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Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:35 PM
I have found a lovely wooden kids sink/cooker/washing set on gumtree in perfect condition. I was thinking that it would be the perfect gift for my niece (the only girl in a family full of boys!). The kitchen is something that she could play with for years, and is much much nicer than the plastic kitchens that are around.
There is no way I could afford a similar piece brand new, let alone all 3 pieces so was wondering what the general consensus is on gifting a secondhand gift? Would you/have you done it?
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:43 PM
I dont see it being a problem as long as you give it a clean and ask the mum first to see if she was ok with second hand things.
Edited: iPhone errors!
Edited by ~Mummy~Mel~, 29 December 2012 - 03:45 PM.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:44 PM
Can you ask the parents what they'd think of the idea? It would depend a lot on their attitude toward second hand stuff...
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:45 PM
Go for it. It's still new to her.
I've given and received second hand gifts before and it didn't even cross my mind to think it odd. The only time that second hand is not appropriate is personal care items (IMO).
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:46 PM
I haven't done it but my sister has.
She just mentions they're second hand and that's it. If it's in good condition and totally awesome I don't see what the problem is? There are many treasures to be found second hand. I love wooden toys but they are hard to find and very expensive.
Personally, I'd be thrilled if DS received a gift like that.
Go for it.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:50 PM
I think it sounds great. No issues at all with secondhand as long as it's in good condition.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:53 PM
Same as PPs. If it's in good condition, clean etc then go for it.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:55 PM
Would some people really NOT be ok with this kind of 2nd gift???
I think it is a great idea, I have bought a lot of stuff for my kids 2nd hand as gifts, the wooden things I have always repainted first to look especially shiny. I am floored that pps are concerned that the parents wouldn't be ok with it and to ask first.....
Posted 29 December 2012 - 03:58 PM
I'm all for 2nd hand toys and clothes etc if they're clean and in good condition, my kids wouldn't care, as PP said, it's new to them!
Posted 29 December 2012 - 04:05 PM
I love giving second hand things (in good condition and in good taste!) as gifts but sometimes I feel a bit 'funny' about it and so buy something new to go with it. Ie, a saucepan set from IKEA to go with the kitchen. But, that's just my issue. I'm sure the person recieving the gift doesn't actually care. lol
Posted 29 December 2012 - 04:12 PM
Talk to the mum first but yeah go for it. FYI we gave DD1 (almost 3yo) a wooden kitchen for Christmas last year, it is STILL played with every day. She loves it, best $120 I ever spent!
Posted 29 December 2012 - 04:24 PM
Can you give it a bit of a makeover? I.e. a new paint job? Then it will be kind of like something handmade
Posted 29 December 2012 - 04:31 PM
It wouldn't bother me at all.
But maybe just mention it to the parents , I doubt they will mind though.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 04:50 PM
I would find it bizarre if someone was unhappy with a secondhand gift like that. OP, I think that gift would be a great idea.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 05:21 PM
I think its fine that its second hand - however, I would ask parents before getting a big gift like that. They may not have the space, or they may have already got one put away they are planning on giving.
We got my DD one for xmas - she loves it! But, I got it on clearance (for $50) a couple of years ago and put it aside until she was old enough...
Posted 29 December 2012 - 06:03 PM
I would ask the parents first. I wouldn't have a problem, but I know several of my friends who would - there is no way I would buy 2nd hand gift for them.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 07:58 PM
I would rather have a clean second hand item I actually use than the countless brand new items I received over the years in which I have no interest.
Sometimes my aunt would give me things she uses - she is a generous and thoughtful person and gives them to me as a way of saying "I really love this and now I want you to enjoy it." I treasure them and there is one item I've been using continuously for the past ten years.
I don't see why you can't give second hand items, as long as the recipient doesn't mind and it's still in useable condition. I do remember receiving a mascara my friend bought online and it was supposed to be new, but it had been opened before. Since it was mascara I felt a bit iffy using something that may or may not have been tested by someone else before. I thanked her but never used it.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 08:07 PM
I'd ask the parents just because it is so big and I also wouldn't want to waste money on a double up gift. Not because it's second hand.
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