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#1 Bearynice

Posted 06 January 2013 - 02:18 PM

Hi! W are trying to Tt our boys. They were 3 in December. These are my first kids, so I am clueless! We have been Tt for 8 days now.
They have been no nappies all that time ( night time fine... No accidents) but during the day they are constantly wetting.
They get too engrosed in playing and just pee everywhere.
I am trying to remain positive and upbeat, but it's so draining and hard work. Hubby has been home to help a bit too. We have been consistent the whole time, but just wondering on tips of how to handle this.

If the boys keep heir undies dry and make it to potty in time they get sticker they are collecting to get a DVD.

How long til your kids got it after starting training? I am getting sick f being stuck at home while Tt!
Any help would be great!

#2 rainycat

Posted 06 January 2013 - 02:49 PM

No advice but my twins are the same age and have just started too.  It is not fun!!

#3 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 06 January 2013 - 03:39 PM

try taking them every half hour, they don't get a choice "right guys lets go time for the toilet". I would still go out and do your usual things, just remember to take lots of toilet breaks, we would make sure they went before leaving the house and then again when arriving.

#4 mumto3princesses

Posted 06 January 2013 - 08:40 PM

I agree, just go out and do whatever you want to do with regular toilet breaks.

I never stayed home when toilet training my twins (although I toilet trained them at seperate times as one was ready before the other). I had DD#1 at school and just made sure they went or tried to go before going out etc.

The first few days I just took DD#1 to and from school which was a 25-30min walk each way (they were in pram though). Then after that I started going out wherever but I just made sure I had plastic bags, undies, wipes and changes of clothes just in case.

It's a distant memory now but I think I used to get them to try and go roughly every hour or when going out or leaving to come home.

#5 Farmgal

Posted 06 January 2013 - 08:57 PM

We started at 3 years 3 months. We had been using the potty before that, but had not gone for only undies in the day before that due to too many accidents.
We then went into undies at home, we reminded them to use the loo a lot, but we did have quite a few accidents, as they were "too busy playing, Mum". Luckily we had wooden  floors then.
When in the car we did pull ups at first and then after a while just undies and a protective mat on the car seat. We never had an accident in the car or when we were out. Mind you there were lots of loo trips while shopping etc.
TT my twin boys was a long process, but the undies stage was pretty painless. They have just graduated to no pull ups at night, they have just turned four. We still have a few accidents at night, thank goodness for waterproof mattress protectors.

Good luck! Paper towel and disinfectant will be your new friends!

#6 Guest_CaptainOblivious_*

Posted 06 January 2013 - 09:14 PM

I'm not a twin mum, but saw it in the recent topics (so feel free to ignore me). With my kids I gave them a sticker and a smartie for a try and a lolly and sticker for any kind of success then phased out the rewards for trying, then switched the lolly for success to a sticker towards a reward of their choice.

They were super keen to have a try (a million times a day) and get a sticker and a smartie and eventually the tries worked out so they got the lolly (or a square of chocolate) and it got them over the hurdle of being too engrossed in play until they got the hang of it. We phased out all of the rewards after about the 3rd week and were able to go out and about on day 3 each time. Obviously that would be much trickier to do with 2 kids.

Otherwise, can you just keep them playing outside undercover with no pants on? My kids loved to do a 'bush wee' and a bit of wee isn't going to kill the garden. Mine also go into a pattern of needing to wee every hour so if you keep track of how long it is between wees, you can get an idea of how regularly they go.

#7 G+2

Posted 17 January 2013 - 08:24 PM

I just did a few days of TT then decided to give up and try again in another month or so, we had soooo many accidents I don't think they're there yet, my girls are 2 years and 3 months.

Good luck, I'll be keeping an eye for any tips  biggrin.gif

#8 twinboys

Posted 17 January 2013 - 08:34 PM

I did one at a time.
One was ready at 2yrs and 10 mnths the other one was not ready till he was 3.5yrs.

The first one I bought his favourite drink - fruit poppers and let him drink as much as he liked and then kept him restricted the to hard floor area and kept popping him on the potty in front of the TV.
He got it in 3 days and was dry from then onwards.
The other brother was ready 6 months later and we just used the toilet for him and by passed the potty altogether. I did a similar thing stayed home for a couple of days and filled him up with fluids and just kept him close to the loo with frequent trips to it.

#9 Bearynice

Posted 25 January 2013 - 03:21 PM

i've posted this in the tt section too....

We have been trying this tt thing for about a month now. Its been full on. sometimes i think they are getting the idea.. but then they seem to regress.

im thinking of cracking out the bribery again... do you think its a bad thing?? the boys were going pretty well fpr a bit. they have excellent communication skills but the problem seems to be that they dont want to leave what they are doing to go to the toilet [apparantly duplo and matchbox cars are MORE important than visiting the toilet]
they will happily stand there with wet or soiled pants if it means they don't have to leave their activity.

so i am thinking the bribery might work... but when do i phase it out??? activities [music, playgroup etc] start back soon and i feel a bit home bound. i don't really want to go to pull ups as i think they would just get lazy and wee in them and we will be back at the start.

the boys are off to 3 year old kinder in a couple of weeks [only for 2 hours in a morning] so i would love it if we could conquer this tt thing a bit by then.

thanks for all the replies so far about twins and tt. i feel like i live in the toilet or if i am not in the toilet than i am cleaning up an accident. argh!
the boys are dry at night time [we have only ever had one accident in the night] but just seem a bit too pre occupied during the day.

#10 nen-c

Posted 25 January 2013 - 07:49 PM

No twins here - but absolutely use the bribery, especially if you are having to compete with cars and duplo!!! I found mini m&ms good as it is such a small amount of junk - but still junk. Also, being able to choose the colour is apparently very exciting!! I didn't find phasing it out a problem, after he 'got it' I think the treats just ran out and that was that.

Good luck.

#11 Sal78

Posted 26 January 2013 - 09:53 AM

wow it's amazing that they night trained before day time! night is the hardest..well done. my 7y.o was day trained at 2y.o and only just stopped wearing night nappies! for the past 2 yrs, he would have roughly 50% wet nappies at night but he insisted on wearing nappies and would put it on himself. If it's dry he just reuses it for next night.

my twins were day trained just past 2y.o too and they did it on their own, we didn't even bother with a potty,they just went straight to the toilet. But They are now almost 4y.o and my dd night trained herself just last week and ds2 is still in night nappies.

just persevere and keep taking them to the toilet even if they don't ask for it. maybe every hour or so. Do they go to child care? my twins were tt at child care....I can't thank them enough.

#12 jak'n'jil

Posted 21 February 2013 - 04:30 PM

Mine went to daycare girl 2 was trained in 3 days and girl 1 took a week. In summer I put a potty out in the yard and let them run free and use it when they needed too. No stress, no bother they did it when they were ready and we always tried to make sure they went on arrival to the shopping centre to prevent that nagging mummy toilet NOWWW..it worked well for us yes we had accidents but that was to be expected. Daughter 2 tried at 18mths she was 7kg and fell into the toilet - such precious moments!

#13 ecb

Posted 28 February 2013 - 12:39 PM

After trying for that long and seeing such little progress it sounds to me like they are physiologically just not "getting" it. Personally, I would give myself and my kids and break and put them back in nappies and wait until they are showing signs of wanting to be more proactively involved. With both my girls (who trained 5 mths apart) it was only when I backed off and left it with them completely that they took ownership and worked it out. One if mine was 2.5yrs the other was smack on 3.

P.S. one of mine trained at night before days. She was dry overnight a good few months before she TTed and then it was a further 8 mths before she let me take her out of nappies at night. She would get really distressed if I failed to put her nappy on at night even though she didn't need them. We were using cloth so it cost me nothing to leave the ball in her court on that one too.

#14 twinsmom

Posted 28 February 2013 - 02:18 PM

Hi all! I am new to the forum and have 6 year old twin boys.

I'll just share my experience with tt

First started when they were 2.5 years,
started with a video/song on pooping in the toilet and the routine they liked the song and started talking about it
within the same week changed to pull ups and put them on the regular toilet with toilet seat and we sing the toileting song (I'll usually stand with them) and make the pee sound lol:
when there was success we are cheer and praise him/if nothing will just say "okay nothing will try again"
I sent them to toilet 1 at a time in 40 mins interval.  
Within the week DS 1 got it and was off diapers but DS 2 didn't accidents for 2 continuous days and I put him back on pull up and let it cool off (I didnt want him to get used to being wet so that he doesn't think its okay)
Made it a point to show DS 2 when DS 1 went to toilet breaks and around 2.8 years he started following his brother and started trying after the first success he wanted the new thomas underwear I bought, it worked but he continued to have accidents on and off until he turned 3 but I never pushed.  
I let them wear diapers at night till they turned 4 for better sleep.
Hope it helps

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