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#1 EffiesMum172

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:14 PM


Edited by EffiesMum172, 15 January 2013 - 11:06 PM.

#2 MoonPie

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:19 PM

It isn't a silly question!

Bub will stay skin to skin with you for an hour or so, and the first breastfeed will ideally happen in that time. You'll still have your midwife with you and she will frequently check your obs and blood loss, fundus etc. When you're ready (and depending on the demand for the birth suite) you'll have a shower and head over to your room, baby with you original.gif

Hope it all goes perfectly xx

#3 Expelliarmus

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:21 PM

I didn't have skin to skin contact because I was wearing a gown. It wasn't  something I cared about tbh.

DD1 I held for a bit, but she was taken and measured etc on the other side of the room and then wrapped because I was getting stitched. She was wheeled out to go under a lamp though within an hour or so.

DD2 I held the entire time I was being stitched. We had a go at breastfeeding but she wasn't interested. They weighed her and measured her bedside and the midwife nappied and wrapped her and put her in a cot so I could shower. Then we both went to a room and hung out.

DS I held for a bit but was unable to due to the stitches and having to be on gas to get them.

I wasn't bothered by any of it though. I wasn't any great skin to skin, breast crawling mama. I got the impression that it was partly a suggestion to wrap the baby and shower and partly an order - because they probably needed the delivery room for someone else at some point and you need to be ready to go to your room on the ward when your room is ready.

#4 mandala

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:31 PM

I had a pretty involved birth, with a fair bit of drama afterwards, but DS was fine. He was put directly onto my stomach, while the midwife whipped away the gown. He then crawled up onto my neck (missing my breasts)! Once I'd redirected him to the right spot, he spent two hours feeding, switching from breast to breast while the OB stitched me up. Once she was finally done with the stitches, they took him to the side to be checked and weighed, and then I was given him back again until my legs were stable enough for me to walk on and have a shower.

Then, after some tea and toast, it was off to the post-natal ward for all of us.

I found that the birth classes/hospital tour were great for questions like this. The midwives would explain what the hospital's policies were, and directed you to your OB for anything that was more up to them.

#5 namie

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:31 PM

Both boys were handed straight to me for skin to skin time. DS1 was taken to the other side of the room for some light (a little jaundiced) and for his measurements to be taken after a few minutes of cuddle time. He was only gone for the time if took for my Ob to give me what stitches I needed, then he was back to me for a breastfeed.

DS2 had heaps longer skin to skin time. My Ob wasn't there for the birth so I wasn't stitched up straight away. I'm a bit hazy on this, but I think he stayed on my chest while she did what was needed and then we got a breastfeed going after she was finished. I think he was a few hours old before they did his measurements.

#6 Another one

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:34 PM

QUOTE (Rebothy @ 09/01/2013, 08:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Bub will stay skin to skin with you for an hour or so, and the first breastfeed will ideally happen in that time. You'll still have your midwife with you and she will frequently check your obs and blood loss, fundus etc. When you're ready (and depending on the demand for the birth suite) you'll have a shower and head over to your room, baby with you original.gif

This was my experience with DS as well.  I really enjoyed the quiet time together with DH beside us.

DD was an emerg c/s and I saw her for a second before they worked on her then she was wrapped up and I got to hold for a about  minutes then off to SCN for her (with DH in tow).  I finally saw her a couple of hours later.

I don't think it affected how I bonded with DD or DS though, nor did it make a difference to successfully establishing breastfeeding.  In fact I think DD established b/f better.

God luck with this birth, hope you get to have the same experience.

#7 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:38 PM

DS was handed straight to me while he cried and shat on me and then being the boobaholic he is he latched himself on to my boob. I think I got a cuddle for about a good hour before they took him to weigh and clean up and wipe the poo off my belly original.gif

#8 Leslie Knope

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:45 PM

It's not a stupid question at all. original.gif
For both DD and DS I had skin to skin contact straight after the birth. Then they were taken away to be cleaned, weighted, Vitamin K, etc given while I was stitched. Then while I was still on the delivery bed I gave them their first breast feed. Once they were done I got in the shower while DH cuddled them.
After the shower I ate and them both myself and new bub were off to our room.
DD and DS were born two years apart but the after birth situation was very similar for both.
I loved the skin to skin contact and first breast feed. Hope you get to enjoy it too OP. original.gif

#9 -Belinda-

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:46 PM

sorry wrong thread

Edited by -Belinda-, 09 January 2013 - 07:47 PM.

#10 Tealdash

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:48 PM

With both my babies (diff ages) ,  I was still in my clothes from when I walked in, so we didnt get skin to skin straight away.....had a cuddle whilst the midwife was doing her biz down stairs and then they were whisked away for weighing etc whilst I got back up into bed (I had both my babies on all fours on the floor) , then after that we laid for ages together , on my chest, then we tried BFíng.. biggrin.gif

#11 TillyTake2

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:51 PM

DS needed oxygen etc so was only with me for a few seconds while my husband cut the cord. He came back maybe 10-15minutes later (they did all the resus stuff in the room & DH stood taking photos to show me as I was in bed. After that I got to hold him until I asked them to weigh him (maybe 30-45min?). We tried feeding in that time but he was totally out of it & not interested.

#12 Goggie

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:56 PM

Yep as PP's have stated, skin to skin for an hour or so, which was a great calming experience and allowed me to wind down after a full on labour. He did poo on me but who cares at that point!! I was really relaxed after this. We tried to breastfeed but he just wanted to sleep so we persisted for a few minutes and then tried again on the ward.
Then they took him to weigh etc next to me in same room, while I was stitched up, are something and had a shower. He never left my sight. This was also the time that DH got to hold him and call our families. Then once I was clean and he was good to go we headed upstairs to the ward. We were there post birth for about 2.5 hours.

Good luck, I hope you have the birth experience you are after.

#13 melaine

Posted 09 January 2013 - 08:06 PM

I had a similar experience to you with my first. He was term, but they were concerned that he had aspirated meconium so I didn't get to hold him. They took him to suction him, give him some breathing support etc and then took him to special care for antibiotics etc.

With my second, I delivered in the birth centre. I was kneeling and delivered him to the floor then brought him through my legs to hold him.  I got to keep holding him whitely the midwife gave me the syntocinon injection (I had low hb and low iron and had lost some blood so didn't wait for natural delivery of the placenta). I gave him to DH while i got up on the bed then I fed him and cuddled him in the bed. It was about an hour before the midwife weighed, measured him etc and then he came straight back to me and slept beside me all night.

It was a much nicer experience!

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