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#1 bobet

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:24 AM


As a first time Mum, I am so unsure (and confused) as to what I will need to buy etc.

Is there anywhere on EB that has reviews of cots, prams etc and a checklist to offer some advice on what I will need to have ready when we bring our child home?

thanks in advance.

#2 T_Baby

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:40 AM

I'm in the same boat, although I do have 10 nieces and nephews so I have some idea from their births!!
A checklist would be great if it's around, anyone know?!

#3 jcw21

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:47 AM

Hi ladies, huge congrats on your BFP,

My DD is now nearly a year old and I was in a similar position I had no idea what I would need, the below is a list of things that we found invaluable

Cot - doesn't have to be anything fancy
Wraps - for swaddling
Blankets - for cold nights
Change Table
Nursing Chair - if you are planning on breastfeeding make sure its very comfortable as you will sspend a lot of time in it!

Other than that you will probably just pick things up as and when you need them, in addition to stufff in the room you will also need

A good pram
Car Seat
Baby Carrier - I've got a Manduca its awesome
A Couple of basic Baby toys - you really don't need much
Bath  Seat or Tray
Activity Mat/playmat

I would also suggest having on hand

Baby Panadol
Infants Friend
Good Thermometer

Thats all I can think of at the moment, hope that helps

One suggestion I would make is look and see if you have any local baby and kids markets, you can get so much stuff second hand in really good condition for a fraction of the price

#4 Cranky Kitten

Posted 10 January 2013 - 11:03 AM

Hard to do as a first timer I know, but you really don't *need* heaps of stuff the second baby is born. A lot of the extra bits can be left until after you're home when you discover you need it. There are comprehensive checklists available at most baby stores but be warned they *are* trying to get your money....

The basics I'd start with:

Car seat

Sleeping space (cot/bassinet/cradle etc) and bedding

nappies - if you're doing disposables in the early days, only get a box or two of newborn size. You can always get more if you need to, but they grow so quickly if you stock up with heaps you'll end up with leftovers when they grow out of the smaller size

Basic clothing - all in ones are great. Discard anything with fiddly buttons rather than studs or fastenings up the back rather than the front. They WILL drive you nuts. You will most likely get a number of outfits as gifts as well.

A handful of bunny rugs/muslins - people like to give these as gifts, so if you buy heaps yourself prepare to have way too many. They are useful though!

Some old fashioned cloth nappies - they have loads of uses, and make the best spew rags

Pram - what sort is definitely a matter of preference so test drive instore if you can.

Change table if you're going to use one. One with storage is really handy, gives you somewhere to keep all the creams and wipes and such.

ETA - baby carrier I'd leave until baby is here. Fit and preference is very personal to both wearer and wearee, but certainly start looking at the options available early on. Finding a local babywearing group and going to a couple of meets really helps as you can look/feel/try various options without having to buy straight away.

Edited by Cranky Kitten, 10 January 2013 - 11:06 AM.


Posted 10 January 2013 - 11:19 AM

I agree with all the items suggested above with the addition of a rocker or bouncer type thing.. ours was a life saver and I used it soooo much..

I think you can get away with buying the true basics to start with and I would also hold off until after you have a baby shower as most of the little bits and bobs people seem to buy you.. its so easy to go overboard (trust me I did hehe)... I would say cot, change table, thermometer, wraps, a few jumpsuit all in ones that have mittens, a small blanket, car seat, pram and rocker/bouncer...

goodluck, go with your instincts!!

#6 cassidysmummy

Posted 10 January 2013 - 11:21 AM

Remember if you have a baby shower or even after the bubs is born that you will be given alot so maybe start with the bigger items and then once you have your baby shower or bubs is born then see what you need.

And i really should take my own advice insted of buying stuff every time i go to the shops LOL

#7 sleepyerin

Posted 10 January 2013 - 11:38 AM

I agree with most of the people here who say you don't really need everything and certainly, you don't need it all straight away. That said, you aren't always up for shopping just after you've had a baby!

Choice reviews a range of baby products and safety tests them, if you are interested and they have a pretty good checklist of things that you need. That said, my pram failed their safety test, so I am just conscious to avoid using the pram in a way that creates that risk and haven't had any problems, so use your judgement.

The key things are:

a way to come home with your baby (car seat/capsule),
somewhere for the baby to sleep (bassinet, cot, other),
clothes that are easy to get on and off and appropriate for the time of year your baby is born (for the early days when you are worried if you pull a singlet on too hard you'll hurt them - you won't they are super resilient)
somewhere to change your baby (we have a change table, because it saves your back, but you can easily change them on the floor or the bed)
wraps for sleeping (muslin or equivalent)

I'd agree with buying a baby carrier or sling after they arrive, because you don't know what you want and what is comfortable for you until you have a baby in it. The same goes for things like breast pumps, breastfeeding pillows and the like. Plus these things are easy to get quickly once your baby is here, whereas prams and furniture (depending on what you like and how much you want to spend) can take a while to order in.

With DD I waited until after my baby afternoon tea to fill in any gaps and there weren't many! Don't be afraid to tell someone what to get you if they ask and be honest, if you are using a cot or bassinet it's not boring to ask for sheets or a mattress protector, it's sensible and people who ask for ideas are usually super grateful for some guidance!

#8 Choufleur

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:25 PM

I won't add a list of what to buy, I might put in some things I had way too many of:

- cot blankets / blankets
- wraps - not muslins but wraps I was given - I gave a lot away, the rest are in the cupboard
- non-practical pretty clothes in tiny sizes
- toiletries like baby bath stuff etc - I was given a hamper of it and I still haven't even used a whole 500ml bottle of J&J baby bath and DD is 18 months old. Your baby may have sensitive skin etc so don't go buying up in bulk.

Things I thought were great:
- I had 1 pigeon bottle (slow flow teat) which I had as a back-up, I b/f the whole time but it was handy to have in case of a hot day when she could have water or EBM
- a gro-egg for her bedroom - it was a bit luxurious but I had it on my baby shower list for some friends. We were in a new house so I had no idea what the temperature would do all day and night.

I never had a carrier as I thought I wouldn't use it, I will this time around though so I have my hands free.  I was given a bouncer as I thought I would use it heaps, I didn't.

I didn't have a fancy breastfeeding pillow, I just used a cushion that was lying around the house. Means you can feed out and about more easily.

Other things:
- panadol - yes!
- thermometer for baby
- a journal/notebook to write things down original.gif

#9 Cranky Kitten

Posted 10 January 2013 - 10:53 PM

Tbh, when it comes to baby toiletries, you don't really need them. I washed DS once in some of the gentlest natural stuff I got as a sample for his first bath to get the dried blood and gunk out of his hair and then it was plain water from there-on in much of the time. Occasionally I'd use a tiny bit of soap free stuff in the bath if he'd been particularly chucky that day.

Now of course, he needs bath stuff. Because 9 times out of 10 he's got grubby little hands, grubby little feet and has rubbed his lunch through his hair.

#10 bobet

Posted 11 January 2013 - 08:42 AM

Thanks, it's so nice to hear what is useful and what isn't.

From some of the stuff you read, there is just about a new worth of stuff to buy.

I'll definitely take your advice and buy sparingly to start with.

Enjoy the weekend.

#11 elmo_mum

Posted 11 January 2013 - 08:49 AM

to save on space, not wasting $$

we have our chest of drawers with the change table on top

yes, we bought the "conversion bit" - at least this way we still have finctional furniture when we finish with the change  table....

fwiw, some people dont get the converter thing, kist get a change mat, and storage tubs from ikea!

#12 marnie27

Posted 11 January 2013 - 09:05 AM

We used a set of malm drawers from Ikea with a change mat on top as a change table, works fantastically. We bought the 4 drawer set so its nice as high (as I'm fairly tall) and we stored all the nappies, wipes etc in the top drawer. We just stand at one end and open the drawer for access when we're changing.

When DS toilet trained we took away the mat and swapped the nappies and wipes for jocks - so easy!

#13 raone

Posted 11 January 2013 - 09:36 AM

Something I didn't get which I wish I did is a chair to feed in. DS is up stairs so when I am battling through arsenic hour I could put him down multiple times before he will actually go to sleep. I have nothing comfortable to sit on up there so it's back down the stairs each time. It's not a bad idea also for if I want to transfer him to cot quickly if he falls asleep at breast and I want to put him down without waking. I'm not sugesting getting an expensive rocker but maybe just move a chair from another part of the house f possible.

#14 Autumnmumma

Posted 12 January 2013 - 12:30 PM

I definitely love our chair too. It's a glider chair with matching foot stool. Soooo comfy!

Edited by Autumnmumma, 12 January 2013 - 12:31 PM.

#15 ScarfaceClaw

Posted 18 January 2013 - 08:16 AM

There is so much stuff that we were assured we'd need that we barely used, or just didn't quite suit our life style, that other people couldn't have lived without....

It comes down to personal preference in the end.... I used a tri pillow for feeding, much cheaper then a BF pillow, and as he was a pucker way easier to change the pillow case. We barely used the rocker, he was just as happy on a blanket on the floor.

Probably best money we spent was on an ERGO, still using it at least weekly, and so handy and convenient. I did prefer a sling in the early days, however.

I hated separates for a NB, everything used to ride up, so onsies were our preferred clothing item, but now onsies are PJs....

Don't buy too much, as there are bound to be gifts and hand me downs in places you least expect...

#16 zrello

Posted 19 January 2013 - 10:28 PM

Choice(www.choice.com.au) have a comprehensive baby section with reviews and safety tests on all the main things, even baby food.  Some reports you need to buy, I think membership is $14.95 for three months but you'll save even more than that in buying the safest, best products!  Even if you don't buy the reports, they have lots of free info on what safety aspects to look for when buying.
They have lists you can download too on what you need& whatnot o bother with. I got lots of stuff from the baby markets & eBay, you can then try things with your baby without outplaying huge expense if they hate it.  Also ask other mums if you can try slings, rockers for a week or two once baby is born so you can see if you'll use them.
I think a good rule is double the amount of home stuff you think you need, ( wraps, blankets, onsies, in case you have a spewy baby, and half the amount of going out stuff (pretty dresses), because people will always buy the cute clothes, not practical ones!
One thing I'm buying this time is a Rocker/glider, but need to find one I love, which is why I didn't buy one last time.  All the ones that are reasonably priced are a yucky cheap vinyl that wears out fast.
All the baby stores have lists you can use as a guide too (target, mothercare, baby bunting, babies r us), these are probably on the website too.

#17 Mr-Salt

Posted 20 January 2013 - 07:51 AM

just wanted to say quickly marnie27 Your kids have beautiful names!!!

#18 livvie7586

Posted 20 January 2013 - 08:10 AM

QUOTE (sleepyerin @ 10/01/2013, 12:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The key things are:

a way to come home with your baby (car seat/capsule),
somewhere for the baby to sleep (bassinet, cot, other),
clothes that are easy to get on and off and appropriate for the time of year your baby is born (for the early days when you are worried if you pull a singlet on too hard you'll hurt them - you won't they are super resilient)
somewhere to change your baby (we have a change table, because it saves your back, but you can easily change them on the floor or the bed)
wraps for sleeping (muslin or equivalent)

This OP original.gif  

you really don't need that much (although you might also feel more comfortable if you have a couple of bottles/some formula in case if breastfeeding).  even things like panadol (as PP have mentioned) can't be used until 1 month old, so doesn't need to be an urgent purchase

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