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Could you get any more personal??!!

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#1 Dawarr

Posted 21 December 2012 - 09:58 AM

Yesterday I braved the long drive and awful Christmas shopping hordes to go to Target. I didn't want to, but really needed to get a new car seat, and only Target had one in stock (BTW, thanks to all the EB advice about what car seat to get - I got the Safe and Sound one, but a Trojan).

So I'm standing in Target, with DS (3 months) in a Baby Bjorn, struggling to get this car seat balanced on a trolley, when I'm approached by a sales person for a well known child portrait chain. She spies me, and starts her (probably well rehearsed) spiel.

Her: Hello! Oh what a gorgeous baby! A boy?

Me: Thankyou. Yep, a boy, 3 months old.

Her: He is adorable! And so big! Now, we are giving out free entry into a competition to win a family portrait, with X photo store, which is operating within Target.

Me: No thanks, I really don't like photos (I don't, honestly EB).

Her: Oh! REALLY?

Me: Yep, just don't like them. Thanks though.

And now it turns weird...

Her: Did you have a bad experience?

Me: (Thinking she means photo store portraits) No, I just don't like photos altogether.

Her: No, I mean, like a bad experience in childhood?

Me: Huh?

Her: (moving closer to me) Did something happen to you?

Me: Um.....No.... (looking around wildly, thinking 'How can I get out of here?!')

Her: Did your parents take photos of you?

Me: (playing it safe) No, my family is not into photos either.

Her: (moving even closer to me) So is there some sort of trauma or something?

Me: NO! Thanks for the offer, but I have to go!

And I ran, as fast as a woman pushing a trolley with a car seat on top, lugging an enormous boofa of a baby, can run. Which is not fast, but was fast enough.

So....Odd much??!!!

Edited by KeepTheFaith, 21 December 2012 - 09:59 AM.

#2 Therese

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:02 AM

How very odd. In the beginning of your post I thought she was just being a pushy saleswoman...but no..it was just strange...

#3 Bluenomi

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:03 AM

That's really weird. If she keep that up, she's going to scare off all her customers!

#4 mumofsky

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:03 AM

That is hilarious!!!!!! Im guessing she didn't get into psych at uni and is still wishing she did...

#5 FiveAus

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:05 AM

'Tis the season.......

I've learnt to avoid one particular checkout operator in Coles because she just talks about the strangest things. And she doesn't shut up. I'm hoping she's just a Christmas temp.

#6 MintyBiscuit

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:08 AM

How strange. I wonder how she thought it was going to end?

"Oh yes, I did have a traumatic experience in childhood, thank you for being so perceptive. I'll take the most expensive option you have!"

#7 Caramel Latte

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:10 AM


But the one that came up to us the other day didn't do much for sales either. I was with my 19yr old and 11mth old, when she walked up to us. She kept talking to my 19yr old but getting annoyed when I answered.

I finally realised she thought I was the Grandmother and pls refer queries to me. Instead of leaving it there, she added "so it's been a long time between photos?" But after I responded "no, its been 6 mths".

I feel there is to many assumptions being made.

#8 katpaws

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:12 AM


There is a supermarket checkout person that cracks me up each time i see him; he tells me how he is an anarchist and cynic and i am thinking, you work for a big corporation, i am not sure telling customers you don't believe in your employer is the right thing to do or asking cutomers about their philosophical beliefs. Last time he asked me if i was a cynic i said as a mother now i was beyond cynicism.

If i had been asked those questions i could have thought of some great replies.  dev (6).gif

#9 lozoodle

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:16 AM

First part = normal and always happens in target.

Second part = weirdo!

#10 matt1972

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:21 AM

I laughed/snorted so loud I looked around to see if anyone heard me, even though I know I am the only one in the office :|
That is truly stunning.

#11 steppy

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:25 AM

That IS weird. And I'm sorry but I laughed a little. Maybe SHE had a bad experience. Such a weird thing to talk about to a total stranger though.

#12 Kitty Fantastico

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:26 AM

Very odd

#13 Dawarr

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:32 AM

Darn, I wish I could have thought of something witty to hit back with! HollyOllyOxenfree, I love your thinking!

And no, I don't like any photos of me, portrait or otherwise. Neither does my partner. He takes photos of the kids, but we don't put them in frames or anything (they are on Drop Box, for our friends and family to see, and we will sometimes look at them together, when the kids are asleep, to remind ourselves that our little monsters are gorgeous little monsters!).

#14 FeralFerretOfDoom

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:33 AM

You should tell her you were the baby in this photo and the trauma has put you off photos for life.

#15 snuffles

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:40 AM

That is weird.

Some random guy approached me in the shopping centre yesterday and asked if I ever shopped at X shopping centre (not the same one, but nearby)?  I said yes, sometimes?  He asked if I'd heard of their rewards program.  He wasn't in any sort of uniform or with a stall or anything, he was following me into woolies.  


#16 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 21 December 2012 - 10:45 AM

Very odd

I think shes lucky she got you and not someone like me,

I would have literally laughed in her face, then asked her what she would have done if I had been through something and broke down into a bumbleing mess right there.

#17 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 21 December 2012 - 11:00 AM

Wow, weird.

#18 Domestic Goddess

Posted 21 December 2012 - 12:03 PM

Those photography stalls never talk to me when I walk past them on my own. Yet when DS is with me, they already start walking towards me when I haven't even come close. As soon as they says "Hi, would you...." I cut them straight off "No, no money and have plenty of photos already. Cheers!"

#19 Holidayromp

Posted 21 December 2012 - 12:11 PM

QUOTE (Domestic Goddess @ 21/12/2012, 01:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Those photography stalls never talk to me when I walk past them on my own. Yet when DS is with me, they already start walking towards me when I haven't even come close. As soon as they says "Hi, would you...." I cut them straight off "No, no money and have plenty of photos already. Cheers!"

Keep head down and don't make eye contact......repeat dooooon't make eye contact....

#20 Marchioness Flea

Posted 21 December 2012 - 12:19 PM

I freaking HATE those pop up kids photo stalls! I had one the other week who I saw coming at me so I said" Not thanks" and she then kept going at me saying it's only 10 mins blah blah. I said" I already said no thank you" and kept going.
Then she did it again 5 mins later after I got my boost drink. I was MUCH ruder then I do admit.
If someone says "No Thank you" why would you PERSIST in the spiel? It's asking for a very bad experience for both of us. Even not making eye contact didn't work( I try to avoid looking at them in the hope they won't approach lol).

#21 Hayleymumof3

Posted 21 December 2012 - 12:38 PM

biggrin.gif now my kids are older I don't annoyed by them anymore.  Although I use to tell them that my FIL was a professional Photographer as is my sister if I want decent quality photo's I would use them.(and no my FIL and sister aren't photographers)

#22 SisterMaryElephant

Posted 21 December 2012 - 01:18 PM

I think she was just amusing herself.  It must be a god awful boring job, so I reckon she decided to mess with random strangers' minds.  An over the top story would have been a good idea - give her some entertainment for the day.

Edited by CleverChook, 21 December 2012 - 01:18 PM.

#23 follies

Posted 21 December 2012 - 01:25 PM

QUOTE (CleverChook @ 21/12/2012, 01:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think she was just amusing herself.  It must be a god awful boring job, so I reckon she decided to mess with random strangers' minds.  An over the top story would have been a good idea - give her some entertainment for the day.

What if it was a situation where the OP had been abused? I would have gone off at her, not appropriate.

#24 tle

Posted 21 December 2012 - 02:24 PM

That is weird and beyond inappropriate but I have to admit I find the idea of someone just "not liking photos" very odd too I'm curious to know why. I hate having photos taken of myself but I love them of my kids and other people.

#25 RCTP

Posted 21 December 2012 - 02:37 PM

Sounds like she was bored out of her banana and thought she would try to wind you up when you weren't falling for the sales patter  unsure.gif

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