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#1 snuffles

Posted 29 December 2012 - 10:47 AM

...am I the only one??  It seems very uncommon these days original.gif .


#2 8yeargap

Posted 29 December 2012 - 10:53 AM

I say that iff you can afford it then go for it.  Simple.

#3 snuffles

Posted 29 December 2012 - 10:56 AM

QUOTE (8yeargap @ 29/12/2012, 10:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I say that iff you can afford it then go for it.  Simple.


We can and I am!  Was just wondering if there were any others around.

#4 nom de plume

Posted 29 December 2012 - 10:56 AM

No. My kids are 9, 9 & 5 and I am a SAHM. I'm starting to get bored and would love the perfect job with the perfect hours. My DH works 60 odd hours a week, so that has a large bearing on what I'm prepared to do.

#5 Nofliesonme

Posted 29 December 2012 - 10:59 AM

I thinkif you can afford it why not. I personally can't wait tiki head all kids soo can go work for my sanity. If I was still homeschooling When all at school age I'd be happy to SAH

#6 hoohoobump

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:12 AM

I am seriously considering dropping/reducing my hours when DS goes to kindy and school. More to walk him to and from, volunteer and be involved. I think he's the kind of high-maintenance kid who will benefit from that.

DH works long hours with less flexibility than me (and much more $$) as well.

#7 LynnyP

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:13 AM

In my daughter's class of 14 girls (just finished Year 2) there are six full time workers, 3 part time workers and 5 SAHMs.  Of the SAHMs only 1 has no under school aged children.  I was a SAHM for around three years for each child and then part time leading up to full time.

#8 MsDemeanor

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:17 AM

I don't know anyone that stays home and has kids in school.

#9 Carrie_zmatik

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:20 AM

QUOTE (EHB @ 29/12/2012, 11:54 AM)
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I am.
Homeschooling too - now that's uncommon  wink.gif  original.gif


Me too! It's not for everyone but we love it original.gif

#10 JJ

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:24 AM

QUOTE (Zion Dreamer @ 29/12/2012, 10:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Me too! It's not for everyone but we love it original.gif


Me three. original.gif Still a noob (just completed our first term) but so far, so good.

#11 Rachel70

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:26 AM

I am a SAHM after always working when the kids were tiny, but now they are at school I have ended up not working.
I do miss working a little bit but am so busy I don't know how I ever found time to work.
I am a SAHM as my DH has a largish company and I am paid a wage from the family trust. We would be worse off if I worked as we would pay more tax etc.
I am also heavily involved with scouts, school banking etc. but I also love the fact I can shop or have coffee with friends when I want too.
I have a few friends who are in the same position.
I will have to do some casual work at some stage as I am a nurse and want to keep my regristration valid.


#12 BadCat

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:31 AM

These threads never end well. but before it deteriorates into a slanging match I'll put my hand up.

I have no small children.  I am a SAHM.  I intend to remain one for the forseeable future.

#13 LynnyP

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:36 AM

Rachel, if you are receiving a wage from your husband's company as part of a tax arrangement then you should be very careful about announcing on a public website that you aren't doing any work for it.  However if it is a discretionary family trust and no expectation that you would be working, then no problems.

#14 sarah_jane

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:37 AM

Studying FT was as close to SAHM as I've got, and even then Liam was under school age.

Now I'm working FT and gosh I miss having more time for them/ with them. Just to be able to pick them up from school would be lovely.

#15 vanessa71

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:47 AM

DS is starting school this year and I will still be at home. I wouldn't mind having a job to go to, but it would have to be something I enjoy, it would not be a happy household if I was working in a job that I despised. I am not sure what my chances are given that I didn't even hear back from the last couple of jobs I applied for.



#16 Mummy2RyanandAlex

Posted 29 December 2012 - 11:56 AM

My youngest will be in full time school 2013. I will be a SAHM. I do get a bit of teacher's assistant relief work at the boys school tho.



#17 toosenuf

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:01 PM

OP i am a SAHM, i think if i were to work we would be better off financially but not emotionally, if that make sense  biggrin.gif

#18 Soontobegran

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:08 PM

My decision to work was mainly financial when the children were very young but I did work a 7 day fortnight meaning that I was a SAHM for the other days.
As they got older I could not have stayed away from my career as I loved it so much but may have worked less hours if we were in the financial position to do so.

I have no issue with mums being SAHM's with all children at school as I could have easily filled those hours in with more community and school type volunteering but I couldn't stay home and just 'stay at home' as I would have been very bored.

#19 Another one

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:08 PM

My SIL is a SAHM and her youngest is 10 - hasn't worked since the oldest (14) was born.

Before I had kids I couldn't understand it.  Now when I think about DD going to 3yo kinder next year and I am planning my work around drop off and pick up I can understand how much easier life would be.

But I think I am too slack to be a full time SAHM once they are at school.  My house wouldn't benefit, I'd just read a lot, use the computer etc.  Although I would like to be able to go to the school at least one day a week to help out.

#20 daisydo

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:13 PM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 29/12/2012, 12:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have no small children.  I am a SAHM.  I intend to remain one for the forseeable future.

Same same.

I had a short term contract earlier this year. It was very difficult at times with sick kids, after school activities, other commitments. The kids cheered on my last day of work.

#21 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:16 PM

SAHM for 17 years, kids now 14 & 17. DH commuted 3 hours each day so was away for a loooong day. I did not fancy putting kids into day care to return to work so I could earn money for the day care. Found being at home very fulfilling - I did do the occasional short term casual work as well as lots of school stuff. We also live in a high unemployment area and my work skills are very out of date. Currently studying p/t at uni in Food Tech area. Please don't read any criticism of working mums into this as I believe everyone's circumstances are different.

#22 HarperLeeAndMe

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:19 PM

Was always my plan until, exDH and I split.  Now I love work so much I am missing it over the holidays.

I think it is pretty impossible for single parents to stay at home when their children are at school, no choice there.

#23 snuffles

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:20 PM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 29/12/2012, 12:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
These threads never end well. but before it deteriorates into a slanging match I'll put my hand up.

I have no small children.  I am a SAHM.  I intend to remain one for the forseeable future.



Now now, I'm sure that we will all be nice.

Certainly this is no criticism of working parents, I am amazed at how they manage to do it all!!


#24 cinnabubble

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:20 PM

I'd be a SAHP with kids in school in a flash. That's the best time to be a SAHP.

#25 Dionysus

Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:29 PM

I am with cinnabubble.  SAH makes more sense, to me, when the kids are at school.

My SIL gave up work completely once her youngest started school.  It was more because her work was stressing her out too much, but the benefits of doing school pick-ups/drop-offs, volunteering at school, seeing assemblies etc etc soon became quite apparant.

It probably won't be an option for me, but I am in a situation where I can do the school run, assemblies, volunteering anyway and still work FT






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