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#1 WinterIsComing

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:04 PM

*FLUFF*

Imagine you go out for lunch with a girlfriend and take photos of each other at the said lunch.

You are the owner of the "prosumer" camera and operate it well. Take some great pics of the gf. GF takes half decent pics of you, with most of them being out of focus or too far/badly lit.

You put a selection of photos on Facebook. Whatever decent you could find of yourself and great shots you took of the friend.

Then the following ahappens:

1. Former friend, who you had a very bad falling out with, deleted off FB, but who is still friends with my other friend, comments on her photos etc. Should they? I mean they are MY photos, published by me! Get away!

2. Some mutual friends, who you are both friends with, like and comment on the friends photos but not on yours, even though it is you who published them. It hurts. What about me?!

What do you think? Breach of FB etiquette or not?



#2 protart roflcoptor

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:05 PM

FB has an etiquette?



#3 Expelliarmus

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:15 PM

Sometimes people block others from news feeds while remaining friends. Sometimes photos don't show up on a timeline. There are lots of random settings that could affect this.

#4 CupOfCoffee

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:17 PM

QUOTE (WinterIsComing @ 23/12/2012, 01:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
1. Former friend, who you had a very bad falling out with, deleted off FB, but who is still friends with my other friend, comments on her photos etc. Should they? I mean they are MY photos, published by me! Get away!


That is not a problem, she is posting on a photo of her friend.  (It would be rude if she said something like: 'did you have lunch with that skank')

QUOTE (WinterIsComing @ 23/12/2012, 01:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
2.  Some mutual friends, who you are both friends with, like and comment on  the friends photos but not on yours, even though it is you who  published them. It hurts. What about me?!


Could be for lots of reasons... maybe you had spinach between your teeth, or your fly undone in your photos and people were just being polite by not commenting.

#5 Trouble-

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:18 PM

The way FB randomly edits new feeds could explain the unevenness of the responses.


#6 Tobias'smum

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:18 PM

1. if you publish them you need to restrict viewing to prevent others from seeing them as what hapeens is you post a picture tag  xyz in the photo it will then show on any frinds of xyz s wall. As for them then commenting on it - they can do what ever the hell they like  - i tend not comment on friends of friends photos
2. as for not commenting they may not want to say "who ever took that photo should not operate a camera " so thats why there r no comments

#7 DreamFeralisations

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:18 PM

Spray a generous amount of FB-strength teflon coating and step away from the computer.

Life is FAR TOO SHORT to let it upset you.

Honestly, I have commented on friends' photos when they are tagged, not realising they are someone else's photos - it happens.  

If you don't have the TC available, there are settings you can employ.

You can block people so you can't see their comments and therefore it doesn't get to bother you at all.  

You can set your photos to only be viewable to your friends and not friends-of-friends.

#8 Ritaroo

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:18 PM

For the first question, anyone who is friends with your friend can comment on, and see, the photos, regardless of whether or not you are friends with them. The second question- I know you said it was fluff but really? You are upset because friends haven't commented on your photos? That seems a bit silly to me.

#9 jofisk

Posted 23 December 2012 - 01:32 PM

I have been burnt by so called 'friends' on FB, so have blocked them and had deleted nearly all photos on there as well.  When I do post photos on they I make sure the settings are for friends only and even then delete them after a set time period.

I had to so this due to personal attacks after DD1 was dx with ASD, friends called me a bad parent etc so I don't need this in my life so I had a big clean out online and IRL.

#10 PurpleWitch

Posted 23 December 2012 - 03:11 PM

I think you're thinking too much.

I wouldn't expect my friends friends to comment on me, when they aren't MY friends.



#11 FeralEsme

Posted 23 December 2012 - 03:19 PM

Agree with PW.

Why do you even care? You put it on FB it's out there as far as I am concerned and you have to expect open slather (and possible bruised ego).

Edited by Jemstar, 23 December 2012 - 03:20 PM.


#12 Fr0g

Posted 23 December 2012 - 03:43 PM

Dear God, way too precious.

None of your business if ex-friend comments on a mutual friend's pic and b) very petty of you to be bothered by people commenting on her pics and not yours. Even odder, you point out yours were superior.

Op, post them on Instagram and live your dreams.

#13 mumto4boys

Posted 23 December 2012 - 05:19 PM

I would think FFS are you 5 years old?


Sorry, you could be a lovely person but you are way over thinking Fakebook. You need to toughen up a bit or get off Facebook altogether. Seriously, who takes that much notice of who likes whose photos?

Life is far too short to let little things like that worry you.

#14 NotRocketScience

Posted 24 December 2012 - 08:18 AM

Set your photo settings to only your friends can see them not friends of friends.

As for your friends not commenting on pics of you, doesn't that thing happen to everyone at times? You have a bruised ego but need to get over it.


#15 unselfish

Posted 24 December 2012 - 08:24 AM

bridge. build.

#16 epl0822

Posted 24 December 2012 - 09:24 AM

Maybe you should post on everyone's walls "NOBODY IS ALLOWED TO COMMENT ON PHOTOS OF ME OR PHOTOS TAKEN BY ME WITHOUT MY PERMISSION." Then you wouldn't have the problem of recalcitrant Facebook friends of Facebook friends commenting on your pictures, because you wouldn't have any friends anymore!

#17 Carabosse

Posted 24 December 2012 - 09:42 AM

if a photo is open to 'comment' then it does not matter who 'publishes' them. If you want to restrict who sees them turn off 'visible to friends of those tagged' or specifically block the person you don't like from seeing it.

As for commenting on pics of you, there are many FB scenarios that mean people may not have even automatically seen the pics! Maybe they have your feed on ignore ;-) JOKING!!!!!

I have a relative who gets in a flap about FB and often chucks a FB hissy fit. Don't become one of those original.gif

Edit: Neither of the scenarios ou have described really fit into 'FB etiquette' IMO

Edited by Carabosse, 24 December 2012 - 09:44 AM.


#18 FiveAus

Posted 24 December 2012 - 09:46 AM

I wonder how many friendships Facebook has been responsible for ending?


Hang on. Facebook. Friends. Real friends? Probably not.

#19 Kitty Fantastico

Posted 24 December 2012 - 09:57 AM

I don't comment or "like" photos of friends put up by their friends if I don't know them personally. If you don't want the ex-friend commenting on photos, block them, or don't tag your friend (so that your pics don't show up in ex-friends newsfeed)

edited to make sense

Edited by Kitty Fantastico, 24 December 2012 - 09:58 AM.


#20 The 7 Dwarfs

Posted 24 December 2012 - 10:02 AM

I think I'd never have thought enough about it to care in the first place.



#21 Spring Chickadee

Posted 24 December 2012 - 10:10 AM

It wouldn't occur to me to be even remotely offended by this. I'm totally missing the issue sorry.

But to answer your question, no neither is rude.

#22 Eirinn

Posted 24 December 2012 - 11:20 AM

QUOTE (Kitty Fantastico @ 24/12/2012, 10:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't comment or "like" photos of friends put up by their friends if I don't know them personally.


Sometimes I comment before realising they are photos put up by someone else. Facebook is like that sometimes.

I'm another one who really can't see the issue, sorry OP.

#23 Cherubs

Posted 24 December 2012 - 11:40 AM

OP I am really sorry you feel upset about this. Why do you think it upset you, are you feeling ignored somewhere closer to home?  Is your self esteem a little fragile and looking for a boost?

When minor things upset me, I grab a pen and paper and start writing, it helps me get everything out and make connections, then I start writing suggestions and plans to turn it around.

I realise that isn't going to work for everyone, but I just find when I get annoyed at other people there is something in me that triggers it, and taking that responsibility enables me to do something about it and make myself happier.



#24 Futureself

Posted 24 December 2012 - 03:37 PM

Bloody Facebook

#25 FeralEsme

Posted 24 December 2012 - 03:39 PM

No, not bloody facebook, bloody idiots letting other bloody idiots on Facebook get to them




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