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#1 ausbokkie

Posted 19 December 2012 - 03:54 PM

Just wondering if anyone else is feeling the same way. I am 17w pg after 2 m/c over the last year and a bit. The furthest I've made it before is 11w so I'm well and truly beyond that. I have just had a slump in confidence this week - next scan is coming up and I have this terrible feeling that all might not be well. I have been doing so well but thought I felt a few early flutters last week then nothing this week so I wonder whether that might have brought it on.

Just wondering how other people have coped between appointments?

#2 purplygreen

Posted 19 December 2012 - 04:05 PM

You are over the riskiest time. Your baby is probably just having a quiet week. But if you are really worried, go to the emergency room and request a scan. But go during the day, as there will be less of a wait and will be more likely to sneak you in. You'll be waiting for hours if you go in the evening.

Edited by purplygreen, 19 December 2012 - 04:05 PM.


#3 porkchop's mama

Posted 19 December 2012 - 04:09 PM

Congrats ausbokkie!  Know how you feel.

I've taken each day as it came.  8 weeks was the furthest I'd gotten previously and though I was relieved to make it past that this time, the nerves never really went away until well into the second trimester for me.

Things that helped me were:
- remembering that I'd survived 3 previous losses, maybe even thrived and that if it was not meant to be, I would still cope
- some relaxation / meditation using the circle and bloom podcasts
- reminding myself of the stats that the further the pregnancy progressed, the lower the risk of loss given that all my scans this time were great
- writing down affirmations and keeping them at hand
- trying to do lots of non baby centred things with DH

I also didn't buy any baby things until after the 19 week scan and even then paced myself.  That way I had something to buy after each appt with my obs.

Best of luck and look forward to hearing about you bebe in the new year!

XXX

#4 akkiandmalli

Posted 19 December 2012 - 04:15 PM

i lost my DS at 18.5 weeks last year. this pregnancy has been horrible. so far quite problem free but i hang out for the doc appointments and scans to get me through. this week i found out i have feet swelling and high than normal blood pressure. testing for protein on friday to check for PE. once you have experienced a loss it is so hard just to relax and enjoy the pregnancy. i have kept myself busy with work but now school is finished ( i am a teacher) it is marking down weeks on the calender until good friday ( my due date!)
good luck OP

#5 ausbokkie

Posted 19 December 2012 - 04:55 PM

Thank you for the responses. akkiandmalli you've made me freak out a bit! I hope this pregnancy goes well for you. PCM so happy to see that you're nearly there with your pregnancy! All the very best wishes for the coming days/weeks for you. The affirmations and meditation podcasts are a great idea - I actually did that this time while ttc and it really helped so I will get out the ipod again i think.




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