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#1 Natttmumm

Posted 20 December 2012 - 03:07 PM

Our third baby is due in a few months and I am wondering what my day will be like. I just can't picture it or get my head around it.
DD1 is 5 and starting school
DD2 is 3 and will be home with me except for one day in daycare.
Tell me what I'm in for and please give me any tips on how to juggle everything. DH works long hours so is usually home after kids are in bed. I have some help from mum but not much as she works.  I'm starting to freak out a bit!!!



#2 sophiasmum

Posted 20 December 2012 - 03:22 PM

I had one starting school & the other in day care when DD2 was newborn. The hardest at that time was timing naps & feeds with the school drop offs & pick ups. If one or both was due, I would give her a little feed before we left, and/or I would let her nap in the pram on the walk to & from school, then give her a proper feed and/or proper sleep when we got home. The other thing I found hard was settling her for bedtime, because it would take some time & quite a few goes before she actually stayed down until the next feed. Of course night waking was hard to take, up 2 or more times during the night until she was 5 mths old. Sounds awful, sorry to be such a pessimist, it was, but looking back the time is over before you know it & then they are 1.

#3 ubermum

Posted 20 December 2012 - 03:24 PM

I have one in first year of primary school and one in kinder. My third was born in June and dh works in another state. It is busy. You never stop, but the third just kind of slots in. They also get used to being very flexible. My bub doesn't have a routine at all. I just feed her when she's hungry, change her on the go and get on with everything that we do. She's very good at sleeping in the capsule on our way places and transfers well. She can also stay asleep through screaming and fighting because it is normal noise from her siblings. My advice is if you don't already have a capsule, get one. It is the best money I have spent.

#4 Kay1

Posted 27 December 2012 - 03:31 PM

My third is 4 months now. My oldest is in primary school and DS2 in preschool 2 days a week. DH is out of the house from 8am-8pm most days.

The hardest times I agree are the mornings and bed times. I also find it quite tricky when DS2 is home with me because he wants entertaining and I often just can't so he watches too much tv but he'll live. The other hard thing has been the older kids waking us up. I am often up every 1.5 hours or so overnight and then they are up at 6am - makes me cry if I have just got DS3 down again and could get another hour's sleep but they are crashing around. A noise machine in baby's room (where I sleep mostly) helps a lot.  

Best tips - freeze lots of meals ahead of times. Start teaching your other kids to do things on their own as much as possible - eg. shower, get out of shower (It was great to be able to supervise a shower while feeding baby rather than having to put him down all the time etc), make a sandwich, get milk cups out and ready etc. Also get friends to do as many school drop offs and pick ups as possible. I had very generous school mums do this for me in the early weeks and it was a life saver. The capsule is an absolute necessity. I hired one with a pram that it fit into, an absolute lifesaver. Get your school kid used to the kiss and drop before the baby comes, you will need it some days!

#5 Wyn99

Posted 27 December 2012 - 10:35 PM

Agree with all the PP - mine were 4 and 2 when newborn arrived and I became a single parent when bub was 6 weeks old. Over the past 12 months (bub is now 1) I would recommend:

- capsule for transporting a sleeping bub
- bouncer so bub can watch toddlers play/fight (and a second bouncer for outside)
- cooking ahead double quantities and freezing (eg. soups/quiches/muffins etc that can be reheated quickly for toddler dinners & snacks)
- forget a feeding/sleeping/washing routine. Third bub has no choice but to 'fit in' with older 2 daycare/preschool schedules
- find a babysitter to help out 4-6pm when bub is having 'arsenic hour'. I had a 19 yo family friend come over alot during the early days. She either held bub for me while I fed/bathed/played with the elder two, or she did it while bub was attached to my breast for what seemed like hours.
- try and get out alone, even once a month. My bookclub night was a great break each month.


#6 imamumto3

Posted 27 December 2012 - 10:46 PM

I had my third just before ds started school, dd was in daycare 2 days a week, 30 mins drive away.  It was hard, but dd2 was a particularly hard baby, waking at least 5 times a night until she was 1.

If dd was due a nap around school pick up time I would park the car at school at let her sleep, while I read a book or dozed.

I also had the ports cot downstairs so I could get put her in there (awake or asleep) while I tended to the others, this was especially handy getting out of the car, I just popped her in there and she was safe.



#7 Alina0210

Posted 27 December 2012 - 11:03 PM

Baby wear - so much easier
Cosleep - no getting up to feed, and I neer felt tired


#8 jess1980

Posted 27 December 2012 - 11:18 PM

I have a 5 & 3 yr old and almost 4month old twins. I'm lucky as my older two are quite independent my 5yr old goes to school and my 3 yr old goes to daycare twice per week. I've pretty much had a routine with my twins since I got home from the hospital of 3 to 4hrly feeds so plan my day around their sleep times. I plan all my meals, get my shopping delivered I'm super organised otherwise nothing would get done you just make it work, I don't really have any help when my hubby is on shift so I have a routine for everything and I started it when I was pregnant




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