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#1 noonehere

Posted 07 January 2013 - 09:59 PM

we are guests to a church wedding south of WA in october, DP is groomsman (full suit)

i have never been to a church wedding so what the hell do i wear! im a size 20-22 most of it the top half.

the weather down south can be quite cold so would i just take a jacket?

we are getting a family photo done so i really would like to look nice.

also i cant wear heels unless im sitting down LOL

#2 ~~Cleopatra~~

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:02 PM

Unless its specified it would be semi-formal like any wedding. Are there really that few done in church now that people don't know what to wear?

#3 MrsDamonSalvatore

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:05 PM

3of my friends and myself have all gotten married In the  last 2 yrs,none of us had a church wedding. I would have no idea what to wear...

#4 au*lit

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:08 PM

What would you wear if it weren't in a church?

#5 Sunny003

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:10 PM

You can wear whatever you like, however if it were me I'd wear a dress or a skirt. Depending on the dress code as to how formal I'd go. If there's no dress code & you can't ask them, go by how formal the invite is.

If my DH were groomsman, I'd go a little more formal than normal, sober could get some nice photos together.

You could go a short heel, or even a heel for photos & take flats?

My cousin is having a garden wedding & I have a knee length black lace dress. I want to find hot pink heels, but I'll also take flats or thongs rather than bare feet. LOL

#6 noonehere

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:11 PM

i would wear some sort of maxi and small wedges... iv only ever been to garden weddings though...

i should add i love my "arty" and "hippie" store clothes but i also love a lace detail with lots of colour...

she is wearing full white dress with big train and the colours are garden greens, off whites (so i dont match)

Edited by duckasorus, 07 January 2013 - 10:15 PM.

#7 Expelliarmus

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:14 PM

Same as any other wedding original.gif

#8 MrsLexiK

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:23 PM

The church weddings I have been to ate more formal in general then other weddings. Whilst we had a minister do our wedding it was not in a church, I know some of the guests would not have worn the length or cleavage they did if it had been in the church. But where I am from you dress modest for church not too short and not too boobie for a start.

#9 noonehere

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:23 PM

what about this?


#10 luke's mummu

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:26 PM

Pretty much the same as any other wedding, except I would probably dress up a bit more if our partner is a groomsman - get some lovely photos done!

Probably not a short skirt unless you have great legs and want to show them off! probably not a singlet top or anything too low/skimpy.

#11 Expelliarmus

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:29 PM

I went to a church wedding 3 weeks ago. People were there in everything from formal suits and cocktail dresses to jeans.

A nice dress or pants/top will do nicely, OP original.gif

#12 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:44 PM

I just go by the dress code??

If it's formal I wear formal... if it's cocktail I go with that...

If you want to be technical it also depends on the time of day. Morning wedding = less formal, Afternoon wedding = more formal.

Our wedding is formal, but if people generally make an effort to dress up or look nice, then I won't lose any sleep if they aren't in full length gowns, as formal technically is.

If you are wanting to plan ahead ask the bride what her dress code is going to be original.gif

Edited by PussyDids, 07 January 2013 - 10:49 PM.

#13 Gudrun

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:46 PM

OP, I think the dress in the link you posted is eminently suitable.

#14 noonehere

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:46 PM

or this but in another colour?

#15 Gudrun

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:48 PM

Second one is suitable too but I prefer the first one.

#16 libbylu

Posted 07 January 2013 - 10:52 PM

Dress shouldn't be too much above the knees and probably not strapless or too much cleavage.
A nice dress and some pretty ballet flats would be fine.

#17 mollybot

Posted 07 January 2013 - 11:16 PM

My go to standby is a maxi-dress with a shrug, and pretty ballet flats :


I think this one is very pretty and you could wear a pink, peach or green shrug to go with it :


I'd get the shrug in fine wool/cashmere from Woolovers. They're much cheaper than the equivalent Australian knits, have a wider range, and they get here in 2 weeks. The XL should fit you - it fits me and I'm a broad shouldered size 20.

This one is very pretty - it also works untied:


But Ezibuy does have a good range of shrugs (73 to be precise) so check them out too original.gif Search under "Bolero".

If its really nippy, I'd wear leggings under the maxi-dress: something you can't get away with in a shorter dress ! You can also add a Pashmina if its really cold as well... Not to mention a strappy thermal vest biggrin.gif

I know this sounds a bit odd - wear a floaty dress and killer thermals, but it's what Europeans do - wear "normal" clothes and then thermals underneath. Much better than putting yourself into a pantsuit, or shivering in tights and a short skirt.

Oh, and if you have money to burn:



#18 Guest_Maybelle_*

Posted 07 January 2013 - 11:36 PM

Both dresses are great. You have good taste  original.gif

#19 noonehere

Posted 07 January 2013 - 11:51 PM

I like the idea if a bolero.. I was thinking cardy or my dressy long coat.

LOVE the igigi but WAYS out of price range....

I liked the first dress better so think i will layby that as i can pay it off in my own time..

Thinking i will go the size up so i can get it fitted to my belly and bit more length (im old fashioned hahaha)

#20 Academic

Posted 08 January 2013 - 12:25 AM

My sister had a church wedding recently (the only one I've ever been to) and I wore a creamy-coloured silk knee-length dress, and a pale peach silk bolero over the top (which I took off for the reception). The dress had thin straps and I just felt I should cover my shoulders in a church, especially as I have a partial sleeve tattoo.

#21 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 08 January 2013 - 06:17 AM

btw OP I am going to a wedding in a church 3 weeks before our wedding and I am wearing a cream silk knee length dress with red and orange flowers with emerald green leaves and azure blue alone the bottom. I plan on wearing it with my emerald green heels and emerald green cardi.

I LOVE the grey lace dress, though for me, I'd wear more colour to a wedding, but I wear LOTS of colour.

#22 PrizzyII

Posted 08 January 2013 - 06:59 AM

Hats are nice at weddings... do you like a hat?

#23 somila

Posted 08 January 2013 - 07:04 AM

I have been to many, many church weddings.  People wear whatever they want (short, strapless etc).  If you are in the wedding photos you might want to co-ordinate style/colour with other members of the family - or not.

#24 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 08 January 2013 - 07:07 AM

I always used to think that you should at least cover your shoulders and d├ęcolletage ......but a few church weddings I have been to the bride fronts up in the ubiquitous strapless bodice dress, many with boobs right up (think the women out of the Tudors) ...so I reckon anything goes these days!

#25 Expelliarmus

Posted 08 January 2013 - 08:58 AM

I always thought that was a Catholic thing? I noticed it caused an entire wardrobe change among xH's cousins after the ceremony. I haven't noticed it in other churches.

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