Jump to content

Cloth nappies for baby shower
When there is no plan to use cloth


  • Please log in to reply
29 replies to this topic

#1 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:33 PM

I was chatting to a friend who uses cloth nappies fulltime. So do I. We both love cloth. She said she had bought a starter kit (12 MCNs) for a friend's baby shower and was quite delighted with herself for thinking of such a great gift. I asked if her friend was planning to use cloth and she said something like "well she will have to now. That kit cost me a lot. Once she starts, she will see how great it is".

I adore cloth and will rave about the benefits to anyone who asks. However, if they don't ask, I don't say anything. Buying cloth nappies for a new mum who has not expressed interest in cloth just seems
presumptuous to me. Added to that I thought my friend was showing a bit of a smug attitude about it.

So is this a thoughtful gift or rude?

#2 ubermum

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:35 PM

It's not something I would ever do. It's expensive and a waste of money for someone that doesn't want them.

#3 PatG

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:36 PM

Wow, 12 MCNs is quite an outlay for a gift of something that may not be used.  If I was your friend I would probably have offered to loan some to the mum-to-be with the offer to buy her some later on if she liked them.

I think it puts the receiver in a bit of a tight spot and is therefore a little rude.

#4 Camizebra

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:37 PM

QUOTE (ubermum @ 31/12/2012, 02:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's not something I would ever do. It's expensive and a waste of money for someone that doesn't want them.


This.

#5 Jenferal

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:41 PM

I have bought cloth nappies for a shower, but only 2 and only because the mother expressed an interest in them and I got them pretty cheaply. Buying 12 is rude and overbearing and I'd hate to see that woman once she becomes a MiL if she's this presumptuous for friends!

#6 little lion

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:41 PM

Oops double post, see below.

Edited by little lion, 31 December 2012 - 01:43 PM.


#7 little lion

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:42 PM

If I received them, I would probably sell them!

We make our parenting decisions based on lots of info. Someone trying to impose their ideas on me via a gift wouldn't change my opinions.

#8 SCARFACE CLAW

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:43 PM

If I was the mother receiving them I would just be passing them along to someone who uses cloth, or throwing them in the charity bin. I wouldn't feel the need to use them because a friend bought them and thinks I should huh.gif

#9 Cyaira

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:45 PM

I don't think there is any harm in a trial pack (2-3 nappies) or a gift voucher for an online store to somebody who has expressed an interest or desire to use cloth.

But otherwise, no. Cloth is not for everybody and it's presumptuous. Besides which, she might find the brand and/or style doesn't suit her and her bub.

#10 ellebelle

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:47 PM

Agree with others - on the upside it's a gift that will Ebay well!

#11 noi'mnot

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:52 PM

Wow, what an expensive gift! Even on sale, MCNs are not cheap so I am pretty shocked. I use cloth most of the time, but would never buy them for somebody else if they're not absolutely wanting them, what a waste of money!

I don't think it's rude, though, so much as it's just silly!

#12 vitaechel

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:52 PM

Wow that is quite a huge gift. A close friend bought me 12 MCN's as a baby gift, but she new I intended on using them and asked what brand I wanted. I was beyond grateful. I know many mums would be quite annoyed that someone was making them feel bad for using disposables tho. She sounds a bit preachy about it which is never a good way to behave with a new mum.

#13 FeralBob!

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:54 PM

I think that's rude and presumptious too. I was never interested in using cloth nappies, although if I'd had a friend who did I would have shown interest, and tried them. But a dozen nappies when the recipient has shown no interest in them whatsoever is a gift that says more about the attitude of the giver than the  pleasure of the receiver.

#14 vintage.blue

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:54 PM

I use and love cloth nappies but I wouldn't buy them for a friend unless they had shown an interest. A lot of people don't like or use cloth so the gift is wasted if the friend doesn't want to use them.

#15 Aruneh

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:54 PM

It is rude. I have tried cloth nappies and I find them a huge pain.
They are really not as easy as people want you to believe. I don't know why you'd give them to someone who has showed no interest in them. I would ebay such a gift original.gif

Edited by Aruneh, 31 December 2012 - 01:55 PM.


#16 Riotproof

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:57 PM

I wouldn't do it, and yes I think it is rude. Different if she ever mentioned an interest, but 12 is still overkill.

#17 Feral timtam

Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:57 PM

I think it's a foolish thing to do. Some people will not use cloth because they hate doing laundry with a passion.

One person I know will take any handout she can get but refused my offer to buy her a full time stash of cloth nappies. All because she hates doing laundry. That was three years ago when she only had one in nappies. She now has four children in nappies and is spending over $100 a week on nappy products.
I now refuse to listen when she complains about being broke.

#18 podg

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:02 PM

I think offering to come three times a week for more than a few weeks and wash/dry/fold should be included in the gift.

I would have loved a starter pack of this kind with DD1 or 2. Nowadays not so much (on baby 4 in 5 years).

#19 Tigerdog

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:05 PM

A possible waste of money, if nothing else.  I wouldn't presume someone's choice and I definitely wouldn't lay out a large sum of cash on such a gamble.

#20 Jane Jetson

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:17 PM

Ugh, nothing worse than someone who insists you do things their way. Your friend is being presumptuous and silly.

#21 ekbaby

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:25 PM

I don't know about rude, so much as a waste of money.

I've given *ONE* cloth nappy at a baby shower to a mum who was interested in using cloth (we had discussed it recently, it was even the brand she had mentioned seeing)

Since having my own kids I've offered to loan a selection of our cloth nappies to friends with newborns, so they can "try before they buy" (only if they are interested). A lot of babies grow out of the small/newborn sized ones pretty quick anyway, so I'm happy for them to be passed around and used for as long as they want.

I would love to recieve MCN's as a baby shower gift original.gif, and have a couple of cloth-using friends who I know would feel the same, but unless the person is planning to use or already uses cloth it's unlikely to be appreciated.



#22 Soontobegran

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:31 PM

She has more money than sense. She must be outlaying in the very least $200 to try and push her agenda.

I'd have loved them, many others wouldn't.

#23 Romeo Void

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:37 PM

Are you sure she doesn't mean a 12 pack of terry flats?  Cause THOSE I would find handy!

#24 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:37 PM

It's very presumptious but I don't think it's a big deal. It's a gift, the receiver can give them away or sell them if she doesn't want them.

Lots of people buy crap, unnecessary presents, so I don't think there is anything wrong with the gift, just the gift giver's attitude.

ETA if the receiver has specifically stated that she will not be using cloth then I think the gift selection was pretty passive aggressive but if the receiver hasn't mentioned whether or not she's going to use them then I don't see the harm.

Edited by Sunnycat, 31 December 2012 - 02:40 PM.


#25 Alacritous~Andy

Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:39 PM

QUOTE (Romeo Void @ 31/12/2012, 02:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Are you sure she doesn't mean a 12 pack of terry flats?  Cause THOSE I would find handy!


I agree. I think terry flats are a great gift. MCNs, not so much.




1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

 
 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

What's hot on EB

Win 1 of 5 Canon Powershot D30 cameras

Capture life more easily with the Canon Powershot D30. Shockproof, waterproof and dustproof, you can take it almost anywhere and shoot beautiful images, time after time. Enter now!

16 parenting truths you won't find in the baby books

I am five years into this parenting gig and I’ve learnt that sleepless nights and changing dirty nappies are child’s play.

Best and worst potty party cakes

It's nice to celebrate a child making the shift from nappies to 'big kid' undies, but do we really need a semi-realistic used toilet cake to do it? Here are some of the best and worst cakes parents have used at 'potty parties' around the world.

7 tips for a financially festive Christmas

Plan ahead - and do it now - to ensure festive season expenses don't break the bank.

'Go the F*** to Sleep' author's new book for frustrated parents

A sequel is coming soon to the 2011 hit book 'Go the F*** to Sleep' - and this time, it's about mealtimes.

Great birthday party buys from Etsy

Handmade crafts to decorate and personalise your child's next birthday - from banners to cake decorations, we've got gorgeous party finds from Etsy.

Creative storage ideas for the kids' rooms

Creative and practical storage ideas for the kids' toys and books can also add some stylish decor to your home. Visit babyology.com.au for more stylish modern finds for hip kids & parents.

Student shocked by surprise baby

Kate Hudson, 22, was on a dream European holiday with friends. She didn't realise she was about to become a mum.

To the mum in the doctor's waiting room

Maybe the mum I saw in that waiting room, seemingly disconnected from her baby, doesn’t have the support she needs.

10 space-saving nursery ideas

Starting a family doesn't always mean moving into a bigger house - not yet, anyway.

 

What's in a name?

Baby Names

Looking for a classic name, or an unusual name? Our Baby Name Finder is for you, search or browse to refine your shortlist.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.