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#1 *LiMa*

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:01 PM

One of the very very very few names (ok so it's the only one) DHand I both have on our lists is Ryan. The trouble is DH's cousin has a Rylan. It's too close and I need to scrap it don't I?



#2 GreenEgg

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:05 PM

I'd use it, how often do you see them?

#3 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:05 PM

The names themselves are close.

However, unless you're pretty close to your DP's cousin's family, then I still think it's useable.

#4 FeralHez

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:06 PM

Depends, to me, how close you are to dh's cousin and Rylan.

DD has the same name as a cousin (different last name), that I have never met. His grandma made ne comment but nit an issue as they don't play together etc

#5 ~chiquita~

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:08 PM

I don't think you need to scrap it. I love Ryan. wub.gif

#6 fifi-trixibelle

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:08 PM

I wouldn't even consider what my husband's cousins children are called when naming my children unless I saw them very regularly, as in, at least once every month.

#7 *LiMa*

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:11 PM

We do see them at least once every month.  There's that many of us that we get together that often just for birthdays. And it's a small place where we live. Rylan is going to be approaching 12 when baby is born though

#8 Duck-o-lah

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:15 PM

No.

You have a name you love, use it.

#9 SeaPrincess

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:18 PM

QUOTE (duck-o-lah @ 10/01/2013, 07:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No.

You have a name you love, use it.

I agree. They're not the same, and you love it.

#10 *LiMa*

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:20 PM

Most annoying part is I wanted to use Lucas but he said no based on the fact it's too close to his cousin Luke who he hasn't seen or heard from in over 15years. Bloody men

#11 Gudrun

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:33 PM

It sounds like you are naming him after Rylan but pulling up at the last stump.  I would either go the whole way and call him Rylan (the 12 year-old would be rapt, the big age difference makes this option more  appealing) or go with something completely different.  The nearly the same would be awkward since you see them regularly.

Families always sort out ways to distiguish even when there are same names in the one household.

#12 fifi-trixibelle

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:36 PM

QUOTE (*LiMa* @ 10/01/2013, 10:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We do see them at least once every month.  There's that many of us that we get together that often just for birthdays. And it's a small place where we live. Rylan is going to be approaching 12 when baby is born though


Well in your case I would choose something completely different then.

#13 la di dah

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:38 PM

I wouldn't have a Ryan the month after my cousin or my husband's cousin had a Ryan. In fact I might never use Ryan at all if they used it.

12 years after they had a Rylan, though? I don't really see an issue. And I am hella close with my cousins. I would feel very free to have a Ryan, Rian, Roland, Raphael, Declan, or any kind of -ylan but a Rylan.

#14 kerilyntaryn

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:42 PM

I think it's fine to use as is Lucas

#15 *LiMa*

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:52 PM

He is so frustrating. I can't have Lucas with a Luke butbryan with rylan is ok. Now he's added Cameron and Ty to the list. My cousin is Cameron and another of his cousin has a Tyler and another has a Tyson. I just don't get his logic. At all. I am so pushing for Lucas now

#16 Imaginary friend

Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:58 PM

I think cousins children with same name is ok, so very similar name definitely ok,


As I have said on these threads before, I would not use exact same name as one of my silbings children (ie children are first cousins to each other) but  I would use a similar name and  I would certainly use same or similar name to anyone further removed in family like a husbands cousin's child.


Just make sure Ryan has a different middle name to Rylan.

#17 MoonPie

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:04 PM

QUOTE (Gudrun @ 10/01/2013, 07:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It sounds like you are naming him after Rylan but pulling up at the last stump.  I would either go the whole way and call him Rylan (the 12 year-old would be rapt, the big age difference makes this option more  appealing) or go with something completely different.  The nearly the same would be awkward since you see them regularly.

Families always sort out ways to distiguish even when there are same names in the one household.

I disagree original.gif

Ask Rylan what he thinks?

#18 Aspiring2BaGiraffe

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:04 PM

Considering the difference in age is fine.  If you love it, then use it!

#19 *maddierose*

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:08 PM

Finding a name you both agree on is hard so i would definitely use it.



#20 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:33 PM

I'd think Rylan had a freaky sense of self importance if he assumed baby Ryan was named after him.  Two different names with shared syllables. That is it.

#21 yabbadabbadoo

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:41 PM

If Ryan was a really uncommon name I could understand why it might be considered to be too close to Rylan, but it is a common enough name that plenty of people use and love, so you should go for it, if you can't win the Lucas battle.

#22 Bel Rowley

Posted 11 January 2013 - 06:18 AM

It wouldn't worry me at all, I'd still use Ryan.

#23 Zanbam

Posted 11 January 2013 - 06:28 AM

QUOTE (*LiMa* @ 10/01/2013, 10:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He is so frustrating. I can't have Lucas with a Luke butbryan with rylan is ok. Now he's added Cameron and Ty to the list. My cousin is Cameron and another of his cousin has a Tyler and another has a Tyson. I just don't get his logic. At all. I am so pushing for Lucas now



From what you have said he is maybe using cousin Luke as an excuse as he doesn't like the name Lucas (which I love).

I'm also in the camp of: not the exact same name, large age gap = use Ryan if you both love it.

#24 fifi-trixibelle

Posted 11 January 2013 - 10:30 AM

I missed the bit on Lucas/Luke earlier.

I think Lucas is definitely fine to use in your situation.

#25 crayons

Posted 11 January 2013 - 10:54 AM

I have a Luca and DH has an adult cousin Luke that we see a couple of times a year and are friendly with. He joked at the beginning about how flattered he was that we liked his name but there hasn't been a problem.




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