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#1 zoemonster

Posted 30 December 2012 - 08:21 AM

Yes I wouldnt call my baby that.  I need a new surname.  Divorced and dont like my maiden name as its an m name that sounds awkward with it.  Any suggestions from people who are good

#2 kerilyntaryn

Posted 30 December 2012 - 08:36 AM

I know a Melinda Wilson and a Melinda Thompson



Edited by kerilyntaryn, 30 December 2012 - 09:06 AM.

#3 Mz*Chievous1

Posted 30 December 2012 - 08:45 AM

Am in exactly the same predicament myself... I am actually changing my name to my great grandmothers maiden name so that I still have a family link, does any of your family tree names appeal to you?

#4 pickledbrain

Posted 30 December 2012 - 09:06 AM

Grab a phone book, close your eyes, open it to a page and point at a name.  That's your new one!

My friend did that and actually ended up with a surname that was perfect for her.

#5 Froger

Posted 30 December 2012 - 09:54 AM

Do you want to be hard to find? Pick a very common surname like Smith or Jones.

Or do you want to stand out? Then pick an uncommon surname like Hollingberry or Ravensdale.

#6 la di dah

Posted 30 December 2012 - 05:59 PM

Do you have a cultural background you'd like to embrace even as you scrap the particular name?

I've known a number of people who don't want their particular name but aren't actually looking to bland it right out to Smith.

In addition to family tree surnames, there's family tree first names? Many have surname forms, Jacobs, Alexander, Rose, Blythe...? Or something-son etc.

Melinda Winter would be pretty. But I like nature names so yeah.

Edited by la di dah, 30 December 2012 - 06:04 PM.

#7 Marchioness Flea

Posted 30 December 2012 - 06:05 PM

How about something to go with your profession or calling? Baker, miller etc.

ooh pick the name of your favourite crush(movie or sportsman or real life) and pretend you're married? Like when you'd write your name with his in primary school.

#8 Gudrun

Posted 30 December 2012 - 06:21 PM

Yeah, make a list of your favourite given names (male and female) and choose the one that fits best with Melinda and make that your new surname.

Conversely it might work to just drop the surname off and use your middle name as last name.

Or use your mother's/grandmother's given name (look at firsts and middles) etc as your surname eg Melinda Verity. Or a given name from the male line eg Melinda Douglas. You could use a possessive marker on a name eg Melinda Johns/ Melinda Peterson/ Melinda O'Neil. I'm using Anglo Saxon examples but from wherever...

ETA  Or a place eg where you were born or where your family heralds from. Or job an ancestor did.   Or month you were born. Favourite flower. Favourite colour. Favourite gem.  Season (but not Autumn, doesn't go with Melinda).

Edited by Gudrun, 30 December 2012 - 06:28 PM.

#9 la di dah

Posted 30 December 2012 - 06:29 PM

Alternately pick a name from a culture you'd like to justify future baby names for.  ph34r.gif

#10 Gudrun

Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:08 AM

More thoughts:

Try spelling your current surname backwards or stick it in an anagram site and see what options it throws up.

Or take letters away from the front of it eg cut it in half. Or add Van, Von, De, Dela, Della etc to the front of it.

#11 Single.mum.nz

Posted 31 December 2012 - 11:22 AM

Just an idea....My daughter was named from a street sign, when I saw it I fell in love with it. When your out driving keep your eyes peeled! Is there a place that's close to your heart or has wonderful memories attached.... grandparents house, somewhere you went on holiday, where you grew up etc etc does that street name fit?

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