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#1 SilverSky

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:00 PM

We are moving the baby into her own room soon, and this will mean we no longer have a spare room. Our house is quite small with only one living area so we've had to put the guest bed out in the shed.

Now my dilemma is when the in laws come to stay, which they do often, say every 6-8 weeks. It takes them approx five hours to drive. What do we do? I have suggested to DH they bring the caravan and park it out the front, or get a motel. But he thinks we should put the baby in a portacot in our room and dismantle the cot to fit the spare bed in the tiny bedroom. I think that's a bit ridiculous.

It's not an option to put the bed in the lounge as the kids are often up before or around 5am and I can't keep them quiet in their room until a more reasonable time.

SO what would you do?

#2 Nanaimo Girl

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:03 PM

When the inlaws come to stay, bring the mattress from the spare bed inside and set it up in the loungeroom.

The kids can "camp out" on the loungeroom and the inlaws can sleep in the kids beds.

#3 Nastyflea

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:05 PM

Personally, not have visitors!
Suggest you go halves on a motel room, or they can bring the caravan.
I wouldn't like guests every 2 months, I like my own space and it'd annoy the cr*p out of me to always have people underfoot.

#4 FizzlingFireboxes

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:06 PM

I'd tell them the baby has now taken the spare room and let them decide what they want to do. I would suggest bringing their caravan if they want to stay with you at the house, or a close motel.

I'm sure they will understand the baby wasn't going to sleep in your room forever and you just don't have the space.

#5 erindiv

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:06 PM

When my parents come to stay, they sleep on a blow-up mattress in the lounge room.

#6 Madeline's Mum

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:06 PM

I think it's your house and your baby's room and if the spare bed doesn't for back in without the cot being dismantled then a mattress on the living room floor complete with early wake up time or caravan/motel.

How long are they staying for?

#7 SilverSky

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:08 PM

QUOTE (Nanaimo Girl @ 05/01/2013, 06:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When the inlaws come to stay, bring the mattress from the spare bed inside and set it up in the loungeroom.

The kids can "camp out" on the loungeroom and the inlaws can sleep in the kids beds.


That would work apart from one is in a cot and will be for a while yet though.
They only stay 3 or 4 nights.

#8 Daisy Chain

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:10 PM

Can they stay in your room and you sleep on a mattress on the floor in the lounge? It would be a shame to loose their visits.

#9 cinnabubble

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:13 PM

I'd be stoked that I had such an excellent excuse not to have visitors.

#10 blueteddy

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:15 PM

If my husband suggested my parents sleep in a motel I would be pretty offended.

#11 ell80

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:15 PM

It sounds like a real hassle to move the baby if the cot needs dismantling - therefore I would just explain this to them (without making it sound like they are the hassle - just the truth that there is no longer a spare room available) and let them know the options you have come up with and let them decide what they would prefer to do.

"We can put a mattress on the floor for you but the kids will probably wake you up early - or you are very welcome to bring your caravan so you can have some privacy - or we wouldn't be offended if you even decided to stay in a motel nearby"



As long as they know that you still want them to visit I'm sure they would understand.

#12 Bluestocking

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:18 PM

can they sleep in the garage?  ph34r.gif

#13 Penguin78

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:21 PM

QUOTE (Daisy Chain @ 05/01/2013, 09:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Can they stay in your room and you sleep on a mattress on the floor in the lounge? It would be a shame to loose their visits.


This is what DH and I do when MIL comes to stay. We don't have a spare bed and she has a sore back. Doesn't bother us, it's such a short time.

#14 Not Escapin Xmas

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:23 PM

QUOTE (blueteddy @ 05/01/2013, 08:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If my husband suggested my parents sleep in a motel I would be pretty offended.


I'm so glad my husband doesn't see things this way!!!!!!!  biggrin.gif

#15 SMforshort

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:24 PM

Another vote for sleeping in the lounge room and giving them your bedroom.  You will obviously need to be up early if your kids are and this way they won't be disturbed.

SM

#16 Kickingitcountry

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:27 PM

They have a caravan therefore they can use it I would not be dismantling the baby's room every time they come plus what happens hen the baby is older ?

#17 SeaPrincess

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:28 PM

I would probably do what some of the pp's have said and suggest that although the spare room is no longer spare, they are most welcome to stay, but could they bring their caravan.  I certainly wouldn't be dismantling cots every 6-8 weeks.

We're a family of 5 in a tiny 3 bedroom house.  MIL now stays with BIL when she comes up because it is a hassle to regularly shuffle everyone around, although we can, and have, done it.

#18 Blizzard of Blue

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:30 PM

I must be really inconsiderate then because when my mum or IL's come to stay, they ALWAYS have to get up early with the kids.

They say they are happy to do it for the couple of days when they visit as it gives us a break from the early morning wake ups we deal with Every. Single. Day.

So my vote is to give them a mattress in the lounge.

#19 NastyMuddyPuddles

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:46 PM

I'm with tick-tac on this. When my mum or the ILs stay they always do the early wake ups, in fact they insist, and we actually get to sleep past 6am! It's heaven!

Offer them the mattress in the lounge, or you take it and offer them your bed if you feel better about it. Personally if I had a caravan though and those choices I'd bring the caravan with me.

#20 CallMeFeral

Posted 05 January 2013 - 08:59 PM

I'd take the portacot to your room. Why is that ridiculous? It seems like common sense to me. Moving one child into your room for a short while is not that big an imposition.

#21 Nataliah

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:08 PM

QUOTE (CallMeAliG @ 05/01/2013, 09:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'd take the portacot to your room. Why is that ridiculous? It seems like common sense to me. Moving one child into your room for a short while is not that big an imposition.


I don't think that's the issue, it's that they would then need to dismantle the real cot in order to fit a bed in the spare room (now nursery)...

#22 JKTMum

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:11 PM

QUOTE
I'd take the portacot to your room. Why is that ridiculous? It seems like common sense to me. Moving one child into your room for a short while is not that big an imposition.


The problem is not the portacot, it's the fact that the normal cot the baby sleeps in will have to be dismantled every 2 months so the spare bed can be brought back in from the shed and put back together as there isnt room for both. At the end of the visit the reverse will have to happen, spare bed dismantled and taken back to shed, cot reassembled. Seems like a lot of mucking around for a few nights.

I'd do the mattress in the loungeroom where either the IL's sleep or the parents sleep while the ILs have their room for the duration if they dont want to bring the caravan. I can understand them not wanting to stay in a motel, that can get quite expensive.

#23 JapNFeral

Posted 05 January 2013 - 09:58 PM

I'd invest in a sofa bed and put it in the lounge.

#24 Mumma_G

Posted 05 January 2013 - 10:05 PM

Homes are to be comfortable for those that live there everyday not guests. Any of our guests would be happy with a mattress in the living room if that were the only options.

#25 Oriental lily

Posted 05 January 2013 - 10:07 PM

I agree with the sofa bed.
Either you or your inlaws can use it.

Then the kids can stay in their rooms and no dismantling or dragging mattresses of beds.




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