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#1 FeralPerthFembo

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:21 PM

Hi there, just after some opinions.

DD is 21 months and I am 12 weeks pg with #2 so DH thinks we should TT her now while the weather is warm and before the baby comes...

BUT I'm not really confident she is ready to TT and wonder if it will just be a lot more work for us trying now, having her regress when bub comes, and trying to tt while I'm big and heavy or have a newborn (if she doesnt catch on straight away).

We casually introduced the potty for her to sit on while we go to toilet about 6 months ago. As the weather has warmed up we have been letting her get rudie nudie and asking her if she would like to go periodically. Sometimes she says no, often she says yes as she likes sitting on it.

Often she will wee on the floor only a few minutes after getting off the potty though which makes me think she doesnt understand the "body signals" before hand. She always tells us when she is weeing  (so she recognises doing it) but doesnt seem too worried about it (more excited lol). We quickly pop her back on the potty and say "this is where wees should go", but she is finished by then so we dont catch anything to show her. We dont make a big deal of it and just clean it up.

So all up I think she's done two wees in the potty mostly accidentally in the 6 months we have had it. She tells us after doing poos 60% of the time but not before.

We have a lot of older family and friends telling us we should just TT her and "get on with it", that if we wait for "signs" of being ready it could be years...but I wonder wouldnt it be easier to wait until she's older (will be 2y9m next summer) and get it done quickly? I guess I'm wondering if we start now we might be in for a very long exhausting summer of accidents!

WDYT? Has anyone TT when their kids weren't really showing signs of readiness? How long did it take?

Edited by JBaby, 05 January 2013 - 09:48 PM.


#2 erindiv

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:25 PM

She is still young. I'd wait.

FWIW I TT'd DD after I had DS - she was nearly 3 by then and TT'd within a week. It was easy.

Of all my friends with kids, attempting to TT before the child was ready led to a lot of stress and very poor results.

Chances are she would regress when your baby is born anyway.

#3 Always amazed!

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:27 PM

I wouldn't push it. She is still young. Just keep doing what your doing.



#4 I'msoMerry

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:29 PM

Just sharing we are trying as well. DD is 2 and 5 mths.
We have been sitting on potty or toilet since it got warm enough to ditch the long pants. Have not had one wee on the potty. Like your DD she wees on the floor as soon as she is off no matter how long she has sat there!
So frustrsting. I dont push it every day though as I realize she is just not ready. I started out all enthusiastic but she just wasnt.
Every time I but nappies I hope it is the last time. Sigh..

#5 lylac

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:35 PM

There's really no rush, I would wait.
Wait til you think she is ready and it will be much easier.

#6 tick

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:44 PM

I'd probably wait, but not necessarily until next summer ..... just play it by ear.  I planned on toilet training my DD1 when she was either 18 months OR 2.5 as that would coincide with summer but she was suddenly ready for it in late autumn, a couple of months before she turned 2.  We trained over winter, it was actually no big deal at all (because she was ready I suppose).

She was totally ready to night-train in the week or two before our second baby was due (following winter) and I delayed it thinking that I didn't want to be night training with a newborn but I'm kicking myself now as six months later she's totally lost interest in night training and happily pees in a night nappy instead of getting up to go to the potty...... sigh.

#7 katrina24

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:51 PM

I have a 2 year age gap. DD1 toilet trained young (at her insistence, not mine). It was a nightmare when I had DD2 because she'd need help while I was BF, have an accident while i was BF etc. and she regressed too.  I'm sure it dragged out the process greatly append she would have trained much quicker if we waited until a few months after DD2 was born. Unfortunately, I didn't have a say as DD made up her mind she wasn't wearing nappies anymore - her mind was ready but her body was not.  5 years on and I look back at that time with regrets so p, if it were me, unless there were readiness signs I would wait until there were some. Good luck with whatever you choose.

Edited by katrina24, 05 January 2013 - 09:51 PM.


#8 erindiv

Posted 05 January 2013 - 10:00 PM

Might I add, you don't have to TT in Summer. DD was TT'd in early Spring and she did fine. It's a lot more unpleasant for them to sit in wee-soaked undies than to do a quick wee in the nude outside and dry off rapidly. You want to deter them from wetting, not make it seem okay.

#9 Zahhy

Posted 05 January 2013 - 10:02 PM

we thought DS was ready shortly after he turned two (a couple of months after DD was born) and started trying. We had a few early successes, then complete potty refusal.
We tried again just after he turned 3, but like your DD, he'd wee as soon as he got off the potty.
He's now 3.25, and in the last few weeks has pretty much been training himself - he randomly came out one day with his nappy off and declared he needed to do wees, the next time that he needed to do poos. Sometimes he makes it, sometimes he doesn't, but he seems to be leading now, rather than DP or I making him do it.
He went all day today without any accidents (first whole day in undies), we even went down to the local shops without an accident.

Edited by Tonberry, 05 January 2013 - 10:04 PM.


#10 Soontobegran

Posted 05 January 2013 - 10:02 PM

Wait until she is showing readiness and it doesn't sound as if she is yet.  Your DH is wrong, you can't TT just because he thinks it is time.
She is very young and if you have children close in ages it is almost expected that you will have 2 in nappies. It isn't so bad really. The older child will only have a few a day. I had an occasion when I had 4 in nappies, 2 were just in night time ones but I felt as though there was always 2 for many years and it was not an issue at all.

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#11 mum850

Posted 05 January 2013 - 10:12 PM

My son showed no signs of readiness, he was only 2 1/4 but it was summer. It took... two days, no accidents after that. . I kid you not. Never fear, wind taken out of my smug sails by my next two kids, both girls, who were showing signs, were a lot  later and took longer and did have accidents.
having said that, 27 months is a lot different to 21 months.

#12 FeralPerthFembo

Posted 06 January 2013 - 02:35 PM

Thanks for the replies everyone, and confirming what I was thinking!

DH is happy to defer to my judgement, but I wasn't really sure with all the outside pressure from friends and family. Happy to wait until after #2 is born. I expect it will be easier to change two lots of nappies than clean up lots of accidents...

#13 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 07 January 2013 - 09:09 AM

QUOTE (JBaby @ 05/01/2013, 09:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi there, just after some opinions.

DD is 21 months and I am 12 weeks pg with #2 so DH thinks we should TT her now while the weather is warm and before the baby comes...

BUT I'm not really confident she is ready to TT and wonder if it will just be a lot more work for us trying now, having her regress when bub comes, and trying to tt while I'm big and heavy or have a newborn (if she doesnt catch on straight away).

We casually introduced the potty for her to sit on while we go to toilet about 6 months ago. As the weather has warmed up we have been letting her get rudie nudie and asking her if she would like to go periodically. Sometimes she says no, often she says yes as she likes sitting on it.

Often she will wee on the floor only a few minutes after getting off the potty though which makes me think she doesnt understand the "body signals" before hand. She always tells us when she is weeing  (so she recognises doing it) but doesnt seem too worried about it (more excited lol). We quickly pop her back on the potty and say "this is where wees should go", but she is finished by then so we dont catch anything to show her. We dont make a big deal of it and just clean it up.

So all up I think she's done two wees in the potty mostly accidentally in the 6 months we have had it. She tells us after doing poos 60% of the time but not before.

We have a lot of older family and friends telling us we should just TT her and "get on with it", that if we wait for "signs" of being ready it could be years...but I wonder wouldnt it be easier to wait until she's older (will be 2y9m next summer) and get it done quickly? I guess I'm wondering if we start now we might be in for a very long exhausting summer of accidents!

WDYT? Has anyone TT when their kids weren't really showing signs of readiness? How long did it take?


DD1 was about 2y9m when she TT.  I'm glad I didn't do it earlier.  She was wanting to TT when we tried it and she caught on quickly.  Most people I know had successful TT around the age of 3.  A few did it when their kids were closer to 2yo, but a lot of them were still having plenty of accidents 6 months later.  That would have driven me batty.


#14 SeaPrincess

Posted 07 January 2013 - 09:32 AM

I had a newborn when 21-mo DS2 demanded the potty to do poo.  Not what I'd planned at all, but we went with it and he was day trained by 2.

In your situation, I would incorporate a potty into bath time or morning routine consistently and see what happens.  For me, I would push it because it's summer and I don't enjoy changing nappies. It probably won't happen in 3 days, but IME, it's certainly possible to train a 21-mo, and possible to train a child when the parent decides it's time if they are young enough that it is not a battle of wills.




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