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#1 gmc88

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:05 PM

Hows it going guys?

Chris here my partner and i both share this account and its quite exciting we have just found out we are pregnant!

Shes about 4-5 weeks along which is still early and quite frankly im crapping myself,

Not in the sense that im scared about being a dad whatsoever even though it hasn't really kicked in yet.
More so scared just waiting that 12 weeks, you know its a long long time and days go by really slowly and theres nothing more that i want than this baby.

Just a bit of our past history in trying, it wasn't extensive or extrodanary by any means we had one miscarriage which was about 3 months ago.

Very early miscarriage at that.

But theres always good that comes out of the bad, as her previous marriage they were trying and trying but her ex husband was infertile, as tough as that would be to handle for her because there is nothing more than she had ever wanted, but the kicker of the story which is the worst part, after all the trials and trying and blood tests etc he was infertile the entire time.

But thats just a bit about me and i would love to get to know some of the blokes on here.

Chris.

#2 EoinCuinn

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:18 PM

Hey mate, pleased to meet you

We had an early miscarriage, and actually had a worse outcome after that, which I won't go into an extreme amount of detail about. I can relate to how you are feeling in the early weeks, it's terrifying and exciting all at the same time. I still remember the feeling of being robbed of some of the joy due to past experience, which can be hard sometimes to get past.

We now have 2 girls, one's nearly 2 and one's nearly 4, and our 3rd is due on  Valentine's Day, which isn't far away at all. I now worry about how we will deal with the kid:parent ratio becoming uneven!

Hang in there, offer your partner every support you can, hope the next few weeks go quickly for you.

Dan

#3 Buff Daddy

Posted 04 January 2013 - 10:50 AM

Hey Chris!

Welcome to the mad house that is fatherhood.  DW and I had a number of miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies and failed IVF before fally pregnant with DS who is nearly 8 yo.  Just before DW turned 40 (which was our "cutoff point" for having any more children) we fell pregnant with DD who is just over 2 yo.

The waiting and not being able to do much is the worst part of pregnancy.  As Dan said - offer all the support and help you can!

Buff  biggrin.gif

#4 gmc88

Posted 05 January 2013 - 11:05 AM

Is there a more active forum in any other sites etc

#5 debut dad

Posted 21 January 2013 - 08:44 PM

Not that I have found... it seems like there aren't as many blokes who blog about this stuff.

Just contribute to the rest of the posts in and topics in Essential Baby... the other mums don't bite original.gif

Too busy blogging about sport and gadgets and games etc... which I also love original.gif

#6 Pommielogger

Posted 06 August 2013 - 07:09 PM

Anyone still looking at this?
I bought my baby home today, the whole experience h been something I was unprepared for, so overwhelmed with feelings of excitement, happiness, trepidation.

Be great if anyone else if out there that wants to share some pearls of wisdom with me!?

#7 DanbergPeccable

Posted 06 August 2013 - 07:14 PM

View PostPommielogger, on 06 August 2013 - 07:09 PM, said:

Anyone still looking at this?
I bought my baby home today, the whole experience h been something I was unprepared for, so overwhelmed with feelings of excitement, happiness, trepidation.

Be great if anyone else if out there that wants to share some pearls of wisdom with me!?

Didn't they give you the instruction manual on the way out? :)

Good luck with it all and enjoy ..... it goes so fast.

#8 LovenFire

Posted 06 August 2013 - 08:14 PM

Breathe, accept that you don't have all the answers, ask your partner what you can do to help her and ask for help if you have questions ...

(Also, honestly, the mums don't bite - don't restrict your queries to the dads chat forum only)

Ooh, and congratulations on the arrival of your son!

#9 Pommielogger

Posted 08 August 2013 - 03:08 PM

Hi everyone, it's been a few days at home now, a week today bub arrived. It's tremendous, I'm the luckiest man around.

Thanks for your words of encouragement. It was cathartic writing m short post that night we got home, and rewarding and proud o be writing now from a place of calm and gratitude.

So again, cheers.





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