Thanks for the replies ladies. I have been in contact with a lots of people and will be going ahead with a stimulated cycle starting in two weeks! My daughter will be 8 months old then.
I did call the ABA and their expert is the women in the podcast. Her and I have been in close phone contact and I have gotten a lot of advice off her. She is also very experienced in drugs and anaethetics and whether or not they pass into breastmilk. The drugs that my doctor is using is going to be designed to be safe for my daughter - he is going to use the fact that breastfeeding has me 'down-regged' so no need for Synarel or Lucrin or the pill (and he will check I'm 'quiet' enough before we start). FSH will be gonal-F which is a synethetic derivative of the hormones women already produce, so I'm had multiple experts tell me I'm okay with that one and I will feed and then take the shot so I have 4-5 hours afterwards with no feeds just to further help. Orgalutran is one I had to check carefully but it's good too. Ovidrel is just HCG, so no problem there. Progesterone in the form of pessaries does not make it into breastmilk and if it did it would be destroyed my the babies digestive system and I also have clearance to take a small does of prednisone to help with implantation.
So my doctor is on board, he knows what he's doing. The ABA have helped with their expert and I've sought drug information from Dr Thomas Hales who is the world expert in drugs and breastfeeding. The anaethetic will be one that will be too large to pass into breastmilk.
As for milk supply - I know there is a chance it will dry up, but I need to take that chance as we have a timer on our IVF. I have introduced the concept of 'milk in a cup' to my daughter and if it does occur we will cross that bridge.
Oh and my doctor is of the opinion that prolactin levels, even if mildly inflated can reduce the chance of implantation so any good embryos that are capable of freezing will be frozen BUT I said if we had one that wasn't good enough to freeze and therefore would be left to succumb (therefore nothing to lose and a lot to gain) could we be sneaky and put that one in? And he said sure, why not!
So that's the plan!!
Edited by ~katiez~, 07 January 2013 - 12:21 PM.