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Marital bedroom or guest room?


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#1 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:08 PM

Big issue of the day.

We have a couple in their early 20s housesitting for us over Christmas/New Year. They currently live in a share apartment with 3 others so I would expect they will bonk like rabbits when they are at our place.

I want to put them in our bedroom. It is the nicest room, has an ensuite and is the only airconditoned room and our bed is comfy. I don't care about the bonking as I see it like any hotel bed.

DH wants them to go to the guest room which is nice enough, but the bed is a bit small and it does not have aircond or en suite. The idea of them having sex in our marital bed freaks DH out as apparently " it is a special place where our children were conceived".

I think he is being a dramatic prude but I don't want him to have pyschological issues with our marital bed.

Any genius solutions?

#2 ~iMum~

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:09 PM

What he doesn't know won't hurt him wink.gif

#3 Fastrunnydog

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:11 PM

Swap the beds around.

#4 Lorem ipsum

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:13 PM

Could you move the spare bed into your room?

That way they have all the amenities and your bed won't be violated wink.gif

#5 slinky

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:13 PM

they will do it in your bed anyway.


#6 netballgirls

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:14 PM

They will probably do it on the couch and kitchen table too.

#7 *LucyE*

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:14 PM

Luckily, DH and I are on the same page about this. Our bedroom is special and no, house guests will not be welcome to use our room. Even now where it isn't that flash, it's still our room.

#8 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:14 PM

QUOTE (whathousework? @ 17/12/2012, 08:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What he doesn't know won't hurt him wink.gif


He will know! We will fly out early so he will see me making up our bed.

QUOTE (Fastrunnydog @ 17/12/2012, 08:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Swap the beds around.


Ours is a king size and needs 10 people to move it!

#9 MintyBiscuit

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:15 PM

yeah, they'll do it on your bed, and your couch, and your floor wink.gif



#10 Zesty

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:15 PM

Would putting an extra mattress protector on the bed help out your DH or is this a psychological hurdle he will struggle with for all eternity? Tounge1.gif

#11 MotherClucker

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:17 PM

LOL even if you put them in the other room there is a 99% chance that they will do it on your bed anyway Tounge1.gif
Ahh the 20s...

#12 Nanaimo Girl

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:18 PM

QUOTE (netballgirls @ 17/12/2012, 09:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
They will probably do it on the couch and kitchen table too.


Don't forget the washing machine, kitchen bench and outside!

#13 Zesty

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:19 PM

Ask him which he prefers:  your bed or the kitchen counters....

#14 Chardonnay Buffay

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:21 PM

haha this is gold!

We went on holidays earlier in the year - had a couple in their early twenties house sit - we gave them our bedroom and I'm absolutely certain they bonked on every surface in our house! They also had a pool party, they really should have cleaned up so we didn't know. Empty beer & vodka bottles coupled with sticky floors will give it away every time.....

Anyway I digress....I went over the house with a bucket of bleach & DH and I are fine with it. If they sold a waterproof mattress protector in king size I would feel better though!!!

#15 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:21 PM

Honestly, I think the person with the lower comfort level in these types of situations should get their way.

There's no reason why they can't still use the ensuite - but I'd rather put my DP's needs above the comfort of random houseguests. It's not like you're asking them to sleep on the floor in the sauna, the spare room will be fine particularly if you have a fan you can put in there.

As far as them boinking in your bed anyway - I would hope that they would respect your wishes not to use that particular bed, and if not then at least your DH can assume for himself that they only stayed on the guest bed.

#16 ubermum

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:21 PM

If I was a 20 something housesitter, I would wait till you leave and then take the master suite with ensuite. No way would I be in the smaller bedroom without aircon when there was a super bonking room free up the hallway. I would have just made sure to wash your sheets the a day or two before you got home, and spent the last night in the guest room. I probably would have bonked in the kitchen, on the lounge, in the backyard and in your ensuite shower as well.

#17 Chocolate Addict

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:22 PM

May as well put them in your room as they will probably bonk on every item of furniture and in your shower! wink.gif

#18 lamarque

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:22 PM

I'd be bleaching the shower too...  biggrin.gif

#19 MintyBiscuit

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:23 PM

Can you just buy new sheets? Or wash the ones you've left for them multiple times?

#20 *Caro*

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:23 PM

Oh I miss my housesitting days wink.gif

#21 GoodGollyMolly

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:23 PM

Ah house sitting in your early 20s...those were the days original.gif

OP you know it's going to happen!  

Can you just ask the couple to keep the room exactly as you left it so your DH can happily believe They didn't go in there?

#22 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:27 PM

Oh and FTR, when DP was housesitting and I was visiting her from interstate in the first year of our relationship, we slept on the sofa bed because DP was asked not to stay in the guest bed. IMO it would have been disrespectful in the extreme to use the bed as we were asked not to.

So no, not all 20-somethings will bonk all over the house including in your bed.

#23 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:28 PM

If I was sleeping at someone else's house I wouldn't want to sleep in or have sex in their marital bed anyway. I'd put them in the guest room.




#24 MummyHILI

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:31 PM

I'm with your DH.  I would give them the guest room and lock the door to the master bedroom  wink.gif

#25 SeaPrincess

Posted 17 December 2012 - 08:37 PM

QUOTE (Dabri @ 17/12/2012, 06:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh and FTR, when DP was housesitting and I was visiting her from interstate in the first year of our relationship, we slept on the sofa bed because DP was asked not to stay in the guest bed. IMO it would have been disrespectful in the extreme to use the bed as we were asked not to.

So no, not all 20-somethings will bonk all over the house including in your bed.

Finally someone else who would sleep in the bed they were allocated! I spent 3 months house sitting with 2 friends in a massive house.  None of us ever even went into the owners' or their daughter's bedroom, even when we had friends come to stay. There were other rooms we never used as well, mainly so we wouldn't ever have to clean them!

Edited by SeaPrincess, 17 December 2012 - 08:39 PM.





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