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#1 Trouble-

Posted 05 January 2013 - 11:52 AM

Normally, we try and do follow up phone calls with a verbal thank you, but this year unfortunately I was not in the room when the kids tore into the in laws gifts, and now I don't know what came from who.
Also, DH and I are from big families, so there are lots of grandparents, aunties, uncles and cousins to thank for multiple gifts, it just all gets too much for me to keep track of.
Also, my niece received a present from an aunt with an instruction to call the aunt to thank her for the gift written on the card. Isn't that a bit OTT?
What do you do?

#2 BadCat

Posted 05 January 2013 - 11:57 AM

No, we don't bother.  But nobody ever sends gifts, if they have to send they send cash.  It requires no thought and no special thanks as far as I'm concerned.

The aunt instructing someone to call and say thanks is well out of line.

ETA:  Of course we thank on the spot for gifts given in person.

Edited by BadCat, 05 January 2013 - 11:57 AM.

#3 AntiBourgeoisie

Posted 05 January 2013 - 12:05 PM

I did cards this years. Only because we had three Christmases with various large groups of people and while I would have preferred for gifts to be given one at a time and the givers thanked, it ended up being a big free for all.
I felt that making cards was the only way I could get the kids to demonstrate gratitude, an think about the gifts they were given, and who gave them. Besides, home made cards are an afternoons cart activity on hot days!
I did not write anything specific in the card - just a 'thank you for my present'.

#4 Oriental lily

Posted 05 January 2013 - 12:06 PM

If a present is given to one of the kids that I didint see be opened and thatthe child thanked the giver I will verbally say thanks next time I see them.

It's generally pandemonium with gifts and wrap flying everywhere on Christmas day and it's impossible to keep track of everything.

The expectation of a formal thanking is silly.

#5 Etcetera

Posted 05 January 2013 - 12:10 PM

Yes, not saying thank you is rude. Most people are on FB, or a simple text message would suffice.

#6 skylark

Posted 05 January 2013 - 12:17 PM

I do a thank you, with child involved if possible, I will do it via phone or text or email though, I don't do written thank yous at christmas as I have already done cards and sent gifts myself and really I think everyone has had enough of getting christmas "stuff". I can never keep track of what people got either, but that doesn't stop a thank you happening.

#7 Heffalump

Posted 05 January 2013 - 12:35 PM

DD rings people up to say thank you.  

She also loves talking to everyone and anyone so a win/win there - mum gets to have a coffee in peace while DD sits on the phone and everyone gets an enthusiastic thank you for their present. biggrin.gif

She's also quite skilled at getting people to identify what they gave her which is just as well because she has no idea who gave her what as she opened everything before I got there!!  rolleyes.gif

#8 unicycle

Posted 05 January 2013 - 12:40 PM

I would explain i wasn't in the room when the gifts were opened and ask what they gave in a phone call then get the kids to give a verbal reply. to the aunt who would like a thank you card, i would ask for an email address and have the kids give a response that way. maybe an ecard?

#9 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 05 January 2013 - 01:34 PM

I took photos on the phone of the kids opening their various gifts and sent the pic and short message on the same day.  All done and dusted on the day. Easy peasy, particularly since we don't have too many people to thank for gifts.

OP, in your situation, if you want a chat, make a quick phone call.  Otherwise, an email or short note would be fine.  Make it generic if you don't know what they got from which relative.

#10 Maple Leaf

Posted 05 January 2013 - 01:51 PM

My girls get a lot of presents from overseas relatives, so they do send a thank you note.

#11 spear_maiden

Posted 05 January 2013 - 02:02 PM

QUOTE (Poet in New York @ 05/01/2013, 01:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I say thank you by text, in person or over the phone, depending on my relationship with the giver.


#12 Canberra Chick

Posted 05 January 2013 - 02:50 PM

DS writes thank you cards to everyone and he keeps it really simple, like 'thank you for our presents, love DS and DD,  hope you had a lovely Christmas'. When he was younger, he'd draw on a blank card and I would write the note.

#13 LittleRB

Posted 05 January 2013 - 02:58 PM

No. I always say thank you when someone gives me a card/present on the spot so I don't think a follow up "thanks" is required. Also - in most cases - I am usually giving a gift back to whoever gave one to me.

The only thing I might do is tell people afterwards whether the present was liked e.g. thanks to xxxx friend at work for the cars for DS because he plays with them all the time or thanks to MIL & FIL for giving me money because I bought a gorgeous new skirt & top with it.

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