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#1 Frockme

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:12 PM

. Just in case. Please dont quote if you have it. anyone can get the gist just reading the responses.
Thanks everyone. Feeling confident, should the issue arise again.

Edited by Malaya, 03 January 2013 - 01:20 PM.

#2 JRA

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:14 PM

Absolutely fair.

#3 twinboys

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:16 PM

Absolutely fair!

#4 2 Gorgeous Girls

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:16 PM

Fair Enough!

Mind you I wouldn't let my 5 year old go to a stranger/neighbours pool even if they could swim.

There is such a huge age/maturity/ability gap between 5 - 10 years old.

#5 Kay1

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:22 PM

Yep I'd be telling the kid that unfortunately she can't swim unless her mum or dad come with her.

#6 qak

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:23 PM

[quote name='Malaya' date='02/01/2013, 04:12 PM' post='15200937']
... who sends their kids to a backyard pool, of a family you've never met if your kids aren't competent swimmers.  huh.gif  even at that age i'd think a parent should be there with them.

Well yes I think that is a very good point!

#7 rainycat

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:24 PM

Really fair, I can't believe her parents let her go in the first place.

#8 EsmeLennox

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:28 PM

Absolutely fair. I would have sent them home yesterday with the message that they were welcome to swim but they would have to have a parent there to supervise. No parent = no pool.

Edited by Jemstar, 02 January 2013 - 03:29 PM.

#9 auntpriscilla

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:29 PM

Completely fair - I think you're being generous in having such a big group of local kids over at all, let alone non-swimmers. That's a big responsibility to take on regularly. Do the parents/carers ring you beforehand?

#10 elizabethany

Posted 02 January 2013 - 03:30 PM

I think it is only OK to send a non-swimmer if the parent has talked to you about that first.  I would never assume that someone down the street would recognise that my child couldn't swim, and help if they are already dealing with a number of kids and hadn't been asked first.

It is not unreasonable to expect a non-swimmer to have someone solely to help them.

#11 Isolabella

Posted 02 January 2013 - 05:03 PM

My DS was invited to a play date. Mum mentioned that if it was hot to send swimmers for DS. I was upfront and said DS could not really swim and I did not want him in the water without me.

Yes I would be telling parents no swimming for younger child unless they were present.

#12 Funwith3

Posted 02 January 2013 - 07:32 PM

What the hell is a 5 year old doing going out HER FRONT DOOR without a parent!? Let alone to a strangers house for a swim...I can only think that maybe her mother didn't know she was going swimming? Or did she arrive with bathers on and towel in hand?

#13 Miss Kiwi

Posted 02 January 2013 - 07:41 PM

You are being more than fair. Why should it be your responsibility to watch a young child that you don't know and that cannot swim. Imagine if something happened?! So yes you are being very very fair.

I cannot believe the parents of the girl!

#14 Bam1

Posted 02 January 2013 - 07:42 PM

QUOTE (Funwith3 @ 02/01/2013, 08:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What the hell is a 5 year old doing going out HER FRONT DOOR without a parent!? Let alone to a strangers house for a swim...I can only think that maybe her mother didn't know she was going swimming? Or did she arrive with bathers on and towel in hand?

A 5 year old with siblings would go out the front door without a parent!

Going swimming at a strangers house is another kettle of fish

#15 BronR

Posted 02 January 2013 - 07:47 PM

You are absolutely right OP. No parent no swim. I have a 5 yo non swimmer and a 7 year old who can swim reasonably well. I don't even take them to the local pool by myself because the 5 year old needs my complete attention and the 7 year old needs an eye. I can't do both to my satisfaction.

Don't know what another mum was thinking letting her 5 yo non swimmer come for a swim.  ohmy.gif

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