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#1 Leafprincess

Posted 23 December 2012 - 06:27 AM

So this is a spin  off from the MIL who gives 'forbidden' foods.

This was my post:
My nephew has intolerances to certain foods but FIL & MIL "know better" and despite the poor kid being lactose intolerant give him ice cream & chocolate milkshakes when their mother isn't around.   I'm sure she knows because my nephew has a sore belly afterwards & is irritable (plus the runs) but sil says nothing.

The other day my MIL offers my five week old some garlic bread "just to taste it"  
I pulled the baby close to me and glared at her. She laughed it off, but there is no way they will be left unsupervised with my son. Especially not before he can speak and tell me what the ILs have fed him.

This isn't the only thing that the ILs do with the kids that has be going  ohmy.gif

The other day MIL was relaying a "funny story"

Kids were doing craft, the craft glue wasn't working, the googley eyes wouldn't stay out. So FIl get out the super glue from the tool shed (because that will make those googley eyes stay for sure). He gives it to MIl who leaves it next to the four year old niece with the specific instruction "grandma will help you, once I've gotten changed."

Naturally the four year old listened, then Proceeded to super glue the eyes herself while no one was watching. She got super glue all in her hair. Niece has lovely thick curly hair and MIL knew SIL would freak out with the superglue in her hair so MIL gets our the scissors and starts cutting out the matted super glue hair, ties her hair up and said nothing when SIL picks her up.

I don't know what was more shocking:
Giving superglue to a child
Leaving a child unsupervised with a toxic product
Not advising the parent when an incident has occurred

I had no words for MIL when she finished her story. I'm surprised DP survived his childhood.

So lets hear your stories of things that make you go Hhmm

Edited by Leafprincess, 23 December 2012 - 06:33 AM.


#2 Lady Garden

Posted 23 December 2012 - 06:42 AM

She could have lost her eyes  sad.gif

Do not leave your children with these people. You SIL is irresponsible, her poor children to be left with them.

#3 foxgirls

Posted 23 December 2012 - 06:42 AM

Well, i think after some of the stuff i read here, my MIL isn't so bad  wink.gif She has never done anything that dodgy when having the kids stay.
But when she gave DD a glass painting set. It had been opened with 2 or 3 of the glass rocks missing, and a few of the paints used and opened which had dried up and the kids were not impressed. So DH said 'mum probably wanted to have a go of it' he said it cacking himself laughing! I was shocked! asking him if he was serious?!, but could see the funny side.
I am going to be on the look out for her works of glass painted art when i visit next  rolleyes.gif


#4 Jenflea

Posted 23 December 2012 - 06:53 AM

Giving a lactose intolerant child milk and dairy is bordering on abuse in my book.
The poor child sad.gif

#5 ozbilby

Posted 23 December 2012 - 07:06 AM

That is horrible OP. My inlaws tried to feed cheese to my 15 month old milk allergic daughter yesterday. When questioned they didn't understand the problem as it was cheese not milk  wacko.gif .

#6 BadCat

Posted 23 December 2012 - 07:06 AM

My kids have never been allowed to stay unattended with anyone in my bogan SIL's family.  They are the people who think it's funny to offer alcohol to toddlers and get baby's ears pierced without permission.

#7 ~buzz~

Posted 23 December 2012 - 07:14 AM

OP I would never leave my child with those people. That is shocking

#8 LookMumNoHands

Posted 23 December 2012 - 07:19 AM

When DS1 was 2months old, we were at a friends house for a BBQ.
I left DS sitting on our friends lap, while I nicked to the loo. DH was in their spa.

When I got back, DS was happily sitting on the friends lap, sucking on a spoonful of peanut butter. Apparently he'd gotten grisly, and couldn't wait for me to finish in the bathroom. All of 3 minutes. I was so cross!

#9 Leafprincess

Posted 23 December 2012 - 07:23 AM

Oh it will be a blue day in hell before they are left unsupervised with my child.
Im not sure if its because they are old or just careless.

As people they are nice, they just have little to no concept when it comes to children.

Luckily, my mum looks after my little one and my mum is hyper careful, in fact both her and my dad did a parenting course while I was pregnant to brush up on the latest techniques/advice.

#10 cinnabubble

Posted 23 December 2012 - 07:57 AM

MIL cut (SIL's child) her granddaughter's hair when the child was there unsupervised. I'm surprised that she hasn't had the child's ears pierced.

That's one of the reasons why my children don't spend unsupervised time with her.

#11 bjk76

Posted 23 December 2012 - 08:39 AM

When Mum was maybe 1, one of her grandmothers decided to perm her hair! Mum's mother was not impressed!

#12 neddyteddy

Posted 23 December 2012 - 08:51 AM

Im just so so sorry some of you have these MIL issues. It makes me so sad to think people are like this with children.
The most annoying thing my FIL does is get in my DD face with so much attention it drives her nuts at times ... if anyone offers her junk food (including arrowroot biscuits lol) they say no thanks.  wub.gif



#13 Ehill

Posted 23 December 2012 - 08:52 AM

Firstly may I say my MIL is nice, really really nice and we get along great.  She has looked after my kids so many times and helped me when they or I am sick etc etc so my one.....hmmmmmmm moment was a small blip in an otherwise great relationship.

My kids are born bald, totally!  Watching DD's beautiful fine blonde hair grow has been a slow and painful process.  When she was about 18mo it was growing and it was this cute mullet kind of look.  It was super cute and it had never been cut.  

She got back from the IL's one day and my husband looks at her and says 'did you cut DD's hair?  Her mullet is gone!'  ohmy.gif .  NOOOOOOOOOO MIL gave DD her first haircut.  I texted MIL and yes she had.  Ever since we have given her a bit of grief over it in a lighthearted way (she is too nice to get mad at) and she has never dared do it since!

#14 FrogIsAFrogIsAFrog

Posted 23 December 2012 - 08:52 AM

A few years ago my MIL (who I have a really great relationship with), was looking after the kids and DD must have had an accident and hit her face.

DD was sent home to us with facepaint on, which wasn't something she'd usually do. It seemed to me that MIL applied face paint to cover the injury, rather than tell me what had happened.

When i discovered it at bedtime, when i washed her face and saw the bruising, She denied it and was furious I would accuse her of covering anything up! She couldn't explain the accident, but DS who was about 7 at the time, could - he said Nan put the face paint on to comfort DD after she hurt herself! (I can't remember what it was, nothing that MIL couldn't have told me).

It strained our relationship for a few months, but it's long forgotten now!

#15 soontobegran

Posted 23 December 2012 - 08:57 AM

Things that make me go hhmmm would be anyone giving a 5 week old baby garlic bread.

I would tend to think that if this is the case there must be a level of confusion or dementia.

#16 Leafprincess

Posted 23 December 2012 - 09:11 AM

QUOTE (soontobegran @ 23/12/2012, 08:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Things that make me go hhmmm would be anyone giving a 5 week old baby garlic bread.

I would tend to think that if this is the case there must be a level of confusion or dementia.


Rest assured the garlic bread never touched him. She waved it near him and asked him if he would like to taste it. I had him in my arms and pulled the baby back towards me and took a step back while glaring at her. (think protective lion glaring)

I really do think its because they are old and rather than evil. They just can't be left unsupervised.

And what is with this whole cutting other people's children's hair business?!

#17 kadoodle

Posted 23 December 2012 - 09:49 AM

My father is one of those absent minded people who should never be left in charge of anything needier than a cat.  Unfortunately, when DD1 was 3 weeks old, I was a matron of honor at a friend's wedding, so my parents babysat for the ceremony before dropping her off to be with me for the reception.

They ran out of EBM.  I'd left a tin of forumula, but Dad had misplaced his glasses and couldn't read the instructions.  Mum was having a lie down, so rather than wake her to read them, he made DD1 a bottle of red cordial!

Now he wonders why I'm reluctant to leave him in charge again.

#18 JuniPooks_

Posted 23 December 2012 - 09:58 AM

MIL and FIL think the solution to their dog being bite-y and bark-y and jumpy and aggro, and me not wanting DS to be within a country mile of him, is to put said dog on a leash and put his face right next to DS (at 6 weeks old) while I duck out for a wee. So "he could get used to the baby".

And they wonder why I haven't visited since.

#19 Jenflea

Posted 23 December 2012 - 10:45 AM

Red cordial???? I'm speechless!




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