Would you give it a go? Should I?
Trying to meet people/make friends through EB
, Dec 31 2012 11:41 AM
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Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:41 AM
After reading several threads in which people acknowledge not having many friends, or admiring certain EB users, or meeting up for Yum Cha and actually paying the bill...
I'm thinking about taking a risk, and putting out a "Anyone in X (regional Far North Queensland) and wanting to meet people/make friends?" call. I'm pretty nervous about it, perhaps because I feel like a failure somehow for not having many friends IRL in my current location. And what if NO ONE responds??!! Or it goes really badly??!!
I moved here nearly 2 years ago, and have made 2 work mates, but both are gay and childless by choice, and are leading very different lifestyles to me. I guess I'm a bit lonely. I'm also concerned that my DH is my only close 'friend' up here, which puts a lot of pressure on him (and vice versa, since he hasn't made any friends either).
I'm a mum to a 2 year old DD and 3 month old DS, and I have realised that I don't have ANY friends with kids (mainly as most of my friends are gay). Not that the kids are my only interest, but it's hard to maintain a friendship when you are struggling with the 5-9 pm bedtime hell, and all your mates are just on their second course at some fabulous restaurant!
So, what if I was to post a topic along the lines of "Ex-Melbournian, hard working, left wing (but not complete hippy), animal loving, food and wine apprecianado with a penchant for sci fi and black humour seeks similar"???
Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:45 AM
You should go for it OP. Where abouts are you?
Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:50 AM
Definitely do it!
You've gotta be in it to win it.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:51 AM
Too bad I'm not in FN QLD. Your description sounds exactly like mine
Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:56 AM
Some of the best friends I have I met on EB, and my life is that much richer for all the friends I've found through this place
So go for it!
Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:57 AM
Go for it! Some of the dearest friends I've made have been from EB.
I often send random EBers stalkerish "I think you're awesome" messages and a couple who I have wanted to ask if they'd be interested in a play date but I'm too scars if rejection! Lol
Posted 31 December 2012 - 12:32 PM
Go for it, there is often threads like that.
I have made many great friends through EB
Posted 31 December 2012 - 12:36 PM
I'd rather go to play group or mothers group.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 12:45 PM
I've met a few people from EB and they've all been absolutely lovely. I say go for it.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 12:51 PM
Hmmmm....seriously considering it...
I am about to go back to work, and as such a Mum's group or play group is not an option. I did try one in Melbourne, before I moved, and I found it too 'baby focused' - but maybe that's just me.
I guess treating it a bit like internet dating is a way to approach it (love the stun gun suggestion!) - should I mention my love of Martinis as well? Or the fact that my gorgeous automatic coffee machine just died, and I'm almost hysterical from lack of caffeine (remember, ex-Melbourne girl here!)?
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:09 PM
A revolution! Yay! But...I have no artificially induced energy for it! One butt cheek may rise slowly from the computer chair, but there is no guarantee that the other will follow...
I can get a coffee at one of a couple of coffee chain places, if I drive to the nearest shopping centre. Which I have been doing for the last 2 days. But it's not as good as my Gaggia Platinum coffee machine, with the boutique beans that DH buys up in the tablelands...
Maybe I should just move back to Melbourne. More people and better coffee!
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:14 PM
I say go for it! I made a wonderful friend by answering such a post when my DS1 was a few months old. Her DS2 is a few weeks older and now they love play dates together. We also make sure we have child-free outings too.
I think yes.
Especially if feathers and margharita's are involved.
Also, I would attend any EB get together with a stun gun.
Basic safety always comes first.
I haven't managed to get to a Melb-EB catch up, but if I'm ever attending the same gathering as you, Quill, I think I'll keep my distance for a while - if that's ok
KTF, if you can't get access to decent coffee then I think the only choice you have is to move back to Melbourne. There's no other option really.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:18 PM
I think you should go for it. Most of my closest friends are from EB and I am thankful I put myself out there to meet/communicate with them.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:19 PM
And namie? I also kidnap other peoples children. Only the cute ones. Hide your children, namie. Hide 'em good.
Mine are cute but you can have them I will give them to you no need to kidnap. And the 11 year old is great with little kids built in babysitter.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:21 PM
I say go for it! You never know what might come of it... Good luck.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:24 PM
You should go to Caffiend in Cairns my coffee snob DH and his friends assure me that Caffiend and Indy1 are the only places to buy coffee from and the beans from Indy1 are apparently amazing!! Lots of good peeps this way in FNQ
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:30 PM
Go for it. Some of my closest friends are people I met on EB. Mostly from a ""X" suburbs" chat group and a few from my due in group.
What have you got to lose? a few hours of your time at a cafe? (they do have cafes in Nth QLD don't they?? )
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:35 PM
Ooooooohhhhhh!!!! Dolcengabbana, I could manage Grafton St, but sadly I note that Caffeind are closed until 9th February
But on another note, I have just outed myself as a resident of Cairns (northern beaches), haven't I
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:39 PM
Quill, I like your style. I'm on my way. And I now have "Sweet Transvestite" stuck in my head, complete with images of an impossibly gorgeous Tim Curry in fishnets and heels.
Probably not the image you were hoping to inspire, but highly attractive to me
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:43 PM
funny, I read Quill's post and got a little scared.
And men in fishnets do NOTHING for me!
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:43 PM
My DH has been grumpy and difficult because we couldn't have breakfast this week there. good cafe's are few and far between here Perottas is nice for breakfast and coffee near the nard.
The tablelands comment outed you the most
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:44 PM
Especially if their legs are better than mine lol.
Posted 31 December 2012 - 01:58 PM
I do like Perottas, and have been known to eat two breakfasts at once there. Actually, I usually eat two breakfasts at once there, and gave the gorgeous gay waiter a heart attack when I recently only ordered one... Haven't been since DS was born though, as it's hard trying to go with DH and both the kids, eating/drinking in "shifts" and all...
I can't wait til I go back to work, when the kids are in Daycare, and I can possibly sneak in a few cheeky coffees (read "peer supervision meetings") sans kids...
And I won't hear a WORD against Tim Curry!
Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:00 PM
funny, I read Quill's post and got a little scared.
And men in fishnets do NOTHING for me!
You're still scared by Alexander Downer dressed up in fishnets, suspenders and stilettos, aren't you
Posted 31 December 2012 - 02:29 PM
you will make some great friends out of it.
i've met some absolutely fabulous people from EB.
including one who delivered my second child
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