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#1 eyesgreen

Posted 08 January 2013 - 08:53 AM

I thought I was doing really well after having a miscarriage in November, but I logged into Facebook today and someone from work has posted a picture of their 12 week scan and announcement. I was due to have my 12 week scan this week and so our due dates would be about the same. I now will see her at work going through her pregnancy thinking I would have been at the same stage. Does it get any easier?

Edited by eyesgreen, 08 January 2013 - 08:54 AM.


#2 .MrsM.

Posted 08 January 2013 - 09:00 AM

not for a while sad.gif  it will, but there are always going to be things popping up that will remind you.
i didn't stop hating other people's pregnancy announcements until this pregnancy (which is proving successful)

im sorry for you loss x

#3 antigone_

Posted 08 January 2013 - 09:02 AM

I understand and am sorry you have to go through this. I had two close friends due within a week of my baby I lost last January - they all would have been born in September 2012.

It has been really hard and there were times I felt wistful and upset. When each of the babies were born, I thought about my lost baby.

Falling pregnant again (it took 6 months for me) eased the pain. I am finding now that it is much easier, even after quite a few months thinking I was ok and really wasn't (it always comes up when others announce or share).

It's really early days for you yet - I'm a year past the miscarriage and can say I've healed a lot. When you're going through it though, you just want the pain to go away and wonder how long you have to suffer.

Much love to you xoxoxoxo

#4 BlueEyedBeauties

Posted 08 January 2013 - 09:09 AM

I took me a while.. It's been 10 months for me.. And it's getting easier.

I have always been happy for friends as I could never not be happy for them... But seeing pregnant woman at shops, or new born babies was really hard.
I found myself judging woman in my mind saying things like "they don't look like they deserve a baby"... Really silly things!
But now I'm back to being super clucky... I still get upset seeing pregnant ladies but not so much..

It's a hard journey... I lost it in the middle of the shops the other day when I saw a baby and started thinking about what mine would have looked like etc.... Just try to be strong but give yourself time to heal properly.

I'm sure if you tell your work mate that you're happy for her, but explain the situation and let her know so she understands when you don't get too involved with her pregnancy etc.


#5 Riotproof

Posted 08 January 2013 - 10:07 AM

Yes, it does a little bit.
You can edit your settings so her posts don't appear on your feed. Sadly this doesn't seem to include if she gets tagged in a photo, unless I'm doing it wrong.

Be kind to yourself, and if you know her well it might be an idea to explain how you feel. Otherwise, I'd leave it be.

#6 eyesgreen

Posted 08 January 2013 - 10:14 AM

Thank you for all your kind words. I'm happy for her and I guess I just need to carry on. If I get a BFP this month it might help wink.gif

#7 ~polly~

Posted 08 January 2013 - 10:26 AM

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It sucks! I am in the same situation and would have been about 12 weeks now too.  My SIL just announced her pregnancy and this will be the first grandchild. Im dreading when we have to see the whole family soon. Everyone assumed I would be the first in the family to have a baby and no one knows we are trying so Im sure there will be lots of questions

#8 eyesgreen

Posted 10 January 2013 - 06:11 PM

Not wanting to tempt fate but just got a faint BFP.gif here's hoping it sticks

#9 pixii

Posted 10 January 2013 - 07:08 PM

eyesgreen wow thats awesome I have all my bits crossed for you

#10 spokie

Posted 21 January 2013 - 10:56 AM

did your faint bfp get darker?

#11 munas8

Posted 24 January 2013 - 11:29 AM

I know hoe you feel I MC in June last eyar fellpregnant again in Nov only to find out it was ectopic had to have surgey at the same time my best friend had her baby and brother in law had his child which was an unplanned pregnancy. I was distraught and I amsooo happy for them buy yet so sad at the same time.


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