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#1 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:20 PM

Is it just because I don't have kids, or is the "OMG I MUST GET EVERYTHING MY CHILD ASKED FOR" approach to Christmas a little OTT?

Just read in another thead of someone who was stressed to the point of nausea about getting a particular gift a child has asked for.  That seems nuts to me.

Christmas as a kid was very much a "Get what you're given and be grateful" affair.  Of course, mum and dad catered to our interests, but I don't think I ever wrote a list.  I only remember visiting Santa maybe twice?

Especially for young kids (under primary school age) I really don't see the point of freaking out that you can't get them exactly what today's whimsy has dictated they want for Christmas.

Whatever happened to  "Something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read" approach?

#2 EssentialBludger

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:25 PM

I try to get my kids what they want, but I certainly don't stress if I can't find it/can't afford it. They're always grateful for what they do get and don't even remember on xmas day what they've asked for if it's not there.

#3 BadCat

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:41 PM

I have it easy.  My kids almost never ask for anything.   biggrin.gif

They haven't always gotten what they have asked for though.  Usually if they ask it's something they've seen on tv and it's rubbish.  As they get older they tend not to fall for the advertising and actually think whether there is something they really want.  So now if they ask they usually get.

#4 pinkcupcakes

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:42 PM

not just you. happy.gif

its sad that some kids are being shaped that way. seems a bit spoiled and ungrateful to me too.

#5 morgansacre

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:43 PM

I'm another who usually gets something the girls have asked for, if I can't get it I will look for something else.

Though this year I have had an order for a Chevy Impala model car, it took a few months to come in, but I now have it. I did worry it wouldn't get here in time, but DD would have received it after anyway.

Lynn

#6 =R2=

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:45 PM

I don't get it either.

Seeing that my kids change their Christmas list on an almost daily basis I'd rather get them things that they need, games they can play outdoors or with other people and books that can entertain them longer than a battery operated toy. They have enough toys between them from other family and friends we don't need to get them any.

We know a family who have a no toy policy in their household and their kids are some of the most socially confident and well balanced I've ever met. The one child we know of who gets every toy ever possible bought for her acts like a spoilt brat.

#7 JustBeige

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:46 PM

We dont get everything they ask for.  They know that they wont be getting everything they ask for either.   I do get them to write a list or tell me what their most hearts desire is, but they know its just a "wish list" and thats it.

I dont think I have ever had a year that they have been sad not to get xyz. oh, though for DS it was a bit heavy on the clothes last year and he was a bit "meh" about it.    Lol, we have told him thats all he is getting this year.

#8 BadCat

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:48 PM

I always tell them they're getting nothing but socks and undies.  Oddly enough they don't believe me.  laughing2.gif

#9 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:53 PM

I got pajamas EVERY year.  They were my favourite thing, second only to the 4-5 books I got every year (and had read by NYE Tounge1.gif )

It's the "My kid asked Santa for .... and now I HAVE to find ...." that makes me go huh.gif

NO YOU DON'T.  They probably don't need it, anyway!

#10 Starrydawn

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:56 PM

Sometimes there's nothing like the joy on a kids face when they get something they really wanted.

If you don't want to, can't or have another present organised that is fine as well.






#11 BadCat

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:57 PM

Yeah I'm with you NapCat.

I remember one year there were these weird trampoline shoes that were being advertised relentlessly.  My kids wanted them.  I didn't buy them because I knew they would be rubbish.  They weren't overly disappointed and when I showed them some reviews after christmas about just how useless they were they were positively grateful.



#12 luke's mummu

Posted 18 December 2012 - 02:59 PM

Oh yeah every year my son asks for a DS or a x-box etc. And every year we say no Santa doesn't bring those and we can't afford it.

He brings home from school lists of Christmas wishes - I'm not sure who encourages that, but I hate it! We always asked Santa for 1 present and that was all.

#13 snuffles

Posted 18 December 2012 - 03:01 PM

Mine write endless Christmas lists, LOL.  I treat it as a 'wish list', they may or may not get some things from the list.  They know that.  But it does give me some ideas!  I would not ever feel that I HAD to get any particular item, that is a bit OTT.



#14 Canberra Chick

Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:30 PM

DD asked for a pink watering can and a hello Kitty pencil. DS asked for bright socks, lego and Mr Men books. I figure I can try to give them what they asked for.

#15 Ninja Lemur

Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:36 PM

QUOTE (=R2= @ 18/12/2012, 03:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We know a family who have a no toy policy in their household and their kids are some of the most socially confident and well balanced I've ever met. The one child we know of who gets every toy ever possible bought for her acts like a spoilt brat.


Is that as simple as it sounds?  What are their beliefs around toys?

I try to resist the stuff I absolutely wanted as a child but never got.  Because that's all about me and not them.

I try to get what I think they will get lots of enjoyment from rather than lose interest in five monutes.  Knowing what they want can be very hlepful but it's not a strict list.



#16 fionah

Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:40 PM

Our kids wrote a list. It has given me ideas, and I have a few things off there, but they have been told many times that just because its on the list, doesn't mean they will get it. They just have to wait and see original.gif

Fi.

#17 *melrose*

Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:42 PM

If my kids want something and i have look in a few different shops and still cant find it then i wont get it. There is no way i am running around for weeks trying to get it.

#18 somila

Posted 18 December 2012 - 05:05 PM

QUOTE (fionah @ 18/12/2012, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Our kids wrote a list. It has given me ideas, and I have a few things off there, but they have been told many times that just because its on the list, doesn't mean they will get it. They just have to wait and see original.gif

Fi.

I asked them to write a wish list this year.  Same deal - you won't get everything on it, but it helps me shop.  When they were little and still believed in Santa I'd just have to work it out myself.

#19 Super Cat

Posted 18 December 2012 - 06:46 PM

I remember one year when I was about six years old. All I wanted was this baby doll I saw in the toy shop. It had a dummy and when you pulled it out the doll cried. I was in love with that doll and wanted it so badly. I came from a home where there wasn't a lot of money but we were always happy and excited about whatever it was we got for Christmas.

Christmas morning I woke up and opened my presents. I got the doll. I was THE happiest kid on the planet that day. So, I can understand why some parents might want to recreate that experience for their kids, however I think I was so happy because it was pretty rare for us to get what we'd asked Santa for. I always loved my presents but they were rarely the ones I wanted. That year Dad must have earned a little more than usual because looking back that doll was pretty expensive.

All my boys want yhis year are 'Skylanders'. They're not getting them, but I know they'll be thrilled with their iPad mini's. If they still want Skylanders next year they can have them. Im pretty sure they'll feel the same way about the Skylanders as I did a out that doll because they're not going to be expecting them.




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