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#1 ELH05

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:11 PM

I've heard it being mentioned and written about but I'm not really sure what people mean when they say their child has a spirited personality ?

#2 item

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:16 PM

IME it means the child has behavioural issues which the parent does not wish to acknowledge  ph34r.gif

#3 CocobeanLillylove

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:18 PM

QUOTE (item @ 05/01/2013, 12:16 AM)
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IME it means the child has behavioural issues which the parent does not wish to acknowledge  ph34r.gif


Hehe ph34r.gif

#4 EsmeLennox

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:18 PM

It means that the child has overly strong emotions and reactions to things. For example, my 7 year old bounces off walls when he's happy (I'm actually not exaggerating), when he's sad he can cry for hours, when he's angry... Well it's pretty expressive. Spirited children feel things very deeply, they are highly senstitive to feelings and the world around them, they can also be extra sensitive to noise, crowds, new situations etc, but they are NT (generally speaking).

(I sometimes also think it means they are a PITA on a particularly bad day with my spirited child. Lol)

And item, there was a time when I would have agreed with you, until I had a spirited child. I spend a great deal more time managing his behaviour and acknowledging his issues, worrying about him and working with him than I do my other two children to ensure he doesn't end up that child with 'behavioural issues.' and I much prefer to call him spirited than a PITA (even if I might think it in my head), much of it is finding a way to describe behaviour with a less negative spin.

Edited by Jemstar, 04 January 2013 - 11:28 PM.


#5 Helena Handbasket

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:20 PM

I use it occasionally when describing my son instead of saying that he's a bugger of a kid who drives me up the wall.

I have also used it as a teacher when writing reports.

#6 liveworkplay

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:21 PM

I agree with Item

#7 SusieGreen

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:21 PM

QUOTE (item @ 05/01/2013, 12:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
IME it means the child has behavioural issues which the parent does not wish to acknowledge  ph34r.gif


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#8 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:22 PM

what item said.   biggrin.gif

Otherwise, other similar descriptors would include
- livewire
- enthusiastic
- feisty
- passionate
- beligerent (if you get them at the wrong time)
- more extreme in their expression of emotion
- larger than life

#9 KnightsofNi

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:23 PM

I use it to describe my DD. It is my way of saying that my DD is a stubborn, very independent, active, spitfire of a child.

#10 item

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:31 PM

Jemstar, I do take your point.

In my defence I'm recovering from a 'holiday' with a family whose child clearly needs some extra help. Like pretty obvious ADHD and very subtle but problematic ASD traits. The family just kept saying 'he's a lovely little boy' and I just wanted to scream!

FTR I have a now sub-clinical ASD, gifted little guy with anxiety, so I do get how exhausting it is trying to manage it all.  It just upsets me when people stick their heads in the sand rather than deal with/help their child  *sigh*

#11 Helena Handbasket

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:31 PM

QUOTE (item @ 05/01/2013, 12:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
IME it means the child has behavioural issues which the parent does not wish to acknowledge  ph34r.gif


Not necessarily. As mentioned, I use it to describe my son to some people. He doesn't have behavior issues but is just very energetic and active and has a knack for getting into mischief. Quite often I don't want to go into that with random people so I ise the word spirited because it sounds more positive than saying he is a bit of a handful some days.


#12 EsmeLennox

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:33 PM

On totally item, I get what you're saying with that extra explanation, I have had times where I have worried myself sick that my child had ADHD or was on the spectrum, but not so. He is just a very sensitive boy to everything! Believe me when I say I acknowledge that he can be a very difficult child indeed!

#13 HandsOnNewton

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:33 PM

QUOTE (YodaTheWrinkledOne @ 04/01/2013, 11:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what item said.   biggrin.gif

Otherwise, other similar descriptors would include
- livewire
- enthusiastic
- feisty
- passionate
- beligerent (if you get them at the wrong time)
- more extreme in their expression of emotion
- larger than life

You forgot "knows his own mind" and also "he's a very DEFINITE child, isnt he?"

#14 melaine

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:34 PM

this is how people describe my child:

QUOTE (YodaTheWrinkledOne @ 05/01/2013, 12:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what item said.   biggrin.gif

Otherwise, other similar descriptors would include
- livewire
- enthusiastic
- passionate
- more extreme in their expression of emotion
- larger than life
- loud



In behaviour terms though he's an average 5 year old. Has never had an issue at Childcare/kinder other than being the kid who always wants to contribute, and was more likely to overreact if something wasn't fair (verbally or with tears, he's never been aggressive or violent).

Plays well with other kids, but needed occasional guidance to play with kids on the opposite extreme to him (quiet, introverted, shy etc - like me!).

Is sensitive to noises (ironic!) and smells - but not to the extent that I've seen in kids with SPD or on the ASD spectrum.

If he's happy he is so enthusiastically happy, if he's upset he's in floods of tears. 'Normal' responses to stimuli but just more intensely displayed (felt?).

But hey, maybe I'm just refusing to see some major issue...

Interestingly though, a low additive diet has made a difference to his intensity and does make him better able to control his 'spirited emotions' and his volume!

Edited by melaine, 04 January 2013 - 11:51 PM.


#15 Helena Handbasket

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:35 PM

QUOTE (item @ 05/01/2013, 12:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Jemstar, I do take your point.

In my defence I'm recovering from a 'holiday' with a family whose child clearly needs some extra help. Like pretty obvious ADHD and very subtle but problematic ASD traits. The family just kept saying 'he's a lovely little boy' and I just wanted to scream!

FTR I have a now sub-clinical ASD, gifted little guy with anxiety, so I do get how exhausting it is trying to manage it all.  It just upsets me when people stick their heads in the sand rather than deal with/help their child  *sigh*


Could it also be that they are aware but just didn't want to discuss it with you because it really isn't any of your business?

#16 Expelliarmus

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:43 PM

It makes me think of children who are active, opinionated and outspoken, I guess. A 'positive word' one uses when one finds a child very ... 'full on'.

#17 ELH05

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:43 PM

QUOTE (Rawr @ 04/01/2013, 09:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This thread will be a train wreck. *grabs popcorn*

I am happy to have it closed down - wasn't meant to offend anyone but honestly didn't know what it meant !

#18 jojonbeanie

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:46 PM

What does sub clinical ASD mean?

#19 item

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:47 PM

QUOTE (Helena Handbasket @ 04/01/2013, 11:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Could it also be that they are aware but just didn't want to discuss it with you because it really isn't any of your business?

Unfortunately not. He is my husbands nephew and while I agree its not necessarily 'my business' it's heartbreaking to watch him struggle when I know he could be helped.  The parents think he is the schools problem and blame any lack of progress on successive teachers.  I'm not suggesting they should rush out and 'get a dx' but they are definitely avoiding dealing with any issues.

#20 OneProudMum

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:47 PM

I think spirited is another word for sprightly.

A spirited child is one you will never forget for positive reasons.

Most of the character PP have posted is not spirited IMO.

Edited: damn u iPhone.

Edited by OneProudMum, 04 January 2013 - 11:53 PM.


#21 EsmeLennox

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:51 PM

Can I suggest you check the dictionary for the meaning of spirited OneProudMum?

You might also want to check up on your understanding of the mythological creatures you refer to, because they are sure as heck not always 'positive' either.

Edited by Jemstar, 04 January 2013 - 11:52 PM.


#22 OneProudMum

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:51 PM

QUOTE (Helena Handbasket @ 05/01/2013, 12:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Could it also be that they are aware but just didn't want to discuss it with you because it really isn't any of your business?


Sometimes parents just do a sh*t job and we feel sorry for the children!

Sorry but it's true!

#23 darcswan

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:52 PM

QUOTE (item @ 04/01/2013, 11:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
IME it means the child has behavioural issues which the parent does not wish to acknowledge  ph34r.gif


Pfft whatever.

It's how I would describe my partner.  He is... Full of spirit.  I've never met anyone so full of energy and ideas.  Who constantly has to push boundaries and, with a cheeky grin, gets away with it.  He doesn't have much of a dark side - rarely (if ever) angers or lapses into melancholy.

Personalities come on a wide spectrum.  Spirited to me is exuberant and wonderful (though exhausting) to be around.  Writing that off as 'behavioural issues' is a bit limiting.

#24 item

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:53 PM

QUOTE (jojonbeanie @ 04/01/2013, 11:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What does sub clinical ASD mean?

He was dx'd with ASD at a young age but now (after lots of therapy) no longer meets the criteria for ASD.  He is still hard wired that way (obviously), but he has learned to learn from the environment like other children and so functions pretty well. We've been very fortunate.

Off topic sorry.

#25 OneProudMum

Posted 04 January 2013 - 11:55 PM

QUOTE (Jemstar @ 05/01/2013, 12:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Can I suggest you check the dictionary for the meaning of spirited OneProudMum?

You might also want to check up on your understanding of the mythological creatures you refer to, because they are sure as heck not always 'positive' either.


Funny you should say that. Google it and sprightly is a synonym.

So... Ner!




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