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#1 snuffles

Posted 27 December 2012 - 12:59 PM

Do you feel that your family has too much 'stuff?'  Do you feel that, as a general rule, we Aussies (or westernised cultures generally) have too much 'stuff'?

Do you feel that too much emphasis is placed on having/giving 'stuff'?



I am asking that because large amounts of stuff stress me out.  I believe that it probably stems from being overindulged as a child, at least partly (mum grew up in a very poor family so wanted us to have what she didn't get to have).  I honestly think that, if I lived alone, I could easily fit everything I want into a small shoebox apartment.

Yes this is kind of a spin off from one of the other threads here in WDYT.




So WDYT?



#2 Lyra

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:04 PM

Yes, this family has too much 'stuff' and yes as a culture we have too much 'stuff'

The amount of stuff and clutter in my house stresses me out in a big way. I think a lot of my anxiety about Christmas is all the crap that I am going to have to deal with, find places for etc etc

I am now trying to consume and buy less and to also give less. For Christmas this year I gave a lot of 'experience' gifts.

#3 ~Supernova~

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:05 PM

Yep, definitely. I'm kinda glad I rent at the moment, because every time we move I throw out tonnes and give a lot away to people who need it more than us. The kids still have enough toys for 10 children though...

I specifically ask for no gifts for myself EVER. I don't need more crap piling up. DH buys me gifts, but he gets me stuff I really want and/or need.

#4 LittleListen

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:06 PM

I'm packing my house at the moment and despite being a conservative shopper who doesn't buy much and gives a lot away... I definitely have too much stuff.

I'm packing a small amount of things to live on for the next 12 months and the rest is being stored. I strongly feel that there will be entire boxes of things that I open after a year in storage and decide I no longer need. And that's after I've aggressively culled things for the last 6 months.

I'm reading David Ramsey's Financial Peace atm and I'm really, really thinking hard about stuff and why we buy it, responding to advertising and so on.

Its been an eye opening process for me.

#5 Unatheowl

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:08 PM

Yes, we have too much stuff here.  I am surreptitiously chucking out and giving away toys bit by bit.  The clutter also stresses me out.

  Whe I first moved out of home I was so delighted to have my own "stuff" that I bought and accepted a lot of gifts from people getting rid of it original.gif. Now I'm a bit over it and we have stuff like towels that I forgot we had with price tags attached  sad.gif   I'm definitely in declutter mode.

#6 Therese

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:11 PM

We have too much stuff as well. I managed to go through the house before Christmas and get rids of lots but there is still more that we don't need.

#7 Bob-the-skull

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:13 PM

yup... way to much stuff... we are tidying/culling post xmas atm...

thankfully my boys generally get lego lego and more lego so it just adds their collection which has a spot but i hate big bulky presents... i can't wait for their remote controlled things to go to their dads but atm it is banished to their rooms so i don't have to see it... i am gritting my teeth with lego stuff all over the floor as they have a "city" built atm...

#8 Natttmumm

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:17 PM

We have too much stuff. I have finally after 5 yr of complaining convinced DH to clean garage out.
I throw lots away

#9 Tigerdog

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:18 PM

QUOTE
I am asking that because large amounts of stuff stress me out.


Me too - I was apopleptic when I saw what my Mum was giving to my 2 DS' on Christmas (a full sack as big as they are in addition to the full one Santa gave them as well as wrapped presents from everyone!).  For next year I'll be saving the bucks to do more experience-type things, my eldest boy is a 'doer' as opposed to being into 'stuff'.  There was so much crap around on Christmas Day yet all the kids wanted to do was go across the road to play in the park!

I'm a chucker, I've gotten more this way over the years, eveyr time I've moved house, I'm addicted to it and it makes it easier just to keep things clean and tidy with less stuff.

Edited by Tigerdog, 27 December 2012 - 01:19 PM.


#10 jojonbeanie

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:20 PM

I think an indicator of this is how many times you see homes built with double garages and the cars can't fit in them because of all the 'stuff'.

#11 Lyra

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:20 PM

I'm also trying to not buy new as much as possible. I buy at Savers and really, really think about whether or not I need something or if I want it. I have also instituted a 'something comes in something goes out rule' If my daughter buys something with her pocket money then something the same size or bigger needs to be donated. At least this way it means that the level of crap is stable LOL

#12 Tigerdog

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:22 PM

QUOTE
I strongly feel that there will be entire boxes of things that I open after a year in storage and decide I no longer need.


I have even gone so far as to throw out boxes of stuff unopened for a few years without even checking (not with sentimental stuff in there as I keep this stuff separate) - things like linen, handbags, shoes, clothes, kitchen utensils and other general household stuff.  If I haven't missed it in 2 years then I don't need it.

#13 (feral)epg

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:22 PM

I value space much more highly than 'stuff'.
It's quite interesting to work out the cost of an extra square metre of living space (very variable depending on location) and then compare it to the value of stuff that you are storing.

#14 Wise Old Owl

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:23 PM

QUOTE (Tigerdog @ 27/12/2012, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm a chucker, I've gotten more this way over the years, eveyr time I've moved house, I'm addicted to it and it makes it easier just to keep things clean and tidy with less stuff.


Me too.  I am constantly sorting through everything in the house.  Not sure if it is the older I get or the more children I have, but I can not stand clutter at all.

Last time we moved I purposely left a lot of things (mainly kitchen etc) in boxes and they are stored at MIL house in a shed.  I have not missed a single thing and I would estimate there to be at least a dozen boxes!!!!

Definately way too much stuff and could even do with less.

#15 HandsOnNewton

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:24 PM

Put it this way....I am looking forward to some MAJOR  decluttering next year when DS starts kindy. I dont mind stuff but when it's too much for available storage, it does stress me out a bit

#16 cinnabubble

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:26 PM

We just spent Christmas with two one-child families who have four bedroomed houses. The amount of stuff they "needed" just to occupy the space available was phenomenal.

We have four people in a two-bedroom flat and we definitely have too much stuff, but that pales in comparison to the only children with their own bedrooms plus their own playrooms we saw over Christmas.

Edited by cinnabubble, 27 December 2012 - 01:27 PM.


#17 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:29 PM

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Edited by lifehacker, 13 January 2013 - 11:36 AM.


#18 Lifesgood

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:40 PM

OP are you my doppleganger? I could have written your post. Clutter also makes me twitchy, I can't stand it and I'm sure it is partly due to growing up with a mother who is a hoarder. I am another 'chucker'. Nothing is safe if left lying around for too long in my house.

QUOTE (lifehacker @ 27/12/2012, 02:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Nope, I hate clutter and crap with a passion.  I live very minimally.  I consider everything that comes in to the house very carefully. There are currently less than 10 things total in my living room - couch, tv, tv cabinet, 1 basket that holds remotes, 1 pair curtains, 1 throw rug, 1 fan that's it.
My wardrobe consists of 10 items and 3 pairs of footwear,
It's the best way to live!

I aspire to this wub.gif but alas with 2 children I can't see it happening

#19 snuffles

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:45 PM

QUOTE (lifehacker @ 27/12/2012, 01:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Nope, I hate clutter and crap with a passion.  I live very minimally.  I consider everything that comes in to the house very carefully. There are currently less than 10 things total in my living room - couch, tv, tv cabinet, 1 basket that holds remotes, 1 pair curtains, 1 throw rug, 1 fan that's it.
My wardrobe consists of 10 items and 3 pairs of footwear,
It's the best way to live!


Question.  Do you have a partner/kids and if so, how do you manage to live so minimally when you have people other than yourself to please?  Genuine query, I have DH and three kids, each of whom have at least ten times more stuff than me.



#20 BadCat

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:45 PM

We have stuff coming out of our ears which is odd because we don't really buy much stuff.

I think it stems from us all having a slight touch of the hoarder about us.   Don't throw away my my bread tags mum, I'm collecting them.  Sure that t-shirt has holes and hasn't fit in 15 years but let's keep it in the wardrobe just in case.  Don't throw away that ticket stub, it's a souvenir.

:sigh:

#21 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:58 PM

I am a big chucker outer and still have too much stuff sad.gif

#22 SlightlyLeftFeral

Posted 27 December 2012 - 02:09 PM

It's just DD and I in a 4 bedroom house, and we have lots of stuff, mainly hers, and clothes.

I have become a lot better at just chucking things or donating them, currently have 3 garbage bags waiting to go to the salvos.

#23 ShamelesslyPooks

Posted 27 December 2012 - 02:11 PM

I don't buy much, but I do have a touch of the hoarder in me. I do tend to reuse and "find uses" for things, but I regularly clear through and donate, give away or sell stuff. When I was single, I could fit my possessions (minus a few boxes of books and ornaments stored at mum's place) into a car. I would move house regularly, and simply call Salvos for pick up of furniture, or advertise online stuffs free if you want it, then start fresh at the new place. I lived in homes furnished with cardboard boxes, hard rubbish, hand me downs, and op shop items. It was fine. Now that I've settled in one place, and have a baby, I'm pretty amazed by how much we have accumulated. It's mostly baby stuff, and I've handed down or sold 50% of it as he has grown but there are still piles of stuff.

In defense of suburban double garage chock full of stuff, we have a home like this but we have the tiniest garden shed, a tiny laundry, a tiny kitchen and tiny bedrooms, all with very little storage (living areas are spacious but again, no inbuilt storage and IMO big furniture items would cramp them) I actually like it that way as the rooms are uncluttered and don't have "unnecessary" things in them. But for things you do want/need to store, the garage is pretty much it. Ours is full of old clothes in boxes, boxes of my old toys for DS when he is older, gardening stuff, tools, pedestal fans and some stuff I'm putting aside for a garage sale in the new year. Adds up quick!

#24 BookishOne

Posted 27 December 2012 - 02:32 PM

QUOTE (lifehacker @ 27/12/2012, 02:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Nope, I hate clutter and crap with a passion.  I live very minimally.  I consider everything that comes in to the house very carefully. There are currently less than 10 things total in my living room - couch, tv, tv cabinet, 1 basket that holds remotes, 1 pair curtains, 1 throw rug, 1 fan that's it.
My wardrobe consists of 10 items and 3 pairs of footwear,
It's the best way to live!


lifehacker you are my hero! I wish my house, and wardrobe, was like this!!

My problems is that I actually really like 'stuff'...but only whilst I am in the shop, and especially so if it is a bargain. I struggle to walk past a good deal! I also have no issue with second-hand goods (with a great deal of our furniture, baby stuff and many of my clothes being sources from garage sales, op shops and hand-me-downs from friends and family), however I can't ever seem to say 'no thanks' if we are offered something, or if I come across something that MAY (possibly, one day) be useful. I then get said stuff home and hate looking at the clutter. I constantly feel the need to purge, and chuck (donate / recycle) regularly, until inevitably DH asks where such-and-such went and I have to admit I'd gotten rid of it rolleyes.gif

The amount of 'stuff' that DD (6m) received for Christmas was ridiculous, as was that amount that DH and I received...I actually felt a bit sick looking at it all at the end of the day. I really feel that we need to break the cycle somehow...

#25 JRA

Posted 27 December 2012 - 02:37 PM

We are in the process of getting rid of a huge amount of "Stuff".

I cannot live in the house any more, I need so much less. If we could move house to a house half the size without it costing 100K+ just to move, we would move to a smaller single storey house in a flash.

ETA: A significant portion of the "stuff" is from DH's parents when they died, two dining tables and chairs made by DH's grandfather etc They simply have to go now.

Edited by JRA, 27 December 2012 - 02:38 PM.





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