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#1 fillesetjumeaux

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:41 PM

I'm curious about the experience of others in this regard, as I never successfully made the transition as a child, and still think of my mother as "Mummy" even though when discussing her with others (including my sisters), I call her Mum (which seems like a different person).

My nearly-10yo calls me Mummy (although being the quirky child that she is, she often calls me Maman, the French word for Mummy/Mum).

How/when did your own children make the transition to calling you Mum?  What about you as a child?

Should I just start calling myself Mum and have them follow my lead, or will it be somewhat cute when my 20yo DSs are still calling me Mummy?!

#2 CalEliKat

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:43 PM

My mother died in 2005, when I was 31, I still called her Mummy.  And my Dad died last year when I was 38 and he was still my Daddy.  

Why change it?  I am confused

#3 R2B2

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:45 PM

My 2 big ones call me a mixture of Mum and Mummy. they are 6 and 2. occasionally when the 2 year old is upset its "Mumma"

My husband mentioned the other day though, that our 6 year old has completely stopped calling him "Daddy" and he is now known as "Dad"

i'm not sure how cute their friends will find them if they are calling you Mummy at 20 Tounge1.gif

#4 Country (deci)Mel

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:47 PM

My Mummy died when I was 38 years old and I hadn't kicked the habit - although I will admit to calling her 'Mum' in front of my friends when I was a teen.

My DP expressed surprise that my nephew was calling his mother 'Mummy' at 6, yet never blinked an eyelid at me????





* I call my father either Dad, Daddy O, or Papa Bear.

Edited by countrymel, 09 January 2013 - 12:51 PM.


#5 Country (deci)Mel

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:49 PM

* weird posty?

Edited by countrymel, 09 January 2013 - 12:50 PM.


#6 Justaduck

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:50 PM

We are in the opposite boat - DD only says Dad and DP wants to be called Daddy..he keeps trying to encourage it.

I stopped by 5 I think but I pushed myself away from them so maybe not normal?

#7 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:51 PM

Why do you need to make a switch?

#8 cattivo lupo

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:51 PM

My 18 year old will still occasionally call me Mummy, and three of them often call me Mumma for some reason.  To DS16 I am always Mum though.  



#9 fillesetjumeaux

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:53 PM

kerrie23, I don't want to change it, but I notice that most tweens are already saying "mum" instead of "mummy" so obviously there is some transition (unless everyone calls themselves "mum" from the start?).

I'm happy to continue being Mummy as long as my children are happy to say it.  But I remember as a teen not addressing my mum in front of friends because I was too embarrassed to call her Mummy, and she was just never Mum.

#10 CalEliKat

Posted 09 January 2013 - 12:55 PM

Kids are pretty cluey, no doubt they will begin to self regulate without making a 'conscious' decision to do so

#11 ~~Cleopatra~~

Posted 09 January 2013 - 01:08 PM

I'd say go with their lead. I had older cousins so I was keen to copy them and use Mum as soon as I could. I haven't called my parents Mummy or Daddy since I was little, however my Dad still refers to Mum as Mummy when he talks to me and it drives me nuts. My children use both and they are all under 10.

#12 bakesgirls

Posted 09 January 2013 - 01:17 PM

My DH is almost 34 and still calls his mother Mummy or Mumma. I started calling my mother Mum instead of Mummy when I was around 8 or 9. My mother is 56 and still calls her mother Mummy.

I'd just go with what works for you and your family. No need to change it if everyone is happy with what they are called.

#13 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 09 January 2013 - 01:49 PM

I still call my Dad Daddy, when discussing him I call him Dad, but when speaking to him depending on my mood still use Daddy.

All my kids mainly call us Mum or Dad though, occasionally I will get Mummy but it's rare.

#14 DylMah

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:02 PM

My 5 and 4 year olds generally call DH and I Daddy and Mummy, although they occasionally call us Dad and Mum. It something they've done on their own, and we're just going with the flow. When DD is really upset, she'll call me Mumma.

DH and his siblings call their parents by their first name, and have done since they were little because their parents always referred to the other by their names rather than as Mum or Dad. Took me a while to get my head around it. I hadn't thought about it for a while, then the other day, DS referred DH's mother by her name rather than by 'Granny'.

#15 elegie

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:26 PM

My sisters and I never stopped calling our parents Mummy and Daddy. When I refer to them in the third person it's usually Mum or Dad. I don't see the need to consciously make the switch - they'll work it out and change if they want to.

#16 liveworkplay

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:28 PM

I get called Mum, Mummy and Mumma by my three. They are 9, 7 and 3.

#17 Shadowess

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:37 PM

My 5 year old calls me both Mum and Mummy. Depends on what she wants, and her mood, I guess! She also calls me Mumma, which I have to say, I really don't like. She also uses Daddy and Dad interchangeably, but uses Daddy more than Dad.

DD2, well, all she says is Daddy!

I remember my Mum telling me that when she was growing up, it was seen as lower class to call your mother Mum, so she always called her mother either Ma or Mummy, although as an adult, she defaulted to Ma. Her mother was british though (but in Australia), and her father was an Army officer, and they were all about the "proper" way to do things etc, so that rule may have been a british thing. Who knows!



#18 MrsDamonSalvatore

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:39 PM

Mine stil gets called mummy.when I was a teen it was Mumma usually with bear added on too. These days I alternate between mummy and mummabear. She only gets mum when I'm shocked at something she says, oh and she gets mother if I need to ask her something lol.

Mt father has always been either dad or ray depending on how our relationship is going at that point. No affectionate names for him.  mellow.gif mellow.gif

Mine stil gets called mummy.when I was a teen it was Mumma usually with bear added on too. These days I alternate between mummy and mummabear. She only gets mum when I'm shocked at something she says, oh and she gets mother if I need to ask her something lol.

Mt father has always been either dad or ray depending on how our relationship is going at that point. No affectionate names for him.  mellow.gif mellow.gif

#19 Propaganda

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:39 PM

I get called both.

I still call my own mother "Mummy," sometimes. Not often, but sometimes.

#20 ThatsNotMyName

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:45 PM

I think about this often. I remember my sister and I making the switch from Mummy to Mum at the end of primary/start of high school. Mummy seemed embarrassingly baby like at the time & we were already under scrutiny at school for speaking like "poshies" so Mum seemed the "cooler" option.

DS still calls us Mummy & Daddy & I hope that doesn't change anytime soon, I love it. DD calls us Mamma or Mum and Dadda. She's never got the hang of Mummy & Daddy & it may not happen now.

#21 A.K.A

Posted 09 January 2013 - 02:55 PM

I get Mum mostly from my almost 5yr old, sometimes I get Mama but hardly ever Mummy. Our family have a habit of creating many different nicknames for people so my mum got Ma, Mum, Mother, Mummy Mumstar and it goes on.

DH gets Daddy or Dad, my FIL is Papa.


My father was always either Dad, or David. He was never my Daddy.

Edited by A.K.A, 09 January 2013 - 02:56 PM.


#22 AnotherFeral

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:15 PM

I've noticed that when other adults speak to my kids, they frequently refer to me as 'Mum'. The teachers at school refer to kids' parents as 'Mum' or 'Dad', never 'Mummy' or 'Daddy' (that I know of, at least). Even my dad refers to me as 'Mum' when speaking to my kids. So I think outside influences will probably play a strong role.
DD1 switched from calling me 'Mummy' to 'Mum' for a while when she was 3 (preschool teacher influence, maybe?), but later switched back.
DD2, now 4, has called me 'Mama' for quite a while now and even DD1 has picked it up, so I get a mix of 'Mummy' and 'Mama'. DD2 also calls XH 'Dadda' more often than 'Daddy'.

#23 IsolaBella

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:22 PM

My kids already use both.

Just like I call them both William/will (eg.) they call me Mummy/mum. Mummy is usually when they want to talk to me or sweeten me up. Mum is what they say when they want something.... You know... Muuumm (whiny voice).

I don't remember calling my folks anything other then mum and dad (now the two Nonnos).

#24 IsolaBella

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:24 PM

Just going to add my grandparents were always Nan and Pop. Not Nanny or Poppy. I went to visit my near 94yo grandmother today.... Introduced my kids to my Nan.



#25 Lil Chickens

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:30 PM

DD usually calls me mummy but sometimes mama.  On occasion I get my first name because DH and I call each other by our names (we only say mum or dad if we are telling the child to go andtalk to mum).

DS can only say Maaarrrmmmaaa!

I call Mum 'Mummy' sometimes, Chris sometimes (when I was a teen she was in a softball team with my older sister and all the other team members called her mum so we called her Chris to get her attention).

I call Dad 'Daddy' sometimes or 'Ian Wian' or just 'Wian' at other times.  Don't know how it started it just did.

My point is your kids will figure it out and unless they choose something you are uncomfortable with then just go with it.




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