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#1 jm3

Posted 10 January 2013 - 05:45 PM

My husband pretty much doesn't eat meat/chicken or fish.  My four year old is a bit fussy and only really likes "chicken and vegies" and my 12 year old and myself would eat anything.

I find myself at 4 o'clock thinking what the heck am I going to cook tonight!

Does anyone else hate the need to cook dinner? laughing2.gif

#2 wanting_more

Posted 10 January 2013 - 05:49 PM

ME!!!!! My daughter has eating issues, BAD eating issues. Hardly eats a darn thing. And every night it's the dread of what to cook she will eat with the least amount of tears.
I now loath cooking an evening meal sad.gif

#3 lisacat

Posted 10 January 2013 - 05:50 PM

Me. I love cooking for occasions and crowds but hate cooking dinner. It is so monotonous and boring especially with dh as he wants the same things over and over.

#4 CatMumma

Posted 10 January 2013 - 05:52 PM

Yep. I have a hubby that will eat anything i cook. The kids however. One will only eat white foods so i can work him out easily enough, 1 that will eat something one day and then not touch it again for months. A 9 year old who is going through a i dont like anything stage and a 5 year old who eats enough for all 4 kids put together. Drives me crazy.

#5 katniss

Posted 10 January 2013 - 05:55 PM

I used to but then decided that if they don't like what I've cooked, they can cook themselves!!

#6 lylac

Posted 10 January 2013 - 05:55 PM

Sometimes I really really hate it, espeacially in this heat.
Sometimes I like cooking, I don't have a very fussy family though. I can understand why someone might always hate it.
Tonight it's just leftover sausages and salad.


#7 mitty82

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:02 PM

yes me me me

I get asked every morning even before brekky is on the table what is for tea.

I hate it
Plus hubby is a shift worker so 3 or 4 nights a week he isnt even here. I have two young boys who will only eat certain things and an older daughter who thinks the only vegetable that doesnt taste like poo is potatoe.


tonight we had hot chips and fish from around the corner shop....badd I know

#8 skae

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:45 PM

Meal planning can help a bit. I used to be like that, but now I just plan out a weeks worth of meals. My meal planning chart I made has Fri-Thur (since we shop on Fridays) and a space to put 'whats happening' as well as the meal. So on Sunday nights when hubby goes to church early, I know we need an easy meal. When we have planned a dinner out I put it on there. Or if there is a bday party in the arvo, easy meal again. We don't always stick to it, and somedays we swap the meals (eg have Wednesday's fish instead of Monday's BBQ) but we have all the ingredients there and ready, and it's simply a matter of looking at the chart each day.

Sorry for waffling, I love my meal planning Tounge1.gif

ETA - I had my chart printed on one of those car door magnets from vistaprint - works like a whiteboard so it just sticks on the fridge and we can wipe it clean each week original.gif

Edited by skae, 10 January 2013 - 06:46 PM.


#9 Funnington

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:45 PM

I love cooking, it's a bit of a hobby for me.  Every day I plan, I love checking out fresh ingredients at the supermarket, I love hearing/reading what other people eat.  But, it's sometimes a chore .... I'm not totally morphed into Betty Crocker 7 days a week biggrin.gif

If you have fussy eaters combined with lack of motivation why don't you get into 'family style sharing' type meals?  I keep banging on about him (Jamie Oliver) but, I love his concept of making rustic style food and it's all served on chopping boards, mismatched bowls and plates.  That way, everyone can have bits of the things they like.

We've definitely moved away from plating up everyone's meal that's a carbon copy.  I like to give everyone a choice of their favourite meal each week and having more relaxed, inviting looking food.  

Everyone being involved in preparing/cooking/serving definitely increases their interest too.  (My 6 year old's new favourite job is using the pester & mortar and my daughter loves constructing salads).

#10 whale-woman

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:52 PM

QUOTE (katniss @ 10/01/2013, 06:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I used to but then decided that if they don't like what I've cooked, they can cook themselves!!


Same here. They wont let themselves starve.

#11 Holidayromp

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:53 PM

I don't have that issue.  If you don't eat what is on offer then you cannot possibly be hungry and you go without.  Alternatively you pick out what you don't like out of the meal and eat the rest.

Also if the fussy eater happens to be an adult - who by the way should know better then they can cook.  Why should you tear your hair out over cooking when he is a big part of the problem.

Fussy eaters would starve in this household.  We do not have the time nor the budget to cater for picky people.  You are hungry you eat.

#12 Mootmoot

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:53 PM

It's not the cooking itself that gets me, it's the figuring out what on earth to cook.  We don't even have any fussy eaters, I just hate deciding what to cook.

#13 A.K.A

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:59 PM

I sometimes get annoyed with the monotony of it all, but generally enjoy cooking dinner (it's also a bonus I don't have to clean up if I cook wink.gif ).

I just wanted to respond to agree with PP's suggestion of 'family style' meals. Giving everyone a choice of what and how much they want has helped my incredibly fussy eater expand his palate, and his speechie really encourages it.  original.gif

#14 Hrumph

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:02 PM

Have just sent DP out to collect dinner that i don't have to cook ...so I guess I am a "yes"!!! As for when I cook, as DP does the shopping, he pretty much decides what is on the menu ....within reason because I do all the non-BBQ cooking!

Edited by Hrumph, 10 January 2013 - 07:03 PM.


#15 Natttmumm

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:03 PM

I don't mind it. I would plan ahead a bit though. I usually know what I'm cooking the night before so I can make sure I have everything.
My kids are crazy by 4 so I tend to cook it earlier and reheat for dinner. House is a mad house by 4 so I can't cook

#16 kpingitquiet

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:16 PM

I hate planning food but love cooking it. Once I get a basic concept, I'm good to go. Having a veggie garden really helps because it plans the meal for me. Today there was a 600g round squash ready to harvest so dinner became stuffed squash with couscous. Everyone inhaled it so yay!

If I had a variety of eaters around I would accommodate allergies and ethical choices but not much else. Is the chicken-and-veggies child happy to just go for veggies? Are the rest of you ok with being vegetarian? If so, I'd go that way and invest in half a dozen quality veggie cookbooks. If not, I'd still go for primarily vegetarian recipes and maybe do up a big batch of grilled chicken every Sunday for the freezer, then add that or a small steak or fish fillet to an otherwise vegetarian meal.

#17 spannah

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:19 PM

We shop fortnightly so I have a meal plan to help with that. I try to include at least one new dish every two weeks.
I also 'big batch' cook some meals and freeze the extra for those frantic nights. I also occasionally  MamaBake and that helps. They have some great recipes on their site - mamabake.com


#18 Beancat

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:29 PM

yes.  I am a good cook and I love cooking, but atm we have to cook up to four different meals per night.

DS4 is very fussy, will mainly eat salad, bread and some sort of meat (so quite healthy really, but no variety), DP ususally likes a proper cooked meal, DD1 is a mixture of spoonfed and finger food items and me well, I am happy with whatever, but I am pregnant and at risk of gestational diabetees.  Plus DP doesnt eat fish, seafood, mushrooms or avocado and doesnt really like vegetarian food.

#19 jm3

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:37 PM

Phew... I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one.

I would say that on average we spend $300 on food/groceries per week including take away once a week/fortnight.  I just feel like I am constantly at the shop buying a 'couple of things' which turns into $60 and yet I still get home and don't really know what to cook.

Suggestion about vegetarian food for all sounds like a good idea but I look at the recipes and just can't get my head around no meat.  

I've tried meal planning but I just make it so hard that I don't end up following through.

I promise to do better, I do laughing2.gif

#20 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:41 PM

I enjoy cooking, but banging out meals, quickly, night after night rapidly becomes tedious. I much prefer a slow, leisurely afternoon on the weekend, in the kitchen, cooking something delicious, rather than having to do fast and nutritious on a school night.

#21 Propaganda

Posted 10 January 2013 - 08:17 PM

I am the laziest home cook recently. Everyone is too fussy. There are only 3 of us. There's no point making an effort when someone is sure to complain.

I do enjoy cooking, but not when it's never appreciated.

#22 Twinmum+2

Posted 10 January 2013 - 08:27 PM

QUOTE (jm3 @ 10/01/2013, 08:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Phew... I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one.

I would say that on average we spend $300 on food/groceries per week including take away once a week/fortnight.  I just feel like I am constantly at the shop buying a 'couple of things' which turns into $60 and yet I still get home and don't really know what to cook.

Suggestion about vegetarian food for all sounds like a good idea but I look at the recipes and just can't get my head around no meat.  

I've tried meal planning but I just make it so hard that I don't end up following through.

I promise to do better, I do laughing2.gif


Yes, this is me.  I hate that we have to eat dinner every single night.  And that's with 1 night a week takeaway and at least 1 night leftovers.  So only coming up with 5 meals a week... but it's always too hard.  Now that the boys are getting bigger it's a little easier... they will *mostly* eat what we eat, but I still can't be bothered most nights.  I have a list of about 3 weeks worth of meals to pick from, which you think would make it easier, but no.

I need a cook! original.gif

#23 cheekymonkeysmum

Posted 10 January 2013 - 08:33 PM

Yep sure do.

I have two fussy eaters here and unfortunately dp hardly eats anything because there's never anything he likes. And ds will only eat certain things.

Tbth I hate cooking and only do simple meals I just find it boring and really unenjoyable for me nothing worse the cooking.

#24 wickle pickle

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:31 PM

I'm EXACTLY the same!

I really hate the planning stage. The cooking part is not too bad once I've worked out what we're having.

Menu planning definitely helps (when I'm organised enough to do it!) but I find the range of dishes that I can cook quickly is so limited and boring.

Unfortunately, I live in China and there are not many of these helpful packets for meals or decent frozen stuff. And the salad greens are pretty limited/dodgy - especially at the moment in the middle of winter!

But we are moving to Singapore in July so hopefully there will be more available there. Really hoping a new place will kick me out of this cooking rut (but tackling the new job at the same time probably won't help!!!).

Anyway, it is so hard catering for fussy eaters and trying to keep meals healthy, budget friendly, quick and appealing. I really despair sometimes!

#25 unicycle

Posted 11 January 2013 - 10:20 AM

I was feeling the exact same way yesterday. I then got lost on the buses, came home to an extra mouth and bless her, she only likes plain food. Pasta, steamed broccoli and Parmesan. I thought, I could go with having a family like this. So easy. But I did come back from the day, eventually, with an easy recipe I cooked straight away, so I wouldn't forget. I place it here for you.

Barley salad
I had never cooked barley before.
Boil barley in salted water till al dente ( for me 20 min, but apparently normally 10)

When cool, add finely  chopped dill and capsicum. I had this at a friend's for
lunch yesterday and loved it.
Because i cant leave well enough alone, i also addedChopped tomato and feta and mango. Put it in fridge and it is now packed lunch . Very tasty and quick and easy and would do for a summer dinner as it is filling.








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