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#1 SMforshort

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:02 PM

How would you answer your six year old if they asked you "What is a condom"?

SM

#2 bakesgirls

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:05 PM

I'd tell them what it is and what it is used for.

#3 Country (deci)Mel

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:08 PM

Depends on the context.

Has he found a used condom? Has he found a box of condoms in your drawer? Has he heard the word?



#4 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:10 PM

Don't know!

Sorry, I personally know what a condom is, not sure what I would tell my 6 yr old ......he asked me what tampons were the other day...he found one in my hand bag...I told him it was something girls sometimes use if they are bleeding....didn't tell him where etc....that seemed to satisfy him. Maybe with a condom I would say something similar ..."something men use sometimes.."...I would keep it vague...if i said" men put it on their penis so they don't impregnate a women they are having sex with" I would be there all day answering questions I don't think he's really old enough to understand!


#5 MintyBiscuit

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:12 PM

Probably something similar to Ferdinand, although I'd add in that it's something only grown ups need to worry about - when I was little and discovered that "seeds" were involved in getting pregnant I became terrified of eating bread with sesame seeds.

#6 niggles

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:15 PM

I'd answer it with a question or two to start with.

Where did you hear that?
What do you know about it?

And then I'd answer the question directly. The level of detail would depend if the child knows what sex is. If not, I'd say it's something men use to help keep themselves healthy, or their penis' healthy if a little more detail is required.

#7 Baggy

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:18 PM

I'd keep it short and not really go into detail.  
Probably something like this:

QUOTE
It is something used to keep your body safe and also to stop a baby being made.

+
QUOTE
it's something only grown ups need to worry about




#8 raone

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:19 PM

I remember asking my mum that question at around eight. One of those AIDS ads was on tv. She got a little uncomfortable and told me to ask my brother. I'm guessing because he has a penis? huh.gif His explanation certainly left nothing to the imagination!

#9 Alacritous~Andy

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:22 PM

My favourite response to any question like this is, "Why do you ask?"

Get some context before trying to guess what they need to know.  

A friend of mine had her 7 yo ask, "Mum, what does porn stars mean?" After a very delicate, detailed response about the porn industry, sexualisation of women, etc, it turned out her child was asking because they were flicking through the program guide on the tv, and "Pawn Stars" (a show about second hand stuff) was coming up next, and the child was trying to work out if it was worth watching.

#10 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:39 PM

QUOTE (Alacritous~Andy @ 08/01/2013, 04:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My favourite response to any question like this is, "Why do you ask?"

Get some context before trying to guess what they need to know.  

A friend of mine had her 7 yo ask, "Mum, what does porn stars mean?" After a very delicate, detailed response about the porn industry, sexualisation of women, etc, it turned out her child was asking because they were flicking through the program guide on the tv, and "Pawn Stars" (a show about second hand stuff) was coming up next, and the child was trying to work out if it was worth watching.

Ha! Very funny...



#11 ~sydblue~

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:40 PM

QUOTE (Lucretia Borgia @ 08/01/2013, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Don't know!

Sorry, I personally know what a condom is, not sure what I would tell my 6 yr old ......he asked me what tampons were the other day...he found one in my hand bag...I told him it was something girls sometimes use if they are bleeding....didn't tell him where etc....that seemed to satisfy him. Maybe with a condom I would say something similar ..."something men use sometimes.."...I would keep it vague...if i said" men put it on their penis so they don't impregnate a women they are having sex with" I would be there all day answering questions I don't think he's really old enough to understand!

I like your explanation about the tampon. Gives a bit of room for explaining about Nasal Tampons.

#12 Guest_~Karla~_*

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:47 PM

QUOTE (Alacritous~Andy @ 08/01/2013, 03:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My favourite response to any question like this is, "Why do you ask?"

Get some context before trying to guess what they need to know.  

A friend of mine had her 7 yo ask, "Mum, what does porn stars mean?" After a very delicate, detailed response about the porn industry, sexualisation of women, etc, it turned out her child was asking because they were flicking through the program guide on the tv, and "Pawn Stars" (a show about second hand stuff) was coming up next, and the child was trying to work out if it was worth watching.


roll2.gif That's hilarious! My mum told me that one of my friends once asked her mum where she came from when we were about 5 or 6. Her mum stumbled over a brief explanation about sex, pulled out a copy "Where did I come from" etc while her daughter sat there wide-eyed. At the end, the girl said "I just wanted to know if I came from the hospital like Karla did".

#13 Missy Shelby

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:53 PM

My eldest has started to ask a few questions about babies etc.

Normally I just keep the answer honest and straight to the point.  I think to tmi can confused them.

I never ever just brush off these questions to someone else, she is asking me because she trusts me and seems to think I know all the answers to everything!!! lol biggrin.gif

#14 CallMeFeral

Posted 08 January 2013 - 03:57 PM

QUOTE (~sydblue~ @ 08/01/2013, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I like your explanation about the tampon. Gives a bit of room for explaining about Nasal Tampons.


laughing2.gif
I can't wait for the bit where the kid scrapes his knee and asks for a tampon.

#15 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 08 January 2013 - 04:25 PM

QUOTE (CallMeAliG @ 08/01/2013, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
laughing2.gif
I can't wait for the bit where the kid scrapes his knee and asks for a tampon.

Yeh...I know....maybe not the best parental explanation I've ever given! Happened on a bus......I was flustered and hoping no one saw/overheard it...(why I don't know...it's not like they are illegal....!)

#16 SeaPrincess

Posted 08 January 2013 - 04:32 PM

QUOTE (Alacritous~Andy @ 08/01/2013, 01:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My favourite response to any question like this is, "Why do you ask?"

Get some context before trying to guess what they need to know.

I agree.  DS1 asked me what is a va-jay-jay?  I asked him where he heard it and he said he couldn't remember, so I told him that I'd remember what it was when he remembered where he heard it.  I got to the bottom of it and explained it, everyone happy.





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