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#1 butterflies

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:27 PM

DD#1 is turning 12 in a few weeks, and she wants to have a party.

She usually has her girl friends over for a pool party and a sleep over.

But this year she has asked for 3 girls and 4 boys to sleep over.  I have met 3 of these boys on different occasions, I know their parents (except for the one boy) they are very polite and well behaved boys.

I have straight out said there will be no boys sleeping over, but I thought I would ask around and see what other people's reactions are.

#2 MissM86

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:30 PM

No, I wouldn't let the boys sleep over. Perfectly reasonable to make them go home before bedtime. If you do let boys sleep over, I would be ensuring all the parents of the other children are aware that this is a 'co-ed' sleep over so they can choose to pick their daughter (or son) up before bedtime.

#3 jojonbeanie

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:31 PM

Yes, I would.

Edited by jojonbeanie, 26 December 2012 - 08:31 PM.


#4 liveworkplay

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:31 PM

!2 I don't know. If I knew the parents and could have them in separate rooms....maybe.

In saying that, we have had my friends kids (boy and girl) stay over a few times and all the kids (5 of them) slept in the same jumble of mattresses. DD1 has also had a sleepover at friends house with 3 girls, 4 boys all 8 yrs old.

#5 TillyTake2

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:32 PM

No. Not at 12. The boys could come for the pool party part & the girls the sleep over.

#6 Chelli

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:33 PM

I would and have allowed boys to sleep over at our place. I tend to trust until I have reason not to, and it was completely fine (and platonic wink.gif. )

#7 bryce's-mummy

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:35 PM

No, I also wouldn't let the boys sleep over. But I would let them over for a birthday dinner and until a certain time and then they can go home. On the other side of it I wouldn't let DS sleep at a girls house at 12 years of age.

#8 Soontobegran

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:36 PM

Yes but they'd be bedded down in separate areas, not necessarily separate rooms but on different blow up mattress etc.
We have had co-ed sleep overs and they have all been children whom we know well and know their parents.
I encouraged our kids to have friends of both sexes, at age 12 they will require supervision but the majority of them are only interested in being kids.

#9 Mumma Mash

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:40 PM

No. I had a sleepover at a cousins house and she had a detached room with her own access - so she invited her boyfriend over for the night... I ended up on the floor blocking my ears.

To be fair I was very naive and she denied sleeping with him but there was definitely action at age 12.

#10 Holidayromp

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:41 PM

Knowing what 12yo can and do get up to I would not be allowing any boys to part of the sleepover.  They can come to the pool party but go home close to bedtime or something.

#11 Illiterati

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:41 PM

Yes.  My 11yo daughter went to a boy from her class birthday sleepover. It was 3 girls and 3 boys. They have known each other since prep. They all slept in the same room on a bunch of mattresses joined together on the floor.

#12 Expelliarmus

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:43 PM

No. It's really difficult to put into words - everything I tried sounded judgemental. But at the end of the day it's a religious thing and doesn't fit with our values.

#13 i-candi

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:43 PM

DD just went to a 10 year old party sleepover, she was the only girl. I was more than fine with it. 12??? probably.



#14 Justaduck

Posted 26 December 2012 - 08:45 PM

I was staying with my male cousin and his older friend slept over too.
Friend was 13 and I was 12 & we kissed and cuddled a lot of the night...but that was all.
Based on my experiences probably would not be keen with co-ed sleepover at 12




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