be showing a positive. FRER should at least be showing a definite positive.

The first thing I would do, even before taking any more tests, is tell your partner. You'll have to tell him eventually and personally I think you should use this situation to tell him what the deal is.

Then, go to the doctor and ask for a blood test. It may be that you have had a chemical pregnancy or you may in fact be pregnant. Even if the test results aren't conclusive, the blood test will be.




#14 BeYOUtiful

Posted 11 January 2013 - 04:49 PM

QUOTE
It may be that you have had a chemical pregnancy

That was my first thought also.

#15 muggins_00

Posted 11 January 2013 - 04:54 PM

A mistake is burning dinner, or stuffing up a bill payment. Ceasing birth control without telling your partner and actively planning intercourse around your fertile time isn't a mistake. It is planned, it is a MASSIVE breach of your partner's trust abd generally a really sh*tty thing to do. Speak to your partner and tell them the truth of the situation before you do anything else.

#16 Missy Shelby

Posted 11 January 2013 - 05:04 PM

QUOTE (Charlie.S @ 11/01/2013, 05:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Really appreciate the guilt trip from the last 2 posters who deliberately ignored my request for helpful advice as opposed to judgemental criticism.
I joined EB knowing I'd made a mistake (I'm a human being, after all), hoping to find support from objective parties in a similar situation - but you guys seem to be riding your moral high horses pretty hard.
Didn't realise that being a saint was a prerequisite to participating in these forums.
Thanks to those who did provide helpful advice and apologies to the others - mortified that my lack of perfection has caused offence.

I don't think that anyone thinks they are a saint on EB, but I think many have a pretty good moral compass.

By the sounds of it this (if you are pregnant) will be your first baby so you really will have no idea on how much a child will change your life and the life of your DP, in good ways and sometimes in bad ways.

If having a child was always going to be something that you and your DP as being in your future you may be lucky and he might be ok but if it was not, then what I really think you should be asking is, "How do I tell my DP that I am pregnant when he thinks we were using birth control?".

Hope it all works out for you op.

#17 Sierra the Cat

Posted 14 January 2013 - 11:38 AM

OMG I am so glad to have found this site & this post - literally the exact same thing is happening to me...
AF is 8 days late, have taken multiple HPTs over the last week and only ONE has been +ve at 17DPO. Have taken FOUR other tests since then (all different brands) and they've all been -ve!!
Just had a doc's appt - she did another urine PT ... -ve. Just did the blood test - get results back tomorrow morning.
Eek!




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