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Toilet training 3 yr old boy..
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#1 Bearynice

Posted 19 December 2012 - 05:38 AM

Hi! I have 3 year old twin boys. 1 of them is showing a fair bit of interest in the potty, wearing undies and has been waking with dry happiest.
He can hold on for a fair bit in the daytime. I have been casually introducing the potty for a while ( just going off his lead really).
Hubby will be around. Bit over Xmas, so I am thinking now would be a good time for me to try Tt one boy.

Tips? Ideas? What worked?

Have read few ideas about just going to undies, no going back to nappies if accident. Get all excited when success.

To reward chart or not?

He has worn undies a few times and wet them. Just keep going? These are my first kids, so I am clueless!

#2 Kasey5

Posted 19 December 2012 - 05:54 AM

With my 2 (singletons, so only one at a time!) i decided on a time where we had a quiet few days, then just went straight to undies. Reminders, or sat them on potty every couple of hours. Praised success in a big way, and supportive of accidents. Use an old towel on car seay or pram if you have to go out, but try and mostly stay home for a few days so you can avoid using pullups, which may confuse the child. I'd hope by 3 it should go pretty smoothly. People have suggested that boys can be harder, but mine was easier than DD, and was completely trained in a couple of days last Christmas. Goodluck!

#3 whale-woman

Posted 19 December 2012 - 05:56 AM

I'd do both at once. I'd just let them run around bare bottomed if it's warm(preferable in the yard to easy mess cleaning). Ask them to sit on the toilet/potty every hour or so. Watch them and if they start to go whip them onto the potty to hopefully catch anything. Give them massive praise if they do anything in the potty, even just catching a drop of pee. We gave a smartie if anything was gotten in the toilet initially. later stickers were better motivation. Give it a few days, preferable just staying at home. I'd only put them in nappies at night, with none during the day, unless you have to go out.

#4 Bearynice

Posted 19 December 2012 - 08:03 AM

Thanks for the tips and encouragement. Will only crack out the nappies at night and see how we go. One of the boys does not want the potty, toilet, undies. I was hoping if his brother was doing it he would copy.

He has already copied him on the potty. I have been told by lots of twin mums to just focus on one. Ten you aren't stressed and less to clean up!

Unfortunately we have just moved, and process of establishing grass, so can't send them out their with no pants!

They are off to 3 yr old kinder next year, where they need to be Tt or in pull ups.

#5 Bearynice

Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:43 PM

We have been trying this tt thing for about a month now. Its been full on. sometimes i think they are getting the idea.. but then they seem to regress.

im thinking of cracking out the bribery again... do you think its a bad thing?? the boys were going pretty well fpr a bit. they have excellent communication skills but the problem seems to be that they dont want to leave what they are doing to go to the toilet [apparantly duplo and matchbox cars are MORE important than visiting the toilet]
they will happily stand there with wet or soiled pants if it means they dont have to leave their activity.

so im thinking the bribery might work... but when do i phase it out??? activities [music, playgroup etc] start back soon and i feel a bit home bound. i don't really want to go to pull ups as i think they would just get lazy and wee in them and we will be back at the start.

the boys are off to 3 year old kinder in a couple of weeks [only for 2 hours in a morning] so i would love it if we could conquer this tt thing a bit by then.

#6 dotty27

Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:59 PM

My son turns 3 on feb 10 and is off to 3 yr old kinder too, he is doing well with Tt, but doesn't like to leave an activity to go I still struggle with this as I know he needs to go, so no help there, but we have used rewards in beginning, ie so many stamps/Stickers and he gets the matchbox car on top if fridge or freddo frog, it work well on the most part

#7 iwanttosleepin

Posted 27 January 2013 - 12:51 AM

yes - bribery is completely acceptable.  i used stickers!

another idea is a single smartie or marshmallow or similar.

mine trained a lot younger so they didn't get the idea of 10 stickers = a toy that i know a lot of people use.  but they did understand the instant gratification of a sticker/lolly.

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