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#1 erindiv

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:02 PM

How did your engagement come about? Did you just come to a decision to get engaged, go out and buy a ring? Did your DF/DH surprise you with a proposal? Or did YOU propose? Or no engagement at all, straight to the wedding?

#2 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:05 PM

DH said to me if I ask you to marry me will you?  And I said yes.  Last of the old romantics he is.

No ring, we were married 6 months later.

#3 Lady Excentrique

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:06 PM

we came to a decision together. same way we discuss everything important now. original.gif

a formal proposal came after, but its that time discussing it together which is a much more special memory to me.

#4 livvie7586

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:06 PM

i worked in a jewellery store, i knew his budget, and found a ring i loved instore that fitted the budget.  i layby'd it, gave him the receipt, and he paid it off.  we then just accepted that we were engaged (don't worry, we did much the same when we started dating, i still tease him he never actually asked me out, he did end up asking me to marry him when pregnant with DS, by that stage though it was just a formality).

wedder/eternity were chosen exactly the same way, i knew what i wanted and he just went along with it

#5 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:09 PM

Not married but am engaged...

We talked about getting married once day... his actual proposal was a surprise. He didn't do it with a ring because he knew that I wanted to use Mum's diamond. He proposed with a box of chocolates and a homemade card  wub.gif

#6 Sancti-mummy

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:10 PM

He popped the question in a very informal setting with little forethought - I said maybe and we discussed it and then went and chose a ring together.

#7 Jekaho

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:11 PM

We talked about marriage while we were dating, even did a pre-marriage course together. He said he would propose by the end of the year. But I didn't know when it would happen. It was December 18th, and a surprise with the timing and how it was done.

The ring was my grandmother's, so he'd had to see my parents (to ask their blessing) and then go with my Dad to see my grandparents and get the ring before asking me! I knew nothing about all that part until after we were engaged.

#8 WhimsicalDragonfly

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:11 PM

We openly spoke about wanting to get married so it was on the cards, the proposal though was a complete surprise.  I know it sounds improbable but I really was surprised. It was really sweet and something he had been planning and working on for weeks, when he said he was 'working back'!  We chose the ring together (he knew this was my preference, and I think it took a lot of pressure off him).

#9 elle-M

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:13 PM

We had talked about it a lot before, I knew it would happen one day. He surprised me with a bended knee proposal in the ocean with a ring he'd designed himself.

Very lucky girl!! We are coming up to our third wedding anniversary this month and have baby #3 on the way  biggrin.gif

#10 TheCeriseClupea

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:16 PM

We had no engagement. A few months before the July school holidays 9 years ago we decided to get married when we had all our kids together. We spent 2 months running around getting all the dresses & suits & then when the holidays came around we picked up his 2 children.As we were leaving their mothers place we said "oh by the way we are getting married in 3 days". Sadly she is the kind of person to sabotage special things so we left her little time for any drama. All the kids were over the moon & it was a great day, we married in our backyard with family & friends present. About 6 years ago my husband told me my hand looked strange without an engagement ring so I chose a nice plain gold & Amethyst ring to keep him happy.

#11 H3X

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:19 PM

We discussed and decided together. When telling people I said 'we came to a mutual agreement to get married', which a lot of people didn't get and thought wasn't romantic because there was no big proposal. But I wasn't sure how else to describe it!

#12 mombasa

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:19 PM

We had a surprise engagement, DH took me away for the weekend, I had absolutely no idea.

#13 cb2

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:19 PM

We had spoken about getting married, or more like we didn't want to be with anyone else as we had found pur someone special. I had no idea when the proposal would take place. DH chose the ring on his own, asked my parents permission and took me away for a weekend where he popped the question original.gif I loved the ring he chose, he has very good taste in jewerlley original.gif

#14 opethmum

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:22 PM

We wanted to get married about 3 months in but waited for another 3 months so it would not be such a shock to everyone in our respective families. We had our engagement close to Christmas and he proposed at my favourite place in Sydney at night and it was perfect! He nicked off with the ring my mother gave me to get the ring size right and the rock was perfect!

#15 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:23 PM

QUOTE (Hunca Munca @ 01/01/2013, 04:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We discussed and decided together. When telling people I said 'we came to a mutual agreement to get married', which a lot of people didn't get and thought wasn't romantic because there was no big proposal. But I wasn't sure how else to describe it!


This was us too. We found out we were on the same track in life and had similar goals  and values and it seemed a natural progression. DH did a basic proposal but it was a mere formality. He had chosen the ring and it was lovely.

Engaged for 9 months, coming up to 4 years marriage.

#16 Guest_katem666_*

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:24 PM

We'd talked about it in a round-about way, but he wouldn't let the conversation get to the definitive 'so let's get married' stage. I'd never thought of myself as a being-proposed-to type, so never really expected the traditional proposal, but that's what he had planned.NYE, a bit after midnight, walking back from seeing the fireworks in the city, he insisted we take a short detour to a spot that has a good view of the city (and also happened to be the place we first kissed). He then got out a ring and tried to get down on one knee and propose, but i made him stay standing and barely let him get a word out before i was saying yes and crying like a little girl. Ring-wise, it may have been better for him to wait for me to help, as the ring was way too big for me to wear (and took 4 weeks to get resized) and.... Wasn't quite my style... but i'm not a jewelry person anyway. It's a bit too high set and i would always take it off as soon as i got home cos i was afraid of it catching on something. however I wore it proudly until we got married, and now just wear my wedding ring all the time and save the engagement ring for special occasions. I love it though, because it is beautiful, and he picked it for me.

#17 andyk

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:29 PM

We talked about marriage a few times, 2.5yrs in I saw a ring i liked and showed him the style I liked (a band not a high setting) so he bought the ring there and then put it away. About 6 months later he finally had some time off so we went away. Unbeknownst to me he had called dad and asked permission. One night we went for a late night walk on the beach, he went down on one knee and proposed, ring box in hand. Was lovely.

We then did IVF before we got married, so we waited about 2 years in between engagement and marriage.

#18 BadCat

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:32 PM

He came to Sydney to pick me up after my trip to Africa.  He had booked us into a penthouse suite at Darling Harbour.  He dropped (or more accurately rose) to one knee in the double spa bath and proposed, giving me an engagement bracelet.  I don't like rings.

I knew he was planning to propose when I got back from my trip since I told him he wasn't allowed to do it before I left.  I didn't realise he would go all out for it though.

Oh, there were also champagne and choc dipped strawberries involved.   original.gif

#19 BetteBoop

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:32 PM

In 2004, we went overseas. I knew he was planning to ask me, even though I'd said many times that I didn't want to get married. He was so nervous and eager that I could just tell what he had in mind.

I actually saw the ring box fall out of his backpack (we trekked and were always pulling things out of our packs in awkwards places) but it took him another week to ask.  He was anxious the whole time. I could tell he was worrying about finding the perfect, most romantic spot to ask.

We passed through a lot of gorgeous natural scenery but he kept on waiting. Eventually, we were eating dinner at some cheesy Americanised restaurant in Chang Mai and he just blurted it out.

#20 FearsomeFeralFreak

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:39 PM

We had already traveled the world, bought a house, bought an investment property together so it was pretty clear we were on the same path. We discussed it and agreed. Then we eloped.
No engagement ring, I preferred to spend the money on travel.

#21 Duck-o-lah

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:40 PM

We always knew we'd get married, we used to look at rings and he'd guess what I liked.

He got a job interstate which would require him to move out of our place fairly promptly, leaving me behind to finish up our lease. He came into my work one afternoon and dropped to one knee in the middle of the store and proposed. My boss gave me the arvo off wink.gif

He buggered off and left me to tell my parents by myself (who were overseas at the time) laughing2.gif

#22 elmo_mum

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:45 PM

lol
dh came home from the city one day and said - ive put a deposit on a ring

i laughed at him (as you do)
he told me it was a solitaire, i told him i dont do solitaires....

we then started half assed talked about things...

i told hom i wanted to get married at the zoo... we ended up looking on line at it cos he didnt belive me you could get married there...we also spoke to his uncle (who would marry us) about dates.. and booked the zoo...

2 weeks later, we went out for dinner and he produced the ring!! and yes, he still shocked me!

i thought we would choose it together...

#23 CupOfCoffee

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:47 PM

I had never wanted to be married, and I had made that perfectly clear.

Then one day I was on the bus (only 6 months after my partner moved in with me (and my son) and I thought... I could spend the rest of my life with him.

So I get to work and I email him: 'we should get married'.  

He thought I was joking and responded: 'why would I want to marry you'.

I didn't respond.

He rang me at lunch and asked if I was serious, and I said no, and he said to ask him again, and I said no, get stuffed jerk  laugh.gif

Eventually I did ask again, and we got married 6 months later.

We are neither mature, or conventional laugh.gif

Edited by CupOfCoffee, 01 January 2013 - 03:48 PM.


#24 seayork2002

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:50 PM

My husband (now! original.gif) proposed after we had been together 6 months off the coast (NE of England) on a boat, due to separate circumstances it took us nearly 2 years after that to be married.

Edited by seayork2002, 01 January 2013 - 03:50 PM.


#25 erindiv

Posted 01 January 2013 - 03:50 PM

QUOTE (CupOfCoffee @ 01/01/2013, 04:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had never wanted to be married, and I had made that perfectly clear.

Then one day I was on the bus (only 6 months after my partner moved in with me (and my son) and I thought... I could spend the rest of my life with him.

So I get to work and I email him: 'we should get married'.  

He thought I was joking and responded: 'why would I want to marry you'.

I didn't respond.

He rang me at lunch and asked if I was serious, and I said no, and he said to ask him again, and I said no, get stuffed jerk  laugh.gif

Eventually I did ask again, and we got married 6 months later.

We are neither mature, or conventional laugh.gif



That made me giggle Tounge1.gif

According to DBF we are engaged but not 'officially' as we don't have a ring. I've told him I won't be done out of a romantic proposal that easily!





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