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#1 Want_to_be_a_mummy

Posted 18 December 2012 - 08:19 AM

Hi all
I just have some concerns about my 4 month old. He's quite happy most of the time but really startles to noise. E.g. when the vacuum turns on - he is almost jumping out of his skin. He is not startling as much as he did when he was really little bit just wondering if having fears is normal in a little bub. I have a toy that plays lullaby music (quite relaxing) and he cries every time!! Does anyone else have similar experience?

#2 Something Witty

Posted 18 December 2012 - 08:51 AM

Hi,
My little one is similar. He startles and cries to certain sounds as well, like if I blip my lips or talk suddenly to someone when he is feeding. I assume it's all okay. He also jumps to movement as well, e.g. if I move suddenly when changing him. He is also 4 months. I just try and be mindful of what I am doing so as to not startle him too much. I guess it's trickier in your case with the vacuuming, although could be a good excuse to get a cleaner and you leave the house biggrin.gif .
All the best.

#3 Jenflea

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:01 AM

My daughter STILL doesn't like some  loud noises and she's 2.5. Their hearing is way more sensitive than ours don't forget, and have only had a few short months to get used to all sorts of sounds and experiences we take for granted.
Totally normal!

#4 Justaduck

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:06 AM

DD started being scared of the vacuum noise around 6mths I think & the other day I got out one of her toys that she hadn't played with in a while (Lamaze Dalmatian) and she just burst out crying at it.


#5 ubermum

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:10 AM

First child? I ask because I am assuming that for the majority of time, your house is pretty quiet. I have a 6mo, my third. She doesn't startle for anything, not even blood curdling screams when the other two fight, but she has been listening to that since she was an egg.

#6 Readee

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:10 AM

Sounds pretty normal. My baby was like this for a while when she was younger.

The main thing that I think helped was to give her lots of smiles and talk about the noise in a calm voice ('Oh, that was a loud sneeze, but it's nothing to worry about etc'). At 6 1/2 months now she'll still sometimes look to me to see if a loud noise is something to worry about, but the immediate fear and crying response is mostly gone.

As for the vacuuming, I just get my partner to take her for a walk when it needs to be done (or I walk her and he vacuums.

#7 LovenFire

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:16 AM

Lol, I have a 2.5 year old boy.  He panics at the vacuum cleaner, the food processor, the blender, the lawn mower, any electric tools ... Sigh

Has done so since he was a kid and is so genuinely terrified of the noise.  Loves watching the lawns being mowed, loves watching people use electric tools, but he wants to be inside with the doors shut so it isn't as loud.

No real advice, just sympathy

#8 BetteBoop

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:29 AM

When DD was around that age, I couldn't take her to crowded shopping centres because she would become inconsolable.

That fear of noise lasted until she was around 18 months old.

And the odd thing is, we tried hard to get her used to noise. When we was a newborn, we used to sit her bassinet in the lounge room while we watched movies turned up loud. We never tip toed around of quietened our voices when she was sleeping.

#9 chicken_bits

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:42 AM

Not sure about 'normal', but definitely common.

DD is petrified of the dustbuster, hairdryer, the sound of packing tape being ripped and (as we discovered on the weekend) men blowing their noses. I think it's something to do with the sound frequency.

#10 FeralAlpacaWarrior

Posted 18 December 2012 - 10:03 AM

QUOTE (ubermum @ 18/12/2012, 10:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
First child? I ask because I am assuming that for the majority of time, your house is pretty quiet. I have a 6mo, my third. She doesn't startle for anything, not even blood curdling screams when the other two fight, but she has been listening to that since she was an egg.

This, except unlike Ubermum DD2 (4 mo) only has one sibling, an almost 3 yo sister, but she makes enough noise for everyone. DD1 was startled by noise and hated vacuum cleaners, blenders, mowers and food processors, but DD2 couldn't care less.

#11 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 18 December 2012 - 10:04 AM

My 9 month old bub jumps and then cries at sudden loud noises such as aa loud sneeze (husband does this a lot)' he's getting b enter with the sudden noises though. He does 't like the vacuum cleaner or the stick blender I use for his food and cries when they are being used.

#12 chickenpants

Posted 20 December 2012 - 10:31 AM

My 12 week old really only startles if I blow my nose (grr, hayfever) or talk suddenly while he's snoozing on my chest.

I work(ed) at a cafe so he is used to the sound of coffee machines, register pings, food processors, blenders and general rabble.. so now each time I go back I can park him right by the register/kitchen and he sleeps like the dead - I guess the grinder and psssssshh  of the coffee machine is his white noise.

The vacuum noise must be similar because I can have him in his bouncy chair asleep and can vacuum around him with no problems.

Also, he's fine with dog noise considering I have 2, my sister has 2, and my parents have 3 (Christmas with 7 dogs is always fun.)

#13 ~Supernova~

Posted 20 December 2012 - 10:33 AM

Up until recent weeks, DS would get hysterical anytime DH used the drill, or I used the food processor. DH was devastated and thought it would last, and he could never join him in the "mancave" LOL. He still clings to me, but he is getting much better. And this is in a house with an extremely loud 7yr old...

#14 PurpleNess

Posted 20 December 2012 - 11:14 AM

My DS reacts to loud laughing, mainly in groups of people, he gives me a frightened look, drops the bottom lip & cries. He's just turned 1 & we noticed this around 6 months old.
He's fine with vac and other household appliances, used to smile ear to ear when i pureed his food, just the loud laughing or sudden changes in pitch.

He's getting better, he didn't cry when everyone sang happy birthday though I did ask everyone keep it down a bit :-) I think h e'll grow out of it. Funny really cause he's quite the giggler himself.

#15 tinkster23

Posted 29 December 2012 - 04:20 PM

QUOTE (ubermum @ 18/12/2012, 07:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
First child? I ask because I am assuming that for the majority of time, your house is pretty quiet. I have a 6mo, my third. She doesn't startle for anything, not even blood curdling screams when the other two fight, but she has been listening to that since she was an egg.

Lol. I was thinking this too. My three year old has a habit of screaming this blood curdling scream, both when he's happy or cranky. Ben doesn't flinch. Ever.




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