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#1 kuhla

Posted 10 January 2013 - 11:19 AM

I am pregnant with DD4.  There is a bit of an age difference with my other children.  They are 8, 11 and will be 13 years old.  

We are involving them in the pregnancy/baby as much they possible or suitable.

At the moment, I have said it's up to them if they want to be there when I'm in labour.  The younger two have pretty much said no thanks which I understand but the 13 yr old is considering it.  While I've said it's up to them, I'm undecided if I should let them at all.  

I'm wanting to hear from anyone whose children has been with them and how it went.  How did you prepare them?  Were they there the whole time?



#2 ubermum

Posted 10 January 2013 - 11:40 AM

At my dd's birth in June, I had my two children present (4yo and just turned 6yo) as well as my nephew (3yo). Also present was my mum, dh and my sister, so essentially one adult to each child. They sat wide eyed on chairs off to the side and were really well behaved. From the time we arrived at hospital until I gave birth was only an hour so it wasn't a long drawn out process and we had prepared them pretty well for it. The only thing that we forgot was babies colour. My 6yo was worried when her sister was purple at birth. We had watched plenty of birth videos, so they knew that I may make noise. They also knew if they misbehaved they would be taken out with nana and they would miss it.

We had been at the hospital all the previous day too, and they played on ipod touches all day and were great then too.

#3 kuhla

Posted 10 January 2013 - 02:49 PM

Thanks for replying.  Both experiences sound positive.  My labours have been pretty fast in the past so hopefully not too much 'boring' time.  I actually think having them there would calm the process for me too.

#4 Cherish

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:57 PM

All 4 of my kids watched me give birth nearly 4 weeks ago original.gif
They only came in for the birth- I didn't want them there for the labouring part!



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