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#1 rowbi123

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:08 PM

I don't understand how some women say 'i just know im pregnant'

I think that every month - and every month I'm wrong! sad.gif

I 'feel' like i'm pregnant now, as I have really heavy/veiny BBS, nausea, dizzyness and fatigue.....but still a BFN....although AF isn't due for a bit

Rant over! wink.gif



#2 HRH Countrymel

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:13 PM

I suspect people 'know' a lot... and then one month they are actually right.


I know nothing.

#3 ~nikki~

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:16 PM

Every month I thought I wasn't I was. When I thought I was I wasn't.

It sucks!

#4 Riotproof

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:23 PM

They are very similar. I was just reading this http://www.mypregnancybaby.com/pms-or-pregnancy/

#5 raone

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:25 PM

Same as Nikki. Was about to throw my bfp out when I noticed two lines, nearly fainted!

#6 Corella

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:26 PM

It's the ones who say they know before AF is late that make me a bit annoyed. No, until you have enough hCG in your system to change your hormones and stop AF, your symptoms are not of a pregnancy.

#7 MrsLexiK

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:35 PM

QUOTE (Corella @ 08/01/2013, 06:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's the ones who say they know before AF is late that make me a bit annoyed. No, until you have enough hCG in your system to change your hormones and stop AF, your symptoms are not of a pregnancy.


I disagree, I got my positive before my period was due, and before that I had had at the same time for the past few afternoons/night a real nausea feeling. To the point I almost pulled over on the freeway. When it happened on the Saturday night I did a test the next day and yup it was positive. I stopped getting the nausea feeling at about 16 weeks. Oh and my boobs ached, which has only happened twice, I don't get that like a lot of women do when they are premenstrual. It happened the month I had a suspected chem pregnancy and the month I conceived this one.

#8 Mousky

Posted 08 January 2013 - 05:40 PM

My boobs were really sore and my areola's were huge, that's how I knew.

#9 BlueEyedBeauties

Posted 08 January 2013 - 08:05 PM

I also disagree Corella... I knew before AF was due as my body changed etc. Boobs were super sore, my bras didnt fit, I was so so tired, beyond tired even..  and I was eating like a horse.
That was with DS.
With DD, if I didnt notice my AF was late, I would never have known.

Its probably frustrating to hear when you are so desperate and just want to know for sure if you are pg or not..

as you said OP - you still could be too early for it to show. I hope for your sake its a bit fat sticky BFP.

Edited by BlueEyedBeauties, 08 January 2013 - 08:06 PM.


#10 Mrs--S

Posted 09 January 2013 - 08:31 AM

Before my BFP I thought I was going to get AF to the point of wearing a pad to bed. I had all the usual PMS. I didn't test until AF was a day late. Only now looking back do I realise I did feel a little different, alot of my cramps were on my right side as oppossed to all over.

ETA: In fact last month I was so sure I WASN'T PG that I was an emotional wreck also.

Edited by Tiger-lily, 09 January 2013 - 08:32 AM.


#11 Nofliesonme

Posted 09 January 2013 - 08:51 AM

I knew before AF and I just knew.

#12 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 09 January 2013 - 09:55 AM

I don't think you're on your own OP....almost 3 years of secondary infertility nearly drove me batty.....every month I was positive I was pg.....big, sore boobs, feeling nauseous....even when AF would make her inevitable appearance I would deny it and think it was an implantation bleed ....or an early miscarriage because I was most definitely pg....despite the emphatic BFNs I kept getting....it's quite cruel what your mind can do to you.....

Fingers crossed that one month soon will be your month.....

#13 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:11 AM

Progesterone gives you lovely pregnancy symtpoms - which of course peaks at about 7dpo. That's why I never paid attention to the symptoms, it was only until 1-2 days before AF was due that I would take notice as I knew by then my Progesterone should be dropping off dramatically in prep for AF.

Also people tend to think that as soon as the egg fertilizes, it starts producing HCG.

#14 hecklespeckled

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:15 AM

QUOTE (Corella @ 08/01/2013, 05:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's the ones who say they know before AF is late that make me a bit annoyed. No, until you have enough hCG in your system to change your hormones and stop AF, your symptoms are not of a pregnancy.



Why?  I am one of those who always knew before I was late!  My hCG was always through the roof even for a singleton (in the medium range for triplets) so its not impossible.


Edited by CrunchyNut, 09 January 2013 - 10:15 AM.


#15 Dawarr

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:23 AM

OP, I'm really sorry that you are struggling with this. And I can understand how hurtful it would be to hear women say "I know I'm pregnant", when you are not.

For what it's worth, though, I DID know when I was pregnant. I knew because my breasts suddenly seemed to explode, growth wise. There was nothing subtle about it. I once even had one of my good friends announce to me, BEFORE my period was due, "Oh my god you're PREGNANT!" - this after copping a feel of my boobs (standard gay queen greeting to long time fag hag!).

But, of my nine pregnancies, only 2 resulted in live births. So knowing I was pregnant, even before testing, was a very bitter sweet experience. It made me HATE pregnancy symptoms, in fact.

So again, for what it's worth, there are women who KNOW they are pregnant. And for whom this knowledge is more complicated than you might realise. They may indeed have more in common with you than you think.

Best wishes for your TTC journey  original.gif


#16 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:37 AM

The first time I was pregnant (miscarriage), eating Weet Bix made me feel a tiny bit nauseous in the few days before I was due. The second time (also miscarriage), a guy at work returned from his break (again a few days before I was due) and I notice the cigarette smell from him, he had sat over the partition frm me for months and I hadn't noticed the smell before. The last time, successful this time, also a few days before hand, I could smell the tea of a girl sitting a few meters away from me when I hadn't smelt it before then.

Each of these times I didn't say or think that I knew I was pregnant, just a small part of me wondered if I was and the first 2 times I told my husband.

Edited by Dylan's Mummy, 09 January 2013 - 10:40 AM.


#17 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 09 January 2013 - 10:38 AM

I had no idea. My pre-af and early pregnancy symptoms are identical.

#18 rowbi123

Posted 09 January 2013 - 04:58 PM

Thanks for all your well wishes ladies!

I am trying to stop reading into these 'symptoms' too much....my best friend just told me she is 4.5 weeks pregnant, so maybe I am getting sympathy symptoms for her lol

It doesn't help matters that I am a POAS addict....I have done 2 that are BFN....
even though AF is still not due for another 8 days....

Is it a common thing to get negative results if you are testing too early....or am I just trying to kid myself.

So impatient! lol
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#19 BlueEyedBeauties

Posted 09 January 2013 - 05:18 PM

Rowbi - yes, I think HPTs were invented as a form of torture. Sometimes I think torture would actually be less painful :/

Being 8 days out from AF would make you only about 6dpo IF you O'd on day 14...
I would certainly hold off testing for at least another 5 days... Even then it may be too early.

Best of luck to you.. And just remember some woman just don't get symptoms so there is no need worrying what others do or say..


#20 feralangel

Posted 09 January 2013 - 05:31 PM

I had a metallic taste in my mouth.  That's how I knew with both my pregnancies, even before AF was due.

Good luck - i hope you get your BFP soon.

#21 Mpjp is feral

Posted 09 January 2013 - 05:35 PM

Oh yes I've been sure I've been pregnant that many times!!! Then a FS told me I'd NEVER get pregnant, even with IVF etc (actually he said less than a 5% chance which I thought was something, until he said "let me rephrase, there is greater than 95% chance you WON'T get pregnant). So then those pregnancy symptoms just disappeared.

Which is why I was 16 weeks when I found out I WAS actually pregnant!!! Was SO SURE those big boobs and nauseous feelings were because I was a fat piggy eating too much!!

Now I am back to being SO SURE I am pregnant about 6 times a year..... rolleyes.gif

#22 TillyTake2

Posted 09 January 2013 - 05:39 PM

QUOTE (Corella @ 08/01/2013, 06:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's the ones who say they know before AF is late that make me a bit annoyed. No, until you have enough hCG in your system to change your hormones and stop AF, your symptoms are not of a pregnancy.


I disagree, I had clear bfp's well before my period was due (a week in 2/3 pregnancies!) & I had tell tail "signs" that for me only eer happen when I'm pregnant.

So yes, some women do "know" they are pregnant. I also "know" when I am ovulating, down to pm or am on the day, some people would say that was crazy too...

#23 TillyTake2

Posted 09 January 2013 - 05:46 PM

Re the hpts... I'm also an addict but had early bfns (6/7 dpo & this pregnancy also 8dpo). I had very clear positives by 10dpo which was 5 days before my period.

#24 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 09 January 2013 - 05:52 PM

QUOTE (TillyTake2 @ 09/01/2013, 06:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I also "know" when I am ovulating, down to pm or am on the day, some people would say that was crazy too...

As I wrote above, I always thought I was pg, but I was only right twice! But yes, I could always tell when I was ovulating, even which ovary I was ovulating from.....and according to blood tests I *was * ovulating, just not "well"... in the words of my FS....sigh. He was very judgemental ....

#25 Awesome101

Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:25 PM

Rant away - it must be frustrating  sad.gif

Corella - both my pregnancies were unexpected but I absolutely knew I was preggers before AF. I am lucky that I have very regular cycles and anything out of the ordinary grabs my attention. The only two times I have felt symptoms both ended up being pregnancies. I got strong positives before AF was due so my hcg levels were high enough.

OP - chin up. Everyone is different, the symptoms you describe are also normal PMS symptoms so its easy to get confused until suddenly a BFP sneaks right up on you when you least expect it. Good luck!



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